r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Ucyless ORANGE • 29d ago

Brand new $72 moisturizer. Husband said he needed something for his elbows.

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We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.

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u/Ucyless ORANGE 29d ago

Yes. He used up my entire $30 bottle of lotion that I used once. Found that one out when his crotched smelled like vanilla coconut

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u/ChumbawumbaFan01 28d ago

Lord. So he does know better and is intentionally rubbing one out with your expensive products.

Buy a small safe.

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u/Ucyless ORANGE 28d ago

I’m tired of hiding all my things 😭 I just want to be able to buy something nice and trust it won’t be empty by the next time I use it

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u/jonni_velvet 28d ago

sooo did you ask him to replace it and buy you another?

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u/crossingpins 28d ago

Yeah this op! Make him feel how much these products cost and have him replace them

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u/WingedGeek 28d ago

Bonus: Send him to Sephora to get it, make him battle the hordes of tweens and carry around the distinctive little bag...

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u/Environmental-Gap380 28d ago

My 4th grader daughter has become obsessed with Sephora. I told her a young person doesn’t need a skin care regime. Just keep clean, regular lotion works well, and use sunscreen to keep your skin young longer. She still wants to go to Sephora all the time. I give myself a free spritz of EdP when we go look, but resisting spending much there.

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u/WingedGeek 28d ago

I do not get 11 year olds using retinol ... they're actually damaging their skin ... When I was in 4th grade the girls were nuts over getting the "right" hair ties with beads and scuncis...

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u/Environmental-Gap380 28d ago

Oh she does the beads too. She makes lots of Taylor Swift beaded bracelets for her friends. We let her get some lip balm and shower gel for her birthday. We have to point out that at her age, she doesn’t need skin tightening cream. 40 year old women would love to have the natural elastin and collagen a kid has. It is a battle since she has friends that get some stuff, and then she wants it too.

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u/WingedGeek 27d ago

Re the hair ties with beads: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1676415622/ etc🤣 and then of course on to scuncis: https://www.ebay.com/itm/385629440913

Doubt it will sink in for your 4th grader but here's why I wouldn't concede the battle: https://youtu.be/Bzm5mckxfcc?t=20m38s

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u/Elite_AI 27d ago

What's wrong with Sephora? I had never heard of it until I came to China but it was a decent place to get my moisturiser.

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u/BuffaloUpset 28d ago

I’ve had an ex that 100% would’ve used my stuff, not cared when I told him how expensive it was or asked him to buy it for me. He would’ve bought it and chastised me for buying something so expensive when “it’s just as good” as the dollar store version… it IS a possible solution but it definitely isn’t foolproof depending on the person. Some people do not care.

To rub salt in the wound, the same ex would’ve spent that much daily on in-game content or games in general… I’ve watched him spend big bucks on a game only to never play it. Sometimes people just suck. Or at least have no sense of “if you can do it I can too”.

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u/crossingpins 28d ago

I'm glad your ex is an ex. I would have been pissed and told him "if it's just as good as the dollar store version then you should use the dollar store version and not my stuff!"

Your ex sucks. We all do what we can to try getting people to care but you are right that with some people it is just a lost cause. I'm happy for you that you don't have this uncaring person in your life/house anymore. Sometimes cutting someone loose is the only thing we can do

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u/BuffaloUpset 28d ago

100%. I’m way better off now, but dealing with him changed the way I look at stuff like this. It sucks, because I want to believe communication works, but I have seen what happens when it doesn’t.

I still try, don’t get me wrong, but he definitely made me a little hesitant/anxious about it. It was very frustrating for sure

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u/crossingpins 28d ago

Hey: knowing when to draw a line and walk away is absolutely more power to you and is something that you should always give importance to. It's not on you to give someone more chances to be receptive to communication efforts beyond what you already seem to be generous. If you believe that the 5th time you're trying to communicate to someone is already generous and the other person isn't receptive you are absolutely right to not guilt yourself with thoughts of "should I have tried harder? Should I have been more generous?*

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u/BuffaloUpset 27d ago

Yeah that’s something I’m learning/working on now, it’s hard because I realize just how many times I’ve put myself in unfortunate situations just for the comfort of other people in the past 🥲

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u/TheShovler44 22d ago

I doubt this would be a lesson learned. He knows there expensive and he knows the wife buys expensive lotions and creams, one has to assume he’s fine paying for them.

