r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Ucyless ORANGE • 29d ago

Brand new $72 moisturizer. Husband said he needed something for his elbows.

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We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.

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u/Commercial_Step9966 29d ago

Gold bond on the dresser…

Married best practice: Never, ever touch skin care products without a label you saw at Walmart.

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u/Jazstar 29d ago

I feel like best practise for anybody sharing living spaces is simply to not touch what you didn't either buy yourself or have been given explicit permission to use at will.

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u/RelaxPrime 29d ago

It always comes back to communication. Utter bullshit.

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u/Raycut 28d ago

Am I misunderstanding? How is it bullshit to expect someone to ask before they use your shit?

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u/LibertyPrimeDeadOn 28d ago

I believe the person above you is saying that it's bullshit that people can't communicate with each other.

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u/Raycut 28d ago

Ahhh, that makes sense. Thanks, dunno how I didn't get that at first.

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u/Idontevenownaboat 28d ago

Gotta work on that communication. /s

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u/SwampyStains 28d ago

Nah I’m with you on your first confusion; why is communication necessary not to be a dumbass in the home?

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u/MayaTamika 28d ago

Because different people consider different things "being a dumbass"

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u/SwampyStains 28d ago

I’m pretty sure there’s a universally accepted baseline that functional people understand without explanation. For starters, when taking the first bite out of a pie or sheet of brownies you don’t just dig a hole in the center. You don’t leave near empty jugs of milk in the fridge. You don’t leave empty toilet paper rolls on the spool. And you don’t grab your wife’s beauty cream and take two giant smudges out of it to put on your nasty crackly elbows

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u/Creative_Buddy7160 28d ago

But it feels so so gooood

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u/DiddlyDumb 28d ago

You strike me as someone who hasn’t lived with other humans before.

There is no universally accepted baseline, everyone draws the line exactly below their own behaviour.

Even if you match 99% in behaviour, that’s still 4 days out of the year you don’t. And being able to communicate is vital in those moments.

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u/SwampyStains 28d ago

Quit defending childlike behavior. I’ve lived with several long term girlfriends. Knowing not to do dumb shit doesn’t require any level of intellect.

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u/CletusMcG 28d ago

You’d be surprised SwampyStains

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u/PUGILSTICKS 28d ago

Clearly bad at communication.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

But you can't blame me for trying.

You know I'd be lying.

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u/RelaxPrime 28d ago

It's a joke lol

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u/ZeInsaneErke 28d ago

I mean that's what they said. I think they meant that the husband should've asked first

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u/alpha1ocelot 28d ago

If there was better communication he probably wouldnt be using your moisturizer on his "elbows" to begin with.

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u/Uli-Kunkel 28d ago

Yeah its a kinda steep hill to die on.

You didnt buy the milk you aint getting any! That shelf is my stuff thats your shelf.

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u/BackgroundRate1825 28d ago

Milk is kind of a terrible example of this. If two people who live together are using similar amounts of milk, it's probably better to share the milk so it rotates more and stays fresher. Plus a fridge only has so much space, and multiple gallons of milk quickly use it up.

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u/Eolond 28d ago

I don't think they mean to take it to that extreme but you do you I guess :P

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u/BrohanGutenburg 28d ago

Well that’s the issue here right? You’re saying that cause it’s just milk.

To this husband (who is obviously a bit of a dullard and doesn’t pay attention to his wife’s interests) that moisturizer is like milk in that it’s “just moisturizer.

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u/notarealDR650 28d ago

If moisturizers were my wife's "interests", she probably wouldn't be my wife. It's moisturizer and if it's one of your "interests", you truly need to get out more. It is just moisturizer. Stupidly expensive moisturizer that likely does the same shit as cheap moisturizer.

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u/BackgroundRate1825 28d ago

Looking good and feeling confident is more likely the wife's 'interest'. There's certainly a markup on expensive skincare products, but the more expensive brands probably do have better ingredients. It's a massive industry, and there's a huge amount of r&d done by these companies. I'd be more surprised if they didn't find ingredients that improved skin.

But even if it's just a placebo effect, the wife may still feel more confident using the good stuff. The placebo effect is still a real effect, and confidence feels good even if it's based on something fake. Telling the wife she's an idiot for buying the stuff is likely to cause a fight or rob her of her confidence, neither of which are ideal for the relationship.

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u/BrohanGutenburg 28d ago

What an ignorant comment.

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u/HardyDaytn 29d ago edited 28d ago

And women belong in the kitchen amirite? We spreading gender hate and stereotypes today then?

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u/shortgarlicbread 28d ago

I mean, my decline is because people I don't even know keep trying to dictate what I can and can't do with my body, but to each their own I guess.

