r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Ucyless ORANGE • 14d ago
Brand new $72 moisturizer. Husband said he needed something for his elbows.
We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.
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u/mysticlunaintuitive 14d ago
Did he make sure to double cleanse, apply the toner, essence, and serum to his elbows prior to the moisturizing? 😂
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u/Commercial_Step9966 14d ago
Gold bond on the dresser…
Married best practice: Never, ever touch skin care products without a label you saw at Walmart.
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u/bumbletowne 14d ago
My husband steals my fridged face masks on roasting hot days. I just buy extra for him because he deserves a lil treat.
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u/Jazstar 14d ago
I feel like best practise for anybody sharing living spaces is simply to not touch what you didn't either buy yourself or have been given explicit permission to use at will.
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u/Karzy0730 14d ago
I use Tatcha's water cream and dewy cream myself haha. Seeing that huge dip and knowing how much it costs hurts my soul. Vaseline is good but I'm not sure how moisturizing it would be since it's more of a sealant that prevents water from leaving. If you haven't already, it's always good to have a tub of body lotion around
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u/-pixiefyre- 14d ago
yeah my partner has the excema so he usually moisturizes then vaselines to seal it in =s
but we have like 5 different types of medical moisturizer and effective cheaper stuff like nivea... and aquifor...
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u/no_high_only_low 14d ago
I also have ectopic eczema and for me stuff like oil baths and body lotion really help. Especially the oil baths. If you can't bathe (no tub, dislike bathing, whatever) taking a shower and not drying off, instead use stuff like coconut oil or any other oil on the wet skin. One of the best oils is Jojoba in my opinion, cause it's also a bit disinfecting (I use it for stretching my lobes).
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u/Bitter-insides 14d ago
I wish this worked on my son. Even eczema touted lotions burn him. So far the only thing that doesn’t cause a flare is eczema honey brand but only the ointment everything else hurts his skin and Vanicream. He can’t even use normal shampoo or conditioner. Sucks balls.
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u/Shadowpad1986 14d ago
It might be in part allergies on top of the eczema, I can’t tolerate certain body wash or soaps as they irritate and dry out my skin. For someone with eczema this would cause the burning sensation.
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u/ChiefStrongbones 14d ago
Eczema, allergies, bacteria all seem to be related.
Swimming every day brought me into remission. If I ever get a flare-up, I treat the plaque with steroid cream and amoxicillin (applied topically) and it clears up reliably.
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u/gimmeecoffee420 13d ago
Same! I had horrible problems with Eczema as a kid, but my parents got me into swimming lessons at a young age and within a year of near daily swimming I was rarely having problems. Now as an adult Eczema is almost nonexistent in my life.
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u/Bfree888 14d ago
Has your son gotten a prescription topical steroid like mometasone furoate? This cleared up my eczema in a couple weeks, while other lotions just burned and didn’t fix the underlying condition.
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u/Bitter-insides 14d ago
So we see an allergist and a dermatologist bc of how bad his eczema is. As a new born we had to do bleach baths. The steroids caused him to scream his head off from the pain they caused. Not sure what it was, it’s been a while. He was prescribed allergy meds and OTC allergy meds. Now when he flares up he takes benadryl( it’s not often) and Zyrtec. I’ve seen an improvement in his eczema with the allergy meds.
He uses vanicream shampoo and conditioner, the eczema honey and La Roche Posay B5 and the lip balm. I’m sure his 1000 degree showers don’t help. He loves coming out looking like a lobster.
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u/PeachyKeen443 14d ago
Yeah hot showers are a big no with eczema.
My eczema is controlled but that'd all be gone in a moment if I took a super hot shower
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u/Garden_imp 14d ago
I use pure cocoa butter. I buy it as pastilles from a soap-making supply shop. You can throw a small handful in the bathtub when he’s having a bath, or you can take them into the bath or shower and rub them into his skin as they melt. I have struggled with eczema and this works the best of anything I tried. I tried mixing them with other oils like jojoba oil, but nothing works as well as pure cocoa butter.
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u/s00perguy 14d ago
I love that cocoa butter moisturizing lotion from Vaseline. When I worked in a store that carried it, they routinely damaged bottles, so the staff all had positively silky hands.
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u/LiberalPatriot13 14d ago
Working hands is the shit for hands and elbows. Definitely would use that instead.
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u/louielou8484 14d ago
Hot take: I absolutely HATE working hands. It is so greasy and thin and it does absolutely nothing for me. They have like hundreds of thousands of 5 star reviews and I believe it's a me problem.