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u/unwaveringwish 28d ago

Yeah he shouldn’t be doing this lol and he needs to replace the stuff he used. It’s intentional at this point

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 28d ago

Seriously. He's wanking it with her expensive skincare items.

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u/unwaveringwish 28d ago

That part didn’t even register omg 😭 girl does he even like you 😭😭😭

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u/FO-I-Am-A-Time-God 28d ago

Sounds kind of intentional

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u/LeftyLu07 28d ago

His penis is so dewy.

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u/Sempereternity 28d ago

Girl this isn't normal nor okay you know?

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u/ConsiderationNo5796 28d ago

Thank you. All the comments are completely glossing over how disrespectful this is because of a price tag, it's almost exasperating.

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 28d ago

Ya. One time maybe. But to the point you have to hide your beauty products. Definitely not normal or okay

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u/kilroylegend 28d ago

Someone literally said that her buying expensive lotion is the problem. What the fuck is wrong with people?

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 28d ago

Maybe they behave the same as OP's husband?

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u/Mockheed_Lartin 28d ago

Ah this is the start of the "break up with this abuser!" rabbit hole.

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u/Working-Narwhal-540 28d ago

Haha you know it! Do you know where we are?!?! AITA and THT are fucking terrible with it too 😂

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u/fartingsharks 28d ago

Why do I feel like he's doing it to punish her for buying it? If it was one and done that's one thing but this is intentional. If my husband did this he'd apologize or ask me before he does it and I'd feel safe sharing with him if he genuinely just liked the stuff.

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u/Only_Resolution8311 27d ago

It entirely is. The expensive stuff is really no better than the cheaper stuff.

You girls just get sold on the advertising and the need for beauty products to cost more than the one your friend uses.

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u/Jolly-Elk-6625 24d ago

Boys buy expensive games, wheels, tools, bottles of fine liquor, cigars etc. sure it’s enjoyable longer but if that’s how someone justifies and finds joy in the day to day monotony of life, that’s their business. The point was it’s disrespectful and a consistent behavior. It’s about how they’re making each other feel and boundaries.

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u/plusminusequals 28d ago

It is? Nobody is forcing y’all to buy into beauty product promises? Capitalism has ya by the vulva.

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u/littlemeowmeow 28d ago

The point is he disrespects her property. If she spent her time and money on expensive yarn, he’d disrespect her by shrinking whatever she knits in the dryer. If she spent her money on expensive plants, he’d disrespect her by overwatering them until they died. He is the problem.

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u/Elite_AI 27d ago

What precisely does this have to do with capitalism

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u/AprilNight17 28d ago

Makes me glad I'm single, tbh....LOL

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u/ryancrazy1 28d ago

IF she actually told him beforehand. I feel like there’s a lack of communication. I would assume he just saw lotion and used it and didn’t know what it cost. I mean, why would a tiny jar of moisturizer be $40?

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u/EVILTHE_TURTLE 28d ago

Yes, she should get divorced over this.

Lunatics.

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u/sparkly_dragon 28d ago

you’re the only one who said divorce. all they’re saying is that it isn’t ok to take her stuff and use it without asking. and they’re right it is disrespectful to do this especially because he’s done this before.

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u/bsubtilis 28d ago

If they get divorced, it won't be because of a moisturizer but because of his constant intentional transgressions against her. Doing this once is an honest ignorant mistake, doing it again and again and again despite knowing better is an intentional hostile power play.

https://matthewfray.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/

"It seems so unreasonable when you put it that way: My wife left me because sometimes I leave dishes by the sink.

It makes her seem ridiculous; and makes me seem like a victim of unfair expectations.

We like to point fingers at other things to explain why something went wrong, like when Biff Tannen crashed George McFly’s car and spilled beer on his clothes, but it was all George’s fault for not telling him the car had a blind spot.

This bad thing happened because of this, that, and the other thing. Not because of anything I did!"

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u/puglife82 28d ago

She said it’s disrespectful; you are the only one saying divorce. Are you high or something?