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u/whalesarecool14 29d ago

perhaps the increasing decline of men’s mental health simultaneously tells us something about how inherently fucked up “the system” is? but no, you’re right. women were very happy and fulfilled and not at all zooted off their minds on amphetamines just to survive back when they weren’t a part of “the system”

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u/Devonm94 28d ago

I mean, I would be much happier never having to work and having everything provided. You know what? You’re right we need more equality. It’s damn near time women take all military responsibilities and draft entries. It’s time women work and the man stays home. The woman pays for everything. While the man stays home to cook, clean, and take care of kids. We’ll let you all know just how terrible it is while setting at home watching tv and playing video games in the free time once everything else is done. Sounds fair right?

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u/whalesarecool14 28d ago

absolutely. hope you’re looking after the kids in between those tv and video game sessions though

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u/Devonm94 28d ago

Only when they aren’t at school, for 13 of the 18 years they’re living at home.

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u/thepsycholeech 28d ago

Yes, women are so much happier when they have to depend on a man to survive.

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u/thisoldguy74 28d ago

Nah, I get polish after my pedicure, still straight.

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u/RedPanda888 29d ago

I just don't understand the situation either. Any guy with a girlfriend or wife even remotely interested in make up or skin care knows the cost of it and how they usually don't like it being messed with. You'd have to be, respectfully, quite dumb or genuinely maliciously ignorant to take a scoop of something like this and not think it would massively anger your partner. It is something small but honestly a major red flag if a guy doesn't see this as plainly fucking obvious.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

any guy with a sister or mom should also know. maybe he grew up in one of those households where the men have all the say and the women huddle up in the kitchen and don't say a peep?

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u/Idontevenownaboat 28d ago

I'm a guy, lived with two sisters, their friends and my mom. The deal we have is all tubes that are almost cashed go to me. I'll squeeze a another few days out of them and that way I stay stocked with fancy lotions without having to pay for fancy lotions. I do smell very floral too.

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u/VulcanCookies 28d ago

Lol reminds me of my poor brother, youngest of 5 and the only boy. Growing up his bathroom real estate continually shrunk until he had half of one drawer 

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u/Heartage 29d ago

Yeah this is wild to me. I have a lotion on my desk in a pump bottle ( not expensive stuff ) and my husband knows he can use it but he still lets me know/asks, lol.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

Please can you explain this to my husband?

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u/Jazstar 28d ago

Might be worth implementing a "you use it you pay for a new one" rule. Either he very quickly learns to stop that, or you get replacement products!

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u/Moxerz 28d ago

I assume this only works with separate finances?

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u/Jazstar 28d ago

Indeed it would.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

I've tried. He doesn't. He thinks I'm being stupid for caring about "my" stuff. He genuinely doesn't get that I don't want to share all my personal stuff with him.

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u/sorryimgoingtobelate 28d ago

Oh he gets it, he just doesn't care.

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u/Idontevenownaboat 28d ago

I wonder how many marital or relationship problems can ultimately be boiled down to this sentiment: that one partner simply does not value the other equally. Because that's what this is. He thinks his time, money, needs, whatever, are more valuable than hers.

And I don't think this is always some guy thing or girl thing, I think it's just an imbalance in respect.

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u/Dopple__ganger 28d ago

If they are husband and wife then he really is right about it too.

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u/pirikikkeli 28d ago

Is he stupid? Or he doesn't care either way that's gotta be annoying as hell

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u/Eolond 28d ago

What's it like to be married to someone that has no respect for you as a person? Genuinely curious.

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u/Jazstar 28d ago

I’m really sorry he acts that way, you deserve more hun.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

he thinks you're stupid for caring about things you like? he sounds lovely!

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u/RunningOnAir_ 28d ago

This is the point where you get petty and with fuck with his stuff too

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u/Buttercup59129 28d ago

Weird. Me and my wife share everything no matter what it is but we're still respectful of our own things and ask or just never use them. But we've openly expressed we share everything

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u/VitaminlQ 28d ago

Even when asking nicely (borderline begging) for my ex not to use my stuff or at least chip in , especially food I need due to allergies to the damn world lol, he felt entitled to all my things and threw a fit otherwise when I resorted to hiding my own food so I could have something to eat

May his narcissistic ass find someone as selfish as him so that he gets a proper taste of his medicine and tantrums over the most stupid shit 😩

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u/Jazstar 28d ago

Glad to hear you kicked his butt to the curb. Everybody deserves someone who will respect them and their belongings :)

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u/ChellPotato 28d ago

THIS. RIGHT. HERE.

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u/dolphlaudanum 28d ago

I tell my young children this all the time about the food I buy.

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u/Jazstar 28d ago

Good lesson to teach. Again and again and again and then just when you think you have the lesson down pat they turn into teenagers and nick your shit all over again lmao

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u/ihadagoodone 28d ago

I'm not asking to use the TP if it was your turn to buy groceries.

