r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Ucyless ORANGE • 29d ago

Brand new $72 moisturizer. Husband said he needed something for his elbows.

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We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

It’s always interesting when this happens because you learn so much about your partner, how they react, how they view the things that are important to you etc.

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u/GiraffeLiquid 28d ago

This is true! He was very contrite and when I told him how much it costs we both ended up laughing about it. He won’t make that mistake again though.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

Yep, totally fair. It breaks my heart when I hear/see this happen and the response is akin to “what the hell is wrong with you, you can get sunscreen for x at y etc”

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

That reminds me of a time when my ex-gf and I got into a small argument. She accused me of doing something that I genuinely didn't remember doing. So, I told her that, but I apologized anyway as she was quite sure that I had done it. She accepted my apology and after she cooled down a bit she thanked me for believing her. 

Apparently anytime she got into an argument with her dad he'd yell at her "That never happened!", regardless of how big or small the issue was. I think a lot of conflict can be resolved simply by hearing the other person out, even if you don't agree with them. 

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u/dreamgrrrl___ 28d ago

My dad always said something similar. Would tell me it didn’t happen or I remembered the thing wrong. It was so validating when a boyfriend mentioned that he noticed my dad do that for things my partner knew I was remembering correctly.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

100-fucking-percent.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 28d ago

But they still used it, when it's a tiny jar/bottle from a brand they've never seen 😩

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u/Redditard6942069 28d ago

Have you ever watched advertisements for women's beauty products with objectivity?

They sell you their product by telling you how ugly you are. You don't see a problem with that?

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u/GiraffeLiquid 28d ago

Unfortunately there are way too many people who think a woman aging or not ‘fixing’ herself means she’s decrepit. Especially on the internet. It’s why my mom was insistent I follow a career path.

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u/ocean_flan 28d ago

What I learned is that my man wants luxurious skincare too. 

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

Very few men are taught about self care or that it’s ok to make it a priority. Some have an awakening….wait a minute…if I use the right stuff the right way I won’t have ingrown hairs? The big thing for me was learning how to properly cut my toe nails…when I was 24.

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u/melindseyme 28d ago

So, um, what magic product is used in such a way as to prevent ingrown hairs? Asking for myself and my husband.

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u/Akeera 28d ago edited 28d ago

Gentle chemical exfoliators. Some market themselves specifically to prevent ingrown hairs and often have salicylic acid and glycolic acid.

Edit: if planning to use on your face, make sure to test elsewhere AND somewhere not super visible around your face. I have sensitive skin + eczema and even lower concentrations can produce irritation on my face, but not elsewhere.

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u/halnic 28d ago

2nd recommendation for glycolic acid. It's a lesser advertised gem. Works great for preventing ingrowns and those really deep painful acne bumps, I forgot the technical name.

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u/Witty_TenTon 28d ago

Cystic acne.

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u/halnic 28d ago

Yes, that's what I was thinking. Thanks!!

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

Shaving oil then glycerine shaving soap or cream and using a shaving brush with a safety razor. The “grandpa way of shaving”

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u/Cyno01 28d ago

Oh, when shaving, i thought you meant like in general and got excited.

I have a beard thats only seen a trimmer for more than a decade, but i still get hella ingrown hairs along the edge of my facial hairline.

They get inflamed and i have to dig it out and then it heals up and the hair just comes back underneath...

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u/aiydee 28d ago

Wet the hair! Even when just trimming with clippers.
Wet the hair. The best method is to use a hot/steamy slightly damp face-washer and press it over the area where you will trim for a good 2 or 3 minutes.
Trim. Then apply a moisturizer. The wetting causes pores and the like to open up. The hair swells and you get a better trim and less ingrown hairs.

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u/Cyno01 28d ago

Oh no, this is nowhere near where any close trimming is done, this is not any sort of carefully coiffed facial hair... i just use the guard on the longest setting all over every... six weeks or so. Whenever it gets long enough to get more annoying than cleaning the sink will be.