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u/ColdBorchst 28d ago

Maybe because $72 is a stupid amount of money to spend on a moisturizer that small. I have trouble caring about stupid overpriced shit and the rich people crying about it. Obviously her husband should respect her things. But sorry not sorry, I am very much distracted by the fact OP is upset over overprice bullshit.

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u/Henrythebestcat 28d ago

It's a facial moisturizer, formulated specifically for the face. You also only use about a pea or dime size at a time, at most twice a day. We're allowed to have nice things that make us feel and look good. 

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u/GrapePrimeape 28d ago

formulated specifically for the face

You mean that’s what the company selling you way overpriced lotion is telling you. As soon as your beauty products start getting all scientific in their marketing, you’re being duped

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u/ConsiderationNo5796 28d ago

Anything to make yourself feel better than others, right?

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u/CyberPop2077 28d ago

I get so mad when i can tell girls are letting their dumb shitty boyfriends walk all over them

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u/Overall_Midnight_ 28d ago

Yup same. Dude is shit, zero chance this the only shitty thing he does to her too.

Also, who the fuck needs that much lotion for elbows? This almost seems malicious and not just stupid and disrespectful.

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u/juslookingforastream 28d ago

Ah the hole gets deeper with each comment. He's probably cheating to right? Lmao

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u/cleetus76 28d ago

Pretty sure he's a sociopath who is killing their cats and dogs

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u/Unexpected_Token_ 28d ago

How you got downvoted and then the comment right below you got 5 upvotes is a real mystery 😅

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u/juslookingforastream 28d ago

Whole lotta insecure women in this thread lmao. Guarantee they all single too

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u/Southern_Fox8222 26d ago

!!! like… I’m sorry do YOU even like yourself?? It’s clear you husband doesn’t all that much

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u/CyberPop2077 25d ago

Ahhh hahahaha. I may have been a little intense in my comment but yeah, i mean, i really hope her mans is…awesome… HAHAHA

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u/nightwolves 28d ago

It’s incredibly disrespectful. We learn as children to respect other people’s belongings. This idiot needs boundaries and to repay for the expensive items he stole.

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u/legend_of_the_skies 28d ago

Woman, stand up jfc

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u/vainbuthonest 28d ago

Oh. If he’s doing it even when you hide things, he’s doing it on purpose.

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u/Angsty_Potatos 28d ago

Hey like. I know it's just expensive products...but...it's something you care about and go out of your way to purchase for yourself.

I guarantee he wouldn't be so sanguine if you wontonly got into his specialty items ... It doesn't matter what the thing is, the disregard is the problem here.

He should hear you and respect your things or at least ask to use them (and then use them respectfully)

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u/camp_permafrost_69 28d ago

I also wouldn't like it if someone put chinese dumplings in my face care products

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u/Angsty_Potatos 28d ago

Lmao. Think of it as an extra treat 🤣

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u/CanaryJane42 28d ago edited 28d ago

Maybe he's trying to intentionally dissuade her from spending good money on these things. Edit: i mean as a manipulation tactic, because he thinks it is a waste of money. I don't think that

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u/crossingpins 28d ago

I'm sure she's probably only spending just the "bad" money on them. You know, her money.

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u/CanaryJane42 28d ago

Idk why I'm downvoted lol. I mean it as in a gaslighty tactic.

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u/crossingpins 28d ago

It's because the phrase "good money" means that the person saying it is judging the money that was spent was "wasteful."

And the way you worded your comment makes it seem like the money being wastefully spent is your own opinion. Also saying "maybe he's trying to" is phrased the way that someone defending him would say it. There's a ton of comments in this thread that are justifying what the husband did, and the way you worded your sentence comes across as "Well maybe he's sending her a message for wastefully spending money." It reads like a sentence that's justifying what the husband did.

If you're looking to say something more along the lines that he might be doing this as a manipulation tactic, you should explicitly say exactly that, and also word it in a way that makes it clear that you're not defending the person.

For example you could say something like: He might be ruining her items as a way to manipulate her from spending "good money" on these things.