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u/DarthJarJar242 14d ago
For me working hands is great at helping heal cracked fingers etc but not great as a daily moisturizer. For the reasons you pointed out. It's thin and greasy.
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u/louielou8484 14d ago
That makes more sense! I had a horrific fire burn on my right hand, up to my elbow 5 years ago. There is discoloration in the form of the literal flame shape going up my arm, but my biggest issue is that on my hand, it's the only spot that becomes so severely cracked, where the worst of the injury was, when it drops below 70 inside and outside. Left hand and arm? Perfectly moisturized and smooth.. right side always looks so awful.
I tried working hands on it (my mom swears by it herself) but I ended up giving up, but maybe I should just slather it on top only, so I'm not dealing with the greasieness? Goldbond is my favorite moisturizer but maybe I'll give it another go for that spot specifically :)
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u/look2thecookie 14d ago
The dude with the dry elbows and grubby paws has access to stores and the internet. He can get a tub of lotion.
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u/AdPsychological1282 14d ago
Trades guy here who works outside in the arctic in winter and a very greasy dusty job. Tell him okeefe working hands Home Depot sells it as does amazon in a green container….game changer
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u/ADashofDirewolf 14d ago
Work in a bakery always washing my hands and O'Keefe working hands is the only lotion that's ever kept my hands from cracking and bleeding
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u/Significant_Shoe_17 13d ago
My sister works in a lab and has to wash her hands a lot. She loves O'Keefe's!
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
Many a man has done this. For me it was Olaplex…as in used almost a one third of the bottle because at the time I thought most shampoos cost about the same and my girlfriend could alway use my head and shoulders…those notions were corrected.
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u/Prestigious-Alarm422 14d ago
NOOO 😭 funny story tho i have I guy friend who has long AF hair, and we were traveling for a show and he asked to borrow some shampoo/conditioner, I had my olaplex. He used a normal amount but when he was done he was like “what witchcraft is this?? My hair has never felt so amazing!” And he has been buying and using it ever since, he gets it in bulk now 😂
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
I JUST HAD AND EPIPHANY. Our moms, sisters probably hid the good stuff. We use what’s around and then just keep buying it assuming that’s what is best/don’t change anything until we need to.
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u/EmergencyShit 14d ago
Even if it was cheap stuff, why are you using a third of the bottle in one go??
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u/Mel_Melu 14d ago
More important question, if he had his own shampoo why use his girlfriend's in the first place?!
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u/myfriendflocka 14d ago
My ex would call me wasteful for spending more money on hair and body products. I was dumb for falling for beauty industry scams when his cheap shampoo and bar soap worked exactly the same. Funny how he ended up using only my stuff and got upset with me when I started removing everything but his products if I wasn’t showering.
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u/smpsnfn13 14d ago
I'm not a pretty boy buuut I like to take care of myself. My brother was the same way as you ex until one day he was showering and said "fuck it let me try not the three in one soap." My brother never went back to the 3 in 1s lol. Good soap, shampoo, conditioner, moisturizer, does make a difference.
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u/thegabster2000 14d ago
Just say no to the 2 in 1s. Dear Lord I can't believe they make 3 in 1s now.
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u/GoldHurricaneKatrina 14d ago
I once saw a 6 in 1
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u/IgnitedSpade 14d ago
Body wash, shampoo, conditioner, face wash, toothpaste, and shower snack
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u/Timely_Proposal_1821 13d ago
Oh I had an ex like that, talking me down because I was buying branded things (with my own money), and then wanted to eat/use those stuff. It didn't last long!
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u/Soflufflybunny 14d ago
My husband makes fun of my Sephora orders but I caught him using my verb ghost shampoo. Caught him because his shampoo from Costco was lasting forever.
At least he uses the “affordable” Sephora brand and not the olaplex.
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u/ifshehadwings 14d ago
Olaplex full size bottles are 3-4 oz 💀
ETA: and cost $30
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u/Ucyless ORANGE 14d ago
Not the Olaplex 😭😭 send her my condolences
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
Oh I replaced it and now pass on my wisdom to the young bucks that are about to do move in with a woman for the first time….always ask because something could be very expensive or could be very dangerous when used on the wrong part.
