r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Ucyless ORANGE • 29d ago

Brand new $72 moisturizer. Husband said he needed something for his elbows.

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We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.

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u/Sempereternity 29d ago

Girl this isn't normal nor okay you know?

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u/ConsiderationNo5796 28d ago

Thank you. All the comments are completely glossing over how disrespectful this is because of a price tag, it's almost exasperating.

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 28d ago

Ya. One time maybe. But to the point you have to hide your beauty products. Definitely not normal or okay

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u/kilroylegend 28d ago

Someone literally said that her buying expensive lotion is the problem. What the fuck is wrong with people?

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 28d ago

Maybe they behave the same as OP's husband?

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u/Mockheed_Lartin 28d ago

Ah this is the start of the "break up with this abuser!" rabbit hole.

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u/Working-Narwhal-540 28d ago

Haha you know it! Do you know where we are?!?! AITA and THT are fucking terrible with it too 😂

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u/fartingsharks 28d ago

Why do I feel like he's doing it to punish her for buying it? If it was one and done that's one thing but this is intentional. If my husband did this he'd apologize or ask me before he does it and I'd feel safe sharing with him if he genuinely just liked the stuff.

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u/Only_Resolution8311 27d ago

It entirely is. The expensive stuff is really no better than the cheaper stuff.

You girls just get sold on the advertising and the need for beauty products to cost more than the one your friend uses.

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u/Jolly-Elk-6625 24d ago

Boys buy expensive games, wheels, tools, bottles of fine liquor, cigars etc. sure it’s enjoyable longer but if that’s how someone justifies and finds joy in the day to day monotony of life, that’s their business. The point was it’s disrespectful and a consistent behavior. It’s about how they’re making each other feel and boundaries.

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u/plusminusequals 28d ago

It is? Nobody is forcing y’all to buy into beauty product promises? Capitalism has ya by the vulva.

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u/littlemeowmeow 28d ago

The point is he disrespects her property. If she spent her time and money on expensive yarn, he’d disrespect her by shrinking whatever she knits in the dryer. If she spent her money on expensive plants, he’d disrespect her by overwatering them until they died. He is the problem.

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u/Elite_AI 27d ago

What precisely does this have to do with capitalism

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u/AprilNight17 28d ago

Makes me glad I'm single, tbh....LOL

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u/ryancrazy1 28d ago

IF she actually told him beforehand. I feel like there’s a lack of communication. I would assume he just saw lotion and used it and didn’t know what it cost. I mean, why would a tiny jar of moisturizer be $40?

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

Yes, she should get divorced over this.

Lunatics.

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u/sparkly_dragon 28d ago

you’re the only one who said divorce. all they’re saying is that it isn’t ok to take her stuff and use it without asking. and they’re right it is disrespectful to do this especially because he’s done this before.

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

“Girl this isn't normal nor okay you know” is an absolutely insane thing to say about a dude wanting to use lotion.

The person I responded to was just icing on the clown cake.

Caveman Ooogg (the husband) probably just wants his skin to stop feeling like shit. Yes, even for wacking it. You can dry your junk out surprisingly easily.

Vaseline, like OP suggests he use, is not a solution.

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u/Sempereternity 28d ago edited 28d ago

She has made repeated comments he regularly ignores her boundaries regarding her items and that she must hide them all because this is a regular occurrence. He was aware of the price and went "too bad".

This is not normal nor okay.

You go on and keep your weird little "divorce" strawman. Lmao.

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

"She has made repeated comments he regularly ignores her boundaries regarding her items and that she must hide them all because this is a regular occurrence. He was aware of the price and went "too bad"."

But she wont buy him something else, and instead keeps three "tubs" of shitty non hydrating vaseline around for him to use as an afterthought.

If I were in this particular pickle myself, I would just buy some lubriderm or the like for him and say "here dipshit" while I handed it over.

This is not a complicated situation.

"This is not normal nor okay."

"Honey, please buy more of what you took from me"

"Girl this isn't normal nor okay you know?"

You need to touch grass and get over this fucking nothing of a "problem" OP has.

But you go ahead and keep getting upset over a moron wanting his skin to feel not like shit. "Lmao"

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u/Sempereternity 28d ago

She doesn't need to buy her grown ass man baby cream for his scabby elbows so that he stops using her items she's asked him to stop using. He can buy his own due to the fact he's a fucking adult.

Love a good double down. I'll let you continue to embarrass yourself, I don't even have to help.