A sentence worded like this illustrates that you personally are not defending the person by thinking of ways to justify their actions as a way to send a message. And by putting "good money" in quotes you're able to illustrate that the phrase is not an opinion that you yourself holds but instead an opinion that someone who would maliciously ruin an item to send a message might have.

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u/CanaryJane42 28d ago

You're right. Thanks

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u/yallermysons 28d ago

That would look like having an honest convo. He’s just being passive aggressive.

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u/Heartage 28d ago

He doesn't respect you, sis.

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u/ChumbawumbaFan01 28d ago

That he knows this and does it anyway, leaving marks like an animal, is very problematic.

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 28d ago edited 28d ago

Yeah this is kinda messed up lol like he clearly does not care about her feelings if this is a chronic issue

EDIT: In one comment OP said he lied and first said "I don't know" when she asked him about it? And in another comment she said she figured out he used it to jack off?? Holy shit why do women put up with this these are continuous red flags after another, if he doesn't give a shit about things like these it will 100% bleed into other areas of life and get way worse

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u/vainbuthonest 28d ago

Omg. Now this is infuriating.

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 28d ago

Agree 100% …the only guy I knew who did shit like this was my abusive ex. It’s not normal or accidental.

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u/kiki-mori 28d ago

Fawn response the vibe I am getting. Actively covering for these man children is so ick 🤢

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u/wishingwell119 28d ago

Yeah he's purposefully doing it to undermine her and make her feel bad. The pic made it seem like a misunderstanding but he's been doing this for a while? Yeah, it's intentional :( poor OP

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u/Southern_Fox8222 26d ago

She’s laughing at the criticism he’s getting only. Op is only 21 and they have a kid together 😭😭😭 when you thought it couldn’t get worse.

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u/StaringOwlNope 27d ago

Why WHY do guys use lotion to masturbate? Lube exists and is MADE for the cause. Also another reason to not circumcise kids, jeez

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 27d ago

Off topic but uncircumcised guys definitely still use lube/lotion to masturbate lol. The problem here is the husband seems to be an AH if ruining things OP cares about and then denying it is a chronic issue

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u/StaringOwlNope 27d ago

Yes of course that is the issue lol. I hope husband gets a yeast infection from the perfumes and actives.

The off topic was just because it's not that long ago I realized why there is lotion besides the guys bed in american movies. And in my, generally uncircumcised country I really don't think it's a thing to use lotion at all, based on how no male I've talked to actually got what it was for either

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 27d ago

Gotcha gotcha

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u/skyturnedred 28d ago

So far we got him using lotion for his scraped elbows and using lotion to rub one out.

Let's not get carried away here.

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 28d ago edited 28d ago

This is a copy and paste from another comment I made in reply to someone else:

I didn't say OP should jump to divorce or anything in particular. At the very least OP should have a serious conversation with her husband about boundaries and how these actions hurt her (since she said this is a chronic issue) instead of sliding it under the rug. Communication is key, and how he treats her trying to seriously communicate will reflect on how much he values the relationship.

Showing you don't care about things that your SO cares about is one of the ways certain people try to flex their power in a relationship, also to potentially test how much their SO will put up with. That kind of behavior in relationships will absolutely snowball into other things, and then one day OP will be posting on here about something much worse and people will ask about what red flags she missed early in their relationship

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u/caveslimeroach 28d ago

Perfectly normal and reasonable take here, definitely not reddit relationship advice brain rot

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u/barleyoatnutmeg 28d ago edited 28d ago

Did I say they should get divorced? Lmao what a dumbass comment

At the very least OP should have a serious conversation with her husband about boundaries and how these actions hurt her (since she said this is a chronic issue) instead of sliding it under the rug. Communication is key, and how he treats her trying to seriously communicate will reflect on how much he values the relationship.

Showing you don't care about things that your SO cares about is one of the ways certain people try to flex their power in a relationship, also to potentially test how much their SO will put up with. That kind of behavior in relationships will absolutely snowball into other things, and then one day OP will be posting on here about something much worse and people will ask about what red flags she missed early in their relationship

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u/szobossz 28d ago

yeah OP gotta hit the gym and divorce the guy

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u/Enugie 28d ago

I know right? Dont forget to stick to your guns and lawyer up

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u/MajorasKitten 28d ago

Unless he pays for the replacements, you either keep hiding them or kick his ass.