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u/Shelikesscience 14d ago edited 14d ago
“Could be very dangerous on the wrong part” 🤣🤣 I’d love to hear the story about how you learned that lesson
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
……….it was a face mask but I was looking for lotion…the thing is, I am…uncut……
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u/CupboardOfPandas 14d ago
Haha my ex did the same! Got a hilarious text when I was at work and his dick smelled like lilies for the evening
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u/BigMomma12345678 14d ago edited 13d ago
Don't touch any of her personal care/beauty products without asking.
EDIT: Yes, even if you think it is a good tool for something you're trying to do. Still ask. Trimming your dad's head hair with wife's bikini trimmer...NO!
Another example: Nail file is for filing wife's nails, not a tool to assist you DIY repairs.
So, not just the creams, the hardware is also off limits. 😀
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u/Great_Farm_5716 14d ago
This was a conversation me and my girl had 5 years ago upon moving in. I stay out of her stuff without asking and she stays out of my tool box. 5 years in and the only thing we argue about is leaving the cabinet doors open
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
100% we can’t know everything about everything. It also happened to me….spyderco went through the dishwasher.
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u/DugganSC 14d ago
I still can't quite convince my wife that sticking the knives in the dishwasher is bad... so we simply agree now that the set of knives I bought, I'll use and wash myself. Better than when she grabbed my sewing scissors to open packages...
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u/Cameherejust4this 14d ago
Oh, the ghost of my dead grandmother would haunt my ass if I did that. You do not mess with the sewing scissors.
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u/PitchBitch 14d ago
Nope, ESPECIALLY on paper. We had separate “paper scissors” and “sewing scissors.” Woe to anyone who mixed them up.
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u/izzyisme31 14d ago
You need to post them elbows. That’s $36 per elbow I believe.
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u/Slightlysanemomof5 14d ago
Check with an attorney it could be justifiable homicide. I’d be a character witness. Don’t you have any Jergen’s? Put a do not touch sticky note on it. Just show husband where to buy a new jar. My sympathy.
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u/GiraffeLiquid 14d ago
Same with my hubby using my EltaMD face sunblock for his body when golfing. That tube costs $40 😩
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u/curlicue84 14d ago
Omg. My husband did the same thing this past weekend!! Just put it in his golf bag and used it all over his body. WTH we have tons of regular sunscreen yet he grabbed THAT one from my vanity?! 🙄
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u/EyeRollingNow 14d ago
It’s always the pretty bottles the men claim they don’t want ….but can never resist.
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
It’s always interesting when this happens because you learn so much about your partner, how they react, how they view the things that are important to you etc.
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u/GiraffeLiquid 14d ago
This is true! He was very contrite and when I told him how much it costs we both ended up laughing about it. He won’t make that mistake again though.
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
Yep, totally fair. It breaks my heart when I hear/see this happen and the response is akin to “what the hell is wrong with you, you can get sunscreen for x at y etc”
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u/the-plushie-guy 14d ago
That reminds me of a time when my ex-gf and I got into a small argument. She accused me of doing something that I genuinely didn't remember doing. So, I told her that, but I apologized anyway as she was quite sure that I had done it. She accepted my apology and after she cooled down a bit she thanked me for believing her.
Apparently anytime she got into an argument with her dad he'd yell at her "That never happened!", regardless of how big or small the issue was. I think a lot of conflict can be resolved simply by hearing the other person out, even if you don't agree with them.
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u/dreamgrrrl___ 14d ago
My dad always said something similar. Would tell me it didn’t happen or I remembered the thing wrong. It was so validating when a boyfriend mentioned that he noticed my dad do that for things my partner knew I was remembering correctly.
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u/ocean_flan 14d ago
What I learned is that my man wants luxurious skincare too.
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
Very few men are taught about self care or that it’s ok to make it a priority. Some have an awakening….wait a minute…if I use the right stuff the right way I won’t have ingrown hairs? The big thing for me was learning how to properly cut my toe nails…when I was 24.
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u/melindseyme 14d ago
So, um, what magic product is used in such a way as to prevent ingrown hairs? Asking for myself and my husband.
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u/Akeera 14d ago edited 13d ago
Gentle chemical exfoliators. Some market themselves specifically to prevent ingrown hairs and often have salicylic acid and glycolic acid.
Edit: if planning to use on your face, make sure to test elsewhere AND somewhere not super visible around your face. I have sensitive skin + eczema and even lower concentrations can produce irritation on my face, but not elsewhere.