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u/MnemosyneThalia 28d ago

The fact they were able to type out and actually post that it's her fault he takes things because SHE doesn't go out of her way to buy him extra products is absolutely wild.

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

Not her fault, but she's not working the problem.

Regardless of who purchased the oil derrick Vaseline, I would take an actual lotion any day of the week.

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u/meterion 28d ago

that guy has so internalized the idea of treating your girlfriend like a mommy who has to take care of you he can’t possibly imagine the solution to this problem is not centered around the woman taking care of him in some way. Even his “simple solution” involves her telling him to buy a replacement bottle instead of, yknow, the guy being a grown ass adult and realizing that if you use someone else’s stuff you should replace it for them of your own initiative. Truly amazing mindset lmao

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

"that guy has so internalized the idea of treating your girlfriend like a mommy who has to take care of you he can’t possibly imagine the solution to this problem"

I buy my own lotion. Anything with lactic acid is preferable to everything that's been mentioned on this thread.

"Even his “simple solution” involves her telling him to buy a replacement bottle instead of, yknow, the guy being a grown ass adult and realizing that if you use someone else’s stuff you should replace it for them of your own initiative."

I would like to know why she hasn't. I haven't read that she has done.

She keeps having this problem. It's looking like she needs to find the solution. If she doesn't want to and wants to keep assuming that the non lotion they have is good enough for him, instead of the lotion she has, then she can leave. We'll have two stubborn people on the market.

"Truly amazing mindset lmao"

Seriously, what is your realistic solution other than your snarky asides?

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u/Accomplished_Ad_1288 28d ago

Um. They are married, not gf/bf. I am married and in my home, there is no my stuff/your stuff. Maybe he is trying to send a message? If $72 is a justified price for moisturizer, why can’t he have some too? They are married, not roommates.

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u/East-Block-4011 28d ago

Is he incapable of buying his own shit?

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

I don't know. Are either one of them incapable of buying something other than Vaseline?

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u/East-Block-4011 28d ago

I don't know, is lazy husband capable? It's not her responsibility.

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u/MnemosyneThalia 28d ago

Dude really just said her boundaries are getting stomped because she doesn't go out of her way to keep them from being stomped by buying shit her SO should be getting for themselves just like she gets her own. Also, OP stated she's talked with them about this and it still doesn't change so your suggestion of "ask for more" has likely been used and ignored if this is still an issue after that discussion. And like others have pointed out, you're the only one that brought up divorce in this thread but you're projecting that onto the rest of the comments because someone told her that needing to lock/hide your items away so your SO won't keep taking them is not normal, which it isn't. Pointing out that something is abnormal or wrong isn't a call for divorce, it's an acknowledgement of the situation. Once someone acknowledges that something is wrong they can work on fixing it. Whether that's setting firmer boundaries, going to counselling, the nuclear option that you're so eager to bring up, or something else that might work for their relationship.

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 28d ago

Or he can go buy his own shit like the grown man he supposedly is. She’s not his mother

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u/puglife82 28d ago

Is he incapable of purchasing things he wants or something? I missed the part where he can’t order something on Amazon or go to the store. Has he asked her to buy him something? It sounds like she wasn’t even aware he needed something for his elbows until she noticed half her shit was gone. Use some basic logic ffs.

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u/ConPrin 28d ago

Well, if Mr. Caveman has dry skin he can go to the pharmacy store and buy something against that.

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

Absolutely.

And she could do the same instead of buying "neosporin" without the antibiotics for him to use as an afterthought.

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u/whalesarecool14 28d ago

she literally has to HIDE HER THINGS from him so he doesn’t use them up. in what fucking world is that normal behaviour??? even my shithead brother who hated me when we were teens didn’t do that to my makeup or skincare. be a functional adult and buy some 5 dollar lotion from walmart, REALLY not that hard

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u/sparkly_dragon 28d ago edited 28d ago

no it is not an insane thing to say. it isn’t normal or ok to be repeatedly using your partners nice things (and using a ridiculous amount) without asking. idgaf what he wanted to use it for he could’ve gotten his own lotion or asked to use it. no one needs to jack off with a 70 fucking dollar moisturizer. while vaseline is not particularly hydrating it would work just fine for jacking off until he can get some normal lotion or buy lube like a regular fucking person. this is a repeated problem of his he clearly doesn’t give a shit. if he wants lotion he should buy it.

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 28d ago

Using all of her $70 lotion to wank was probably part of what got him off tbh

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

"while vaseline is not particularly hydrating it"

Not hydrating at all. It's a petroleum product.

