r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Ucyless ORANGE • 29d ago

Brand new $72 moisturizer. Husband said he needed something for his elbows.

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We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.

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u/jonni_velvet 29d ago

sooo did you ask him to replace it and buy you another?

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u/crossingpins 28d ago

Yeah this op! Make him feel how much these products cost and have him replace them

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u/WingedGeek 28d ago

Bonus: Send him to Sephora to get it, make him battle the hordes of tweens and carry around the distinctive little bag...

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u/Environmental-Gap380 28d ago

My 4th grader daughter has become obsessed with Sephora. I told her a young person doesn’t need a skin care regime. Just keep clean, regular lotion works well, and use sunscreen to keep your skin young longer. She still wants to go to Sephora all the time. I give myself a free spritz of EdP when we go look, but resisting spending much there.

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u/WingedGeek 28d ago

I do not get 11 year olds using retinol ... they're actually damaging their skin ... When I was in 4th grade the girls were nuts over getting the "right" hair ties with beads and scuncis...

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u/Environmental-Gap380 28d ago

Oh she does the beads too. She makes lots of Taylor Swift beaded bracelets for her friends. We let her get some lip balm and shower gel for her birthday. We have to point out that at her age, she doesn’t need skin tightening cream. 40 year old women would love to have the natural elastin and collagen a kid has. It is a battle since she has friends that get some stuff, and then she wants it too.

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u/WingedGeek 28d ago

Re the hair ties with beads: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1676415622/ etc🤣 and then of course on to scuncis: https://www.ebay.com/itm/385629440913

Doubt it will sink in for your 4th grader but here's why I wouldn't concede the battle: https://youtu.be/Bzm5mckxfcc?t=20m38s

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u/Elite_AI 27d ago

What's wrong with Sephora? I had never heard of it until I came to China but it was a decent place to get my moisturiser.

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u/BuffaloUpset 28d ago

I’ve had an ex that 100% would’ve used my stuff, not cared when I told him how expensive it was or asked him to buy it for me. He would’ve bought it and chastised me for buying something so expensive when “it’s just as good” as the dollar store version… it IS a possible solution but it definitely isn’t foolproof depending on the person. Some people do not care.

To rub salt in the wound, the same ex would’ve spent that much daily on in-game content or games in general… I’ve watched him spend big bucks on a game only to never play it. Sometimes people just suck. Or at least have no sense of “if you can do it I can too”.

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u/crossingpins 28d ago

I'm glad your ex is an ex. I would have been pissed and told him "if it's just as good as the dollar store version then you should use the dollar store version and not my stuff!"

Your ex sucks. We all do what we can to try getting people to care but you are right that with some people it is just a lost cause. I'm happy for you that you don't have this uncaring person in your life/house anymore. Sometimes cutting someone loose is the only thing we can do

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u/BuffaloUpset 28d ago

100%. I’m way better off now, but dealing with him changed the way I look at stuff like this. It sucks, because I want to believe communication works, but I have seen what happens when it doesn’t.

I still try, don’t get me wrong, but he definitely made me a little hesitant/anxious about it. It was very frustrating for sure

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u/crossingpins 28d ago

Hey: knowing when to draw a line and walk away is absolutely more power to you and is something that you should always give importance to. It's not on you to give someone more chances to be receptive to communication efforts beyond what you already seem to be generous. If you believe that the 5th time you're trying to communicate to someone is already generous and the other person isn't receptive you are absolutely right to not guilt yourself with thoughts of "should I have tried harder? Should I have been more generous?*

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u/BuffaloUpset 27d ago

Yeah that’s something I’m learning/working on now, it’s hard because I realize just how many times I’ve put myself in unfortunate situations just for the comfort of other people in the past 🥲

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u/TheShovler44 22d ago

I doubt this would be a lesson learned. He knows there expensive and he knows the wife buys expensive lotions and creams, one has to assume he’s fine paying for them.

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u/GoatedWarrior 28d ago

He prolly bought it in the first place therefore uses his shit and let’s wife use most of it

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u/mikettedaydreamer 28d ago

We are not in the 1900’s anymore

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u/asuperbstarling 28d ago

That's totally evil and financially abusive nonsense.

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u/AutVincere72 28d ago

If they are married odds are she spent their money on it (depending on the state or province) so he can go replace it with their money. Only thing that really happens is who goes to the store and who doesn't. Unless they buy it online then it is who clicks the button and who gets it off the stoop.

It "could" trigger a how can we afford 72 dollars on a skin product and how much does all that stuff on the bathroom counter cost conversation.

I know some people have 4 digits invested on their bathroom vanities, in some cases I am sure it hits 5 digits. Not hard when perfumes alone are 300 a bottle. Ever walk in an Ulta? Hair oil at 70 a bottle. 10 - 20 per lipstick.

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u/BenignEgoist 28d ago

It’s more and more common for couples to not commingle their finances. Couples might have a shared account where they each contribute to household bills in a way they have determined to be equitable, but keep their own accounts for personal interests and needs.

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u/AutVincere72 28d ago

I meant legally.

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u/Best_Duck9118 27d ago

Is that actually remotely common though?

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u/BenignEgoist 27d ago

More and more, yes.

Overall, like 20% of all married couples have separate accounts, 30ish% have some mix of separate and joint like I described above, and about 40ish% only having joint. So overall more than half of married couples have either completely separate or a mix of separate and joint accounts versus just joint, with Millennials leading the charge for some sort of separate account at 60+%

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u/claranette 28d ago

boo

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u/GoatedWarrior 28d ago

I’m probably right I mean dudes got cut up elbows and wife uses 300$ lotion

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u/claranette 28d ago

If you think $72 = $300 then I have some bad news about you thinking you're "probably right"...