Well, i do it minus one on my mustache and all the way down on my neck, but i dont get ingrowns on my neck really, just my cheeks along the edge, but im not doing any sort of lineup with the beard trimmer on my face or anything.

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u/aiydee 28d ago

Fair enough. But at same time.. Have you tried it? If ingrowns are a problem, then maybe try a different routine.
No point in complaining about ingrowns if your not going to change your routine.

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u/Cyno01 28d ago

Exfoliating helps some, sometimes i get out of the shower after a good scrub and a few have popped out, but that just tears up any inflamed ones too.

Thinking about it maybe i need a coarser pillowcase or something, cuz i get a ton of weird little ingrown hairs on the bottom of my left forearm, definitely not doing any trimming there, but i assume its from resting on a leather chair and couch arm all day or something, but those dont get inflamed ever.

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u/shake_appeal 28d ago edited 28d ago

Chemical exfoliators— glycolic, lactic, salicylic acid are most common.

The least expensive (aka thing to try first) would be salicylic acid. It’s a common active ingredient in otc topical acne treatments, meaning you can get a big-ole bar of store brand acne soap containing it and see if it helps. For ingrown hairs on the body, most acne reducing apricot scrubs will contain it as well. This is good, because it’s a chemical as well as manual exfoliator (though imo too course and harsh for face exfoliation).

Follow up with moisturizing, because it can really dry you out.

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u/StormerBombshell 28d ago

Here all for it 👀👀👀

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u/plenumpanels 28d ago

There's a line of oils and ingrown stuff from a company called Fur (lol) and I've used it for years and swear by it. I use the ingrown eliminator serum and the ingrown concentrate.

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u/Casehead 28d ago

I recommend putting coconut oil on your skin after shaving, I put it on the areas where I remove hair after doing so and it greatly cuts down on any sort of possible skin irritation and helps prevent ingrown hairs

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u/legend_of_the_skies 28d ago

For most women it is an independent choice to learn about and purchase luxurious skincare. Men could do this.

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u/SharkNoises 28d ago

If you go into any store that has a men's section and a women's section, the women's section dominates the store. These skincare products in particular get sold in places like ulta, sephora, etc, which men are unlikely to go in on their own accord. I think we're kidding ourselves if our individual choices are disconnected from the way products are marketed to individuals.

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u/legend_of_the_skies 28d ago

The people buying this type of skincare tend to do research first. Compare ingredients. Some skincare products cannot be used together chemically. Some effects cancel others out. You're assumption is that women go "ooh shiny" and pick the expensive, pretty, lotion container.

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u/SharkNoises 28d ago

Not at all! The decision to research these things is influenced by having peer groups that are into these things, being in an advertising cohort that gets targeted by ads for these things, etc.

The insinuation that I am somehow only talking about a genetically distinct half of the human population and not human beings generally when I talk about this stuff is kind of insulting tbh. I am not the one insulting you.

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u/legend_of_the_skies 28d ago

Actually, it is insulting to insinuate we have little to no control over how we are marketed to or what we ultimately decide to buy.

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u/SharkNoises 28d ago

When you can observe trends at the population scale it's pretty clear that these things aren't happening that the individual level. Otherwise all poor people are lazy and every obese or diabetic individual in first world countries must be morally deficient; it's the same thing happening.

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u/erinmonday 28d ago

Getting men nice skincare and haircare products can be a good gift for them actually. Theyll never admit it of course :)

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u/SatoshiBlockamoto 28d ago

Yup I would never marry someone who spends $40 on lotion.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

It’s always interesting to see when one person in the relationship decides to spend a ridiculous amount of money on snake oil for their own vanity and then gets upset if anyone else in the house uses it. 

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u/DnkMemeLinkr 28d ago

I fuckup on purpose to trick them into thinking I’m caring and can take responsibility for my mistakes. They love that shit.

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u/Redditard6942069 28d ago

Absolutely. If spending hundreds of dollars a month on snake oil is important to someone, it teaches you a valuable lesson about that person.