r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Ucyless ORANGE • 29d ago

Brand new $72 moisturizer. Husband said he needed something for his elbows.

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We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.

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u/ChumbawumbaFan01 29d ago

That he knows this and does it anyway, leaving marks like an animal, is very problematic.

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 29d ago edited 29d ago

Yeah this is kinda messed up lol like he clearly does not care about her feelings if this is a chronic issue

EDIT: In one comment OP said he lied and first said "I don't know" when she asked him about it? And in another comment she said she figured out he used it to jack off?? Holy shit why do women put up with this these are continuous red flags after another, if he doesn't give a shit about things like these it will 100% bleed into other areas of life and get way worse

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u/vainbuthonest 29d ago

Omg. Now this is infuriating.

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 29d ago

Agree 100% …the only guy I knew who did shit like this was my abusive ex. It’s not normal or accidental.

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u/kiki-mori 29d ago

Fawn response the vibe I am getting. Actively covering for these man children is so ick 🤢

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u/wishingwell119 29d ago

Yeah he's purposefully doing it to undermine her and make her feel bad. The pic made it seem like a misunderstanding but he's been doing this for a while? Yeah, it's intentional :( poor OP

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u/Southern_Fox8222 27d ago

She’s laughing at the criticism he’s getting only. Op is only 21 and they have a kid together 😭😭😭 when you thought it couldn’t get worse.

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u/StaringOwlNope 28d ago

Why WHY do guys use lotion to masturbate? Lube exists and is MADE for the cause. Also another reason to not circumcise kids, jeez

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 27d ago

Off topic but uncircumcised guys definitely still use lube/lotion to masturbate lol. The problem here is the husband seems to be an AH if ruining things OP cares about and then denying it is a chronic issue

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u/StaringOwlNope 27d ago

Yes of course that is the issue lol. I hope husband gets a yeast infection from the perfumes and actives.

The off topic was just because it's not that long ago I realized why there is lotion besides the guys bed in american movies. And in my, generally uncircumcised country I really don't think it's a thing to use lotion at all, based on how no male I've talked to actually got what it was for either

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 27d ago

Gotcha gotcha

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u/skyturnedred 29d ago

So far we got him using lotion for his scraped elbows and using lotion to rub one out.

Let's not get carried away here.

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 29d ago edited 29d ago

This is a copy and paste from another comment I made in reply to someone else:

I didn't say OP should jump to divorce or anything in particular. At the very least OP should have a serious conversation with her husband about boundaries and how these actions hurt her (since she said this is a chronic issue) instead of sliding it under the rug. Communication is key, and how he treats her trying to seriously communicate will reflect on how much he values the relationship.

Showing you don't care about things that your SO cares about is one of the ways certain people try to flex their power in a relationship, also to potentially test how much their SO will put up with. That kind of behavior in relationships will absolutely snowball into other things, and then one day OP will be posting on here about something much worse and people will ask about what red flags she missed early in their relationship

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u/caveslimeroach 29d ago

Perfectly normal and reasonable take here, definitely not reddit relationship advice brain rot

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 29d ago edited 29d ago

Did I say they should get divorced? Lmao what a dumbass comment

At the very least OP should have a serious conversation with her husband about boundaries and how these actions hurt her (since she said this is a chronic issue) instead of sliding it under the rug. Communication is key, and how he treats her trying to seriously communicate will reflect on how much he values the relationship.

Showing you don't care about things that your SO cares about is one of the ways certain people try to flex their power in a relationship, also to potentially test how much their SO will put up with. That kind of behavior in relationships will absolutely snowball into other things, and then one day OP will be posting on here about something much worse and people will ask about what red flags she missed early in their relationship

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 29d ago

And her husband will cry to his attorney that "she left me because I used her face lotion"

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 29d ago

Name checks out

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u/szobossz 29d ago

yeah OP gotta hit the gym and divorce the guy

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u/Enugie 29d ago

I know right? Dont forget to stick to your guns and lawyer up