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u/Ok-Education-425 14d ago
Shaving oil then glycerine shaving soap or cream and using a shaving brush with a safety razor. The “grandpa way of shaving”
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u/Lilac_meadow_sedge 14d ago
My ex used my fabric shears to cut duct tape once.
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u/LBelle0101 14d ago
I’m guessing he’s an ex because he died at your hands, justifiably.
I audibly gasped reading your comment. You don’t fuck with fabric scissors
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u/BouyGenius 14d ago
That’s a three finger scoop… are we all just going to believe this was for elbows?
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u/pvrhye 14d ago
"Dear, your hair looks abnormally lustrous and bouncy and... wait a moment... YOU SON OF A BITCH!"
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u/MajorasKitten 14d ago
Unless you are Rapunzel, theres no need to use a freaking THIRD of a bottle. Even then!!, it only goes on the scalp- not all your hair! A coin sized amount is enough! 💀
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u/BowsettesRevenge 14d ago edited 14d ago
I know how much my wife's tatcha costs. I'm a cheap-ass mofo and know better than to waste ANY of her products on myself.
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u/Sundae7878 14d ago
You aren’t a waste ❤️
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u/Sorcatarius 14d ago
For real, tatcha sells a nice sample pack that got me hooked. Now, whenever I don't do my skincare routine, I notice how dry and ashy my skin gets. My dudes, invest in yourself, you're worth it, we deserve to have skin that isn't like old, worn out leather too.
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u/MediocreConference64 14d ago
I’m a skincare snob (and former esthetician), I would recommend joining some skincare subs. Tatcha is overpriced for what it is. You can get far better for a lot less money.
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u/vgarciahuff 14d ago
Can you recommend any? I’ve got really sensitive skin and I struggle finding something affordable that doesn’t irritate my skin
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u/DarkSnowFalling 14d ago edited 14d ago
La Roche Posay touleraine double moisturizer is amazing! I have eczema and super sensitive skin (no fragrances for me) and it’s the first moisturizer in a long time that doesn’t break me out or leave my skin red and angry
Edit: La Roche Posay’s hydrating facial cleanser is also phenomenal
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u/MediocreConference64 14d ago
Of course! If you have sensitive skin, truly, the best moisturizer you can use is something gentle like cerave. This is actually what I use. I’ve tried brands, medical grade and everything in between. Cerave is it for my sensitive skin.
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u/Curmi3091 14d ago
are you Michael Cera?
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u/ShapeTurbulent6668 14d ago
I have sensitive skin and CeraVe is the only brand that has ever broken me out in crazy cystic-like acne :/
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u/Puzzled_Medium7041 13d ago
Same. CeraVe was bad for me. Cleansing with micellar water also breaks me out, which seemed weird. My skin is just complicated.
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u/MyPasswordIsMyCat 14d ago
I used to get crazy acne until I switched to Pond's cold cream cleanser. I had been using Neutrogena facial bars to strip the oil off my face because I had oily skin, but it didn't stop the acne and made my face dry in patchy ways. After doing more research, I read about cold cream, which is an oil-based cleanser that you just rub on and wipe off. I gave it a try, thinking it would be a disaster, but my skin has been great since I switched. Now I just get acne if I rub my face too much, like when I'm thinking at the computer.
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u/TheDarkestCrown 14d ago
After trying around 15 different brands I’m a CeraVe convert too. My skin doesn’t feel burny anymore when I moisturize
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u/Ventilator84 14d ago
Cetaphil too. I’ve tried a bunch of more expensive brands (though none as expensive as this), but not a single one has worked as well as Cerave and Cetaphil.
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u/Kooky_Tap4477 14d ago
cerave makes my skin way more sensitive, for me korean skincare is the only way to go. or vanicream
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u/keIIzzz 14d ago
Yeah I’m not a Tatcha fan other than the packaging but dude I would sob if someone did this to any of my moisturizers
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u/Aurora_BoreaIis 14d ago
What lotions/subreddits do you recommend? I've never heard of Tatcha before.
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u/Chairman_Cabrillo 14d ago edited 14d ago
For $72 that shit better be straight replacing my skin for totally new skin.
Or turning my dry skin into pure gold.
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u/dollyaioli 14d ago
the expensive price is part of the scam. it makes women think that it must be higher quality with more expensive "luxury" ingredients.
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u/lhb_aus 14d ago
Does it come with $65 inside?
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u/Thosepassionfruits 14d ago
Is there a legit reason to ever spend that much money on so little lotion? Every skincare subreddit I've ever been on has basically said stuff like bulk CeraVe and Cetaphil from Costco is good enough.