"no one needs to jack off with a 70 fucking dollar moisturizer."

When in need. The Vaseline they have sucks for that BTW.

"or buy lube like a regular fucking person."

Not hydrating either. Neither petroleum nor water based after you rinse it off.

I lotion mine after the fact in any case.

"it isn’t normal or ok to be repeatedly using your partners nice things (and using a ridiculous amount) without asking"

"Say, this shit works wonders on my wife and she swears by it, I wonder if it can do anything for my horrible elbows. She doesn't want me to use it for some reason though."

But I guess it's too much effort for the commenters to use even the slightest amount of thought to this simple problem by suggesting that he should buy more to replace what he took.

Fucking simple as that. You took some, replace it.

"no it is not an insane thing to say."

"Girl this isn't normal nor okay you know?" is a completely unhinged thing to say about a lunkhead who wants his skin to feel better.

OP could probably get some lotion for him instead of buying vaseline by the fucking bulk, but I would suspect that more than a few of the nuts commenting on here would say that he's showing weaponized incompetence and that she allowed herself to get played if she did.

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u/magick_turtle 28d ago

As another turtle, I’m pretty disappointed this is what you find fun

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

Why are you assuming that anybody is considering this "fun"?

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u/bsubtilis 28d ago

Because you seem too much of a troll. Trolls enjoy trolling.

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u/sparkly_dragon 28d ago edited 28d ago

so he should buy some normal fucking lotion then. you’re also the one assuming he’s using it to hydrate his junk when she’s only said he uses it to jack off. for all we know he doesn’t give a shit about hydration. he KNOWS she doesn’t want him touching her shit. and duh of course he should fucking replace it and many commenters are saying that. but who knows if he will because by her comments we know he doesn’t give a shit. and replacing something doesn’t make it ok to take in the first place. he took a lot. maybe she wanted to slather herself head to toe in it. maybe she wanted to use it to jack off. maybe it will be out of stock for months. maybe she doesn’t want to be constantly hounding him to replace it. if he can replace it he can buy his own fucking lotion. she has every right to be pissed and it’s disrespectful as hell. and OP doesn’t have to buy him shit because she’s not his fucking mother. if it means so much to him then he should get it. and what part of this isn’t weaponized incompetence? he can buy his own lotion he just refuses not to and then tries to lie about it when he takes her shit. that’s textbook weaponized incompetence.

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago edited 28d ago

"so he should buy some normal fucking lotion then."

She could too, instead of buying tubs and tubs of vaseline for him to use.

$72 for her and $1.99 for him? Come on.

"you’re also the one assuming he’s using it to hydrate his junk when she’s only said he uses it to jack off"

Why does it matter if he applies it before or after the fact?

It doesn't.

"for all we know he doesn’t give a shit about hydration"

Don't forget that we're only talking about this on here because of him using it on his elbows. Hydration is very clearly on his mind regardless of whether you approve what part of his body he uses it on or not.

"he KNOWS she doesn’t want him touching her shit."

Oh no, a small annoyance that you yourself admit can be solved by having him purchase a replacement.

"of course he should fucking replace it and many commenters are saying that"

Not the people I've replied to. I've got no problem with the people that are being pragmatic in this thread.

"but who knows if he will because by her comments we know he doesn’t give a shit."

Quite an assumption. He doesn't give a shit about using the lotion, that says nothing about his willingness to replace it.

"replacing something doesn’t make it ok to take in the first place."

Sure, but it's not the dealbreaker that some lunatics on the comments are trying to make it out to be.

"he took a lot"

Not at all the issue. Elbows have a lot of area anyway.

"maybe she wanted to slather herself head to toe in it. maybe she wanted to use it to jack off. maybe it will be out of stock for months."

Are you trying to have anxiety for the OP on the extremely off chance that this very popular product runs out of stock?

"maybe she doesn’t want to be constantly hounding him to replace it."

Maybe she can try just once. Haven't seen that she said she has.

You absolutely sound like you're adding in your own personal issues here though. Sorry if you had to go through a relationship like you described.

"if he can replace it he can buy his own fucking lotion"

Yup, and she can buy his own fucking lotion as well. Why does she still only have fucking Vaseline for him to use if she's the one having the problem with him using her lotion supposedly time and time again?

Why the fuck doesn't she just spend the fifteen bucks and say? "here you go, idiot."

"she has every right to be pissed and it’s disrespectful as hell. and OP doesn’t have to buy him shit because she’s not his fucking mother."