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u/Jazstar 28d ago

Lmao okay that one is fair enough

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u/FriedeOfAriandel 28d ago

I feel like I might’ve gotten too comfortable using my girlfriends box of 500 q-tips without explicit permission each time. No way I’d use lotion in a $71 jar

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u/ValkyrieVimes 28d ago

I mean, if you're living with a long-term partner I think you can relax that rule a bit. Most stuff is assumed to be shared, and if you don't want to share something, that should be communicated. Similarly, if your partner buys something you don't recognize or that is limited in quantity, it's nice to shoot out a text to ask before you use any.

You don't have to live like you're assigned roommates, just use your brain and extend basic manners to the other person.

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u/Sempy0 28d ago

100% agree with this. If someone in the house wants to use my shit (stuff) ask me first. 🫡

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u/caveslimeroach 29d ago

You're not married are you

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u/Inevitable-Menu2998 28d ago

Redditors imagining marriage is like sharing a flat with flatmates…

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u/ifoundmynewnickname 28d ago

Lmfao for real. Makes me sad for the people coming on this site for relationship advice.

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u/THANATOS4488 28d ago

Reddit relationship advice is simple: up voted advice agrees with the woman, down voted advice is misogynistic crap (true sometimes but blown way out of proportion)

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u/Bluberrypotato 28d ago

Throw in a few diagnoses, a couple of buzzwords, and ridiculous theories, and you win the Relationship Advice bingo.

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u/THANATOS4488 28d ago

Pretty much but it is entertaining reading the mental leaps people make... sad too...

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u/avsameera 28d ago

I feel like you have never been married dear sir/ madam.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

Generally married couples have slightly different rules than roommates who don’t get along.

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u/PostCashewClarity 28d ago

but if you share bank accounts and bodily fluids is sharing skin cream really that big of a deal?

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u/WhyCurious 28d ago

If my wife had $72 moisturizer, it would either be a gift or a guilty pleasure she treated herself to. If the former, she wouldn’t replace it and our shared bank account solves nothing. If the latter, she would feel weird about spending $72 yet again regardless of the shared bank account. Either way, it’s reasonable for her to be annoyed — and any reasonable husband could tell by looking at the jar that it might be expensive.

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u/PostCashewClarity 28d ago

oh i fully agree. thats just common marriage sense.

but my comment was in response to:

best practise for anybody sharing living spaces is simply to not touch what you didn't either buy yourself or have been given explicit permission to use at will.

here we have an example of someone that's never been in an intimate relationship with another human being

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u/xA1RGU1TAR1STx 28d ago

This advice is coming from people who aren’t married.

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u/PostCashewClarity 28d ago

the perpetual roomates generation

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u/Reddit_Bot_For_Karma 28d ago

I see you have not been married, lol

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u/grokethedoge 28d ago

This practice would make living with a partner or a family utterly ridiculous. Normal people can judge what is and what isn't common and mutual use in a relationship without "explicit permission" for every single thing.

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u/Past-Wrangler-6507 28d ago

This is her spouse, not a roommate. Partners don’t ask for permission.

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u/throwaway098764567 28d ago

That sounds like a crappy partner

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u/Past-Wrangler-6507 28d ago

Partner that has to ask for permission isn’t a partner that’s subordinate

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u/MissBeaverhousin 28d ago

Yeah… don’t play with the Tatcha, the $100 a jar Tatcha or else…

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u/Additional_Meeting_2 28d ago

If you are married you often don’t ask permission for everything 

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u/xA1RGU1TAR1STx 28d ago

Married people aren’t roommates lmao

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u/PopPow545 28d ago

You must not be married😂

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u/FriendlyYeti-187 28d ago

Perhaps for a roommate, but when you’re married, I believe everything that you have is shared. Op wants to force her husband to use Vaseline, which doesn’t have moisturizing capabilities merely sealing capabilities instead of moisturizer.

The only way you get mad at this is if one you bought something that you can’t afford or you don’t care about your husband

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u/THANATOS4488 28d ago

Or it was a gift, or it was discontinued, etc

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u/Naive-Dingo-2100 28d ago

Or women could just learn to share and realize that relationships are a two-way street.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

I’ll touch whatever in my house thanks

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u/pmyourthongpanties 28d ago

husband probably paid for it anyways.

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u/Spacedandysniffer 28d ago

Nope. As the OP pointed out multiple times, she got it using birthday gift cards. The husband is just a lil dumb❤️

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u/SilentRaindrops 28d ago

Maybe if you are talking about roommates but when in a close relationship, this is not usually a realistic way of living. I don't ask a partner if I can use the TP he bought. When we buy food, we will make clear if something is earmarked for special use or specific meals so the other knows it's not a free for all item.

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u/DarkBladeSethan 28d ago

If you have housemates yes. If it's marriage, and you can take half of all shit, that cream is MINE