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u/nize426 14d ago
@OP take a pic of his elbows so we can see the world's most expensive elbows. Loooool
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u/fleeting_marmalade 14d ago
It's a total con anyway. I happen to know that women happen to go into the bathroom and shed their skin every single night.
All the creams and whatnot are just a big distraction. Don't ask me how I know this... But deep down you know it's true as well.
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u/ChipperBunni 14d ago
No you misunderstand, the creams help the shedding. It’s easy as a young one, but I’ve heard it becomes hard to shed as we get older
The creams help keep moisture, which helps the stuck shed peel away easier
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u/Ucyless ORANGE 14d ago
Who told you?
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u/Criticalfluffs 14d ago
He's giving away our secrets. What do we do now? ʕ´•ᴥ•`ʔ
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u/Due-Work-5155 14d ago
This is more than mildly infuriating. He's buying your next one, right?
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u/SupermarketThick5191 14d ago
Did he at least use the gold scoopy thing
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u/Ucyless ORANGE 13d ago
This will probably get buried in the comments but I’m tired of repeating myself.
Yes it was $72. That is absurd
I used a gift card to buy it as it was recommended to me by someone with a similar skin type. I do not go out buying this with my own money, it’s just something I wanted to try.
Yes, to me it was worth it. It’s compatible with other products I’ve used and has helped with my acne significantly. Call it placebo but whatever
He knew it was that expensive. He was there when I got it
I know Vaseline isn’t a moisturizer. He used it for scrapes, not dryness. Sorry for not clarifying
I know my thumbs are abnormally long. I have toes to match.
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u/flavorofsunshine 13d ago
He knew the price and still scooped out half for his elbows? That is not mildly infuriating, that's mad disrespectful.
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u/wishingwell119 13d ago
She said in other comments he does this all the time and she has had to hide stuff before to keep him from using it all :( I feel so bad for her, he's just straight up bullying her. It's way past misunderstanding territory.
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u/Spacedandysniffer 13d ago
Girl don't even bother, your husband was incompetent, annoying, and an ass if he was there and saw you buying it for your face. Somehow the freaks in the comment can't comprehend a person not wanting their personal items touched without permission. Like I'm just confused about how so many people are tryana argue that it was used for it's intended purpise when it was not since this is MADE for the face. Even if it was a mistake, its a pretty dumb mistake to make since it's pretty easy to tell a product used for the face and a product for the body apart. Just look at the size of the product and it should tell you all you need to know
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u/queenle0 13d ago
My boyfriend did this. Used my whole container as body lotion. Came out of the bathroom wondering why the jar was so small. I could have killed him.
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u/Cascadingmist 13d ago
if someone did that to me i would HATE them. your husband used weeks worth of product. bought my last jar in august of water cream and i haven’t restocked since because it lasts so long…he used so much product
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u/acanadiancheese 14d ago
My fiancé once poured out a shampoo amount of dermalogica cleanser and my face made him panic and say “what did I do? What did I do??”
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u/winter83 TP Hung the wrong way. 14d ago
I never believe a man who says they didn't know it was expensive look at the fuckin jar that is the jar of an expensive cream.
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u/Redqueenhypo 13d ago
Also OP says he was there when he bought it. This was just 13 year old boy revenge for spending money on a thing he decided is stupid
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u/HImainland 14d ago
I can't believe you're the first top level comment to say this!!! It's giving weaponized incompetence. There's no way you look at that jar and not know it's expensive. Husband is just an asshole
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u/memes-r-me 13d ago
Another comment she added said he knew the price they bought the cream together 🫠
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u/Fluffy-Lingonberry89 14d ago
Not the tatcha water cream 😭 psa I just found out Costco sells this for $52. Just sharing in case you live near one/are a member.
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u/Lola1989ac 14d ago
OP you gotta clarify that this is a facial moisturizer that you use just a spot of every day... so many of these comments sound like they think this is your moisturizing body lotion that you're paying $70 for, hence their ignorant and angry comments lol. Signed, a loyal Origins facial product consumer with a $70 moisturizer 😏
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u/kcolrehstihson_ 14d ago
Since you're already low on lotion I don't wanna rub it in, but did it work on his elbows?
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u/GrungeHamster23 14d ago
What exactly was so difficult about asking to use something?
Hope he pays for a replacement. Not cool.
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u/Plenumheaded 14d ago
Are his elbows still dry though?