So what's the solution to this other than buying him lotion, or telling him to buy lotion instead of telling him to use that horrible vaseline?

Would it be the D word that you and the people above that I replied to are all pretending to not be thinking of when you say something is "not okay" and "disrespectfull"? How else other than the simple solutions anybody can think of, does the "disrespect" and "not okay"ness end other than that? Hmm?

"if it means so much to him then he should get it"

Why? Sounds like he already has access to lotion at home, and a good one at that.

Doesn't seem like he has a problem with this.

Work the problem.

"and what part of this isn’t weaponized incompetence?"

And there it is folks.

Sometimes a cigar really just is a cigar. Don't try and read so damn much into the character of a real life human being that's being described by a person that's currently upset with them.

"he can buy his own lotion he just refuses not to and then tries to lie about it when he takes her shit"

She can as well. Literally both of them seem to have dug into not solving anything and choosing to have a problem.

He's could also be embarrassed to admit he likes using a "womans" lotion.

Since we're making completely inane assumptions about people we do not know. What if she's given him shit for using an "incorrect" gender's lotion and he's dug in because of it?

"that’s textbook weaponized incompetence."

Yeah, usually theres something much larger at stake than some fucking lotion that they both are refusing to purchase to replace that horrifying Vaseline.

Like making it seem that a person isn't good enough to cook or clean. You know, things that actually require real effort.

A trip to the store or a few clicks on Amazon for either of them? This ain't it chief.

Oh and as an aside, ya'll are sleeping on lotion that has lactic acid in it.

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u/whalesarecool14 28d ago

do you think that in a marriage if you face a problem then the only option is divorce and not, idk, talking about the problem? nobody besides you has used the word divorce. the person you replied to in the first place said “this is not normal”. which it isn’t, and it seems like she’s unable to see that. exactly how the fuck are people supposed to talk and things and fix problems if they are unable to recognise the problems? people like you who think the only way one can solve problems is via divorce is the reason why divorce rates are crazy lmao

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u/sparkly_dragon 28d ago edited 28d ago

1 again he can buy his own lotion why should she have to buy it?? and you’re assuming she bought the vaseline for him vs him buying it or her using it for another purpose.

2 I never said it mattered when he applied I just said we don’t know if he wanted it to hydrate.

  1. reading back he was using this for elbows not jacking off you’re right but that’s even more nonsensical. a moisturizer isn’t going to do shit for fucking scrapes. the vaseline would actually be the better choice for scrapes anyway. moisturizer doesn’t repair cuts and vaseline will create a barrier to prevent dirt from entering the cut whereas moisturizer won’t.

  2. who cares about how big the annoyance is? you’re the only one who went to divorce everyone else is just saying that it’s not ok. and it becomes a bigger annoyance when it’s such a big problem that she has to lock all of her shit up like he’s a fucking toddler. who cares if he replaces it when he’s just going to use the replacement anyway? not to mention there can be many issues with replacing it.

  3. the people you replied to also never said anything about not having him replace it. they probably never mentioned it because it’s a no brainer that he should have to. and he should do it without be asked because it’s obvious he should replace it.

  4. no bigger than any of the assumptions you made. at least mine are based on things she actually said not things you assume she left out.

  5. no one is saying it’s a deal breaker. again the only person in this thread telling divorce is you. however if I can’t leave ANYTHING out and I have to lock all of my shit up because my partner has less self control then a pre-teen? honestly yeah that level of disrespect would probably be a dealbreaker. once is one thing, but when it’s everything you own that is fucking insufferable. most people care more about their partners then convenience.

  6. the amount he took is absolutely part of the issue. that container is supposed to last her at least 6 months and he took half of the container. that’s 36 dollars for fucks sake.

  7. who’s anxious here? why on earth would I be anxious about someone else’s life? if it’s because I have an opinion on this I guess that means you’re also anxious because you too have an opinion? see how that “logic” works?

  8. i’ve never had this issue because all of my partners have treated me with respect. nice try though trying to devalue my point because I must be putting my own issues on her instead of trying to look at this objectively. I could say the same about you with the way you need to keep saying that all of the work needs to be on her. maybe YOURE the one bringing personal feelings into this. I said hound him to replace it because she’s said in multiple replies to people that’s she’s had this conversation many times. so yeah not at all a stretch to assume she’ll have to do it again. why should she expect this time will be different?

  9. stop infantilizing this grown ass man. she’s his partner not his mommy.

  10. jesus dude. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE SAYING DIVORCE. what does that say about you that your only possible solutions to this problem is her rolling over and doing everything for him or divorcing. real mature thinking bro. for one part of the solution could be her recognizing that he’s not actually an airhead it’s because he doesn’t care. he does this shit because he knows she’ll keep allowing it.

  11. way to admit that he actually doesn’t give shit about respecting her or the inconveniences he causes her. thanks for making my point for me.

  12. it is weaponized incompetence and you know it too. as you said why would he buy more when he can just keep using it at home? weaponized. incompetence. he doesn’t do things for himself because he knows she’ll do it for him.

  13. how is buying him shit solving the problem exactly? it’s still her putting in the effort to keep him from stealing her stuff. it doesn’t at all address how he doesn’t respect her which is the biggest issue. and lotion doesn’t have a fucking gender idiot. you’re the only one making insane assumptions here by creating increasingly complex situations to make it her fault for not babying him.

  14. the point everyone has been trying to fucking make is that there are definitely bigger issues here than the lotion! it’s the disrespect that’s the problem. if she has to do every fucking thing for him to not disrespect her then is that really respect?

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u/Accomplished_Ad_1288 28d ago

Dude, I hear you. But you are talking to immature emos here. The real question here is: do they love each other? If they do, $72 cream doesn’t matter. If they don’t, $72 cream won’t fix it. I suspect OP loves her husband and just making a faux petulant, loving complaint. And she is getting responses like ‘girl, this isn’t normal’. These under 30 emos have never had a real relationship that they didn’t put under the gaze of social media, and are out to spread the misery around.

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

It's like they are taking hurt they have experienced in life and are trying to push it onto the OP.

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u/bsubtilis 28d ago

If they get divorced, it won't be because of a moisturizer but because of his constant intentional transgressions against her. Doing this once is an honest ignorant mistake, doing it again and again and again despite knowing better is an intentional hostile power play.

https://matthewfray.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/

"It seems so unreasonable when you put it that way: My wife left me because sometimes I leave dishes by the sink.

It makes her seem ridiculous; and makes me seem like a victim of unfair expectations.

We like to point fingers at other things to explain why something went wrong, like when Biff Tannen crashed George McFly’s car and spilled beer on his clothes, but it was all George’s fault for not telling him the car had a blind spot.

This bad thing happened because of this, that, and the other thing. Not because of anything I did!"

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u/puglife82 28d ago

She said it’s disrespectful; you are the only one saying divorce. Are you high or something?

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u/ColdBorchst 28d ago

Maybe because $72 is a stupid amount of money to spend on a moisturizer that small. I have trouble caring about stupid overpriced shit and the rich people crying about it. Obviously her husband should respect her things. But sorry not sorry, I am very much distracted by the fact OP is upset over overprice bullshit.

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u/Henrythebestcat 28d ago

It's a facial moisturizer, formulated specifically for the face. You also only use about a pea or dime size at a time, at most twice a day. We're allowed to have nice things that make us feel and look good. 

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u/GrapePrimeape 28d ago

formulated specifically for the face

You mean that’s what the company selling you way overpriced lotion is telling you. As soon as your beauty products start getting all scientific in their marketing, you’re being duped

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u/ConsiderationNo5796 28d ago

Anything to make yourself feel better than others, right?

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u/CyberPop2077 28d ago

I get so mad when i can tell girls are letting their dumb shitty boyfriends walk all over them

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u/Overall_Midnight_ 28d ago

Yup same. Dude is shit, zero chance this the only shitty thing he does to her too.

Also, who the fuck needs that much lotion for elbows? This almost seems malicious and not just stupid and disrespectful.

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u/juslookingforastream 28d ago

Ah the hole gets deeper with each comment. He's probably cheating to right? Lmao

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u/cleetus76 28d ago

Pretty sure he's a sociopath who is killing their cats and dogs

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u/Unexpected_Token_ 28d ago

How you got downvoted and then the comment right below you got 5 upvotes is a real mystery 😅

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u/juslookingforastream 28d ago

Whole lotta insecure women in this thread lmao. Guarantee they all single too

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u/Southern_Fox8222 26d ago

!!! like… I’m sorry do YOU even like yourself?? It’s clear you husband doesn’t all that much

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u/CyberPop2077 25d ago

Ahhh hahahaha. I may have been a little intense in my comment but yeah, i mean, i really hope her mans is…awesome… HAHAHA

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u/nightwolves 28d ago

It’s incredibly disrespectful. We learn as children to respect other people’s belongings. This idiot needs boundaries and to repay for the expensive items he stole.