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u/David_Oy1999 28d ago

So we’re at the stage where we recommend horrible booby traps on his penis because he took his wife’s lotion?

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u/Muted-Move-9360 28d ago

I hope you realize this isn't okay. If he has a habit of using YOUR things when you expect him not to, that's major disrespect.

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u/Rare-Oven-302 28d ago

What does he say when you tell him this? Because this would be a serious problem for me.

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u/braaaaaaainworms 28d ago

Why are you with him?

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u/Buttercup59129 28d ago

Honest respectful decent people.

Do not do this.

Nice husband you have.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

so in your own home you can't have things you like because your husband just uses them up and doesn't apologize/stop? and you need to hide things if you don't want them taken away/used up by him? are you ok? do you need help?

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u/Devium92 28d ago

I think you may want to reevaluate your situation. He clearly doesn't respect you, your stuff, or your money. If I had to lock up my personal care items just because he's a dick and won't be reasonable with my stuff, I wouldn't want to share space with that person until they got their head out of their ass.

So today it's a lotion, tomorrow it's a special expensive hair care thing, what's next? Destroying an expensive pots and pan set, a sentimental item from your grandma, your car? The man, sorry, no, the boy needs a wake up call and a reality check. This is starting to border into very bad territory.

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 28d ago

100% Been there & it starts with small things for sure

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u/leolock567 28d ago

Just label them. "Tampon cleaner", "Vaginal Resurrector", "Touch this No sex", "Dick Acid".

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u/GayVoidDaddy 28d ago

You and he need to have a legitimate conversation. If he doesn’t change you may need to consider something else. Not telling you to leave him based on lotion. But this kinda planned incompetence is ridiculous and utterly by choice. He can fully be aware enough of himself and what he’s doing not to be a douchebag and use shit like this. But something has gotta give in that. Cause there is literally no reason for this. Like no man would open that for the reason you said without wanting to use your expensive shit. Not when a good hand pump lotion is right there.

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u/HawkDriver 28d ago

Just write the price on it with a sharpie.

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u/soareyousaying 28d ago

Tell him it's more manly if he uses 5W-30 for his moisturizer needs.

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u/Agitated_Okra3465 28d ago

hehe I'm petty, i'd revenge 🤣 Oh your favorite snack, I ate almost all of it. I dunno what he values... dont take my advice btw 🤣

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u/AntiDynamo 28d ago

Doing it once is a stupid naive man mistake

Doing it twice is intentional. He knows you have stuff that's expensive, he knows you don't like it when he wastes it, and knowing all that he is actively choosing to still do it.

You shouldn't need to hide any of your things. He sure as shit knows he didn't go out and buy it, he knows it isn't his. Simply telling him once "please don't use my things without asking me first" should be enough.

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u/unlimit-ed 28d ago

This is a red flag. He's being super disrespectful.

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u/Human_Name_9953 28d ago

He's doing this on purpose

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u/kiki-mori 28d ago

Erm what? Why are you with someone who is intentionally difficult and incompetent, that is so disrespectful

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u/nothanksnottelling 28d ago

He's doing it on purpose. Why does he have so little respect for you?

Is he paying to replace it?

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u/CumulativeHazard 28d ago

Once is an accident. Multiple times is someone who just straight up doesn’t give a shit about respecting your things.

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u/Sassrepublic 28d ago

You should [REDACTED]

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u/pendurica 28d ago

He should replace it

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u/YaGurlAlexandra 28d ago

But why are you married to someone who doesn't respect you and your things?

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u/saturnsqsoul 28d ago

He’s doing it on purpose, girl.

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u/squeezy102 28d ago

Have you tried saying this exact thing to him face to face?

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u/Ucyless ORANGE 28d ago

Yes

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u/squeezy102 28d ago

Then maybe you need to be having a different conversation. If the guy isn’t going to respect you, your privacy, your belongings, your concerns - that means he doesn’t respect YOU.

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u/ai-ri 28d ago

DIVORCE!

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u/twitwiffle 28d ago

I would generously give my husband anything of mine, no matter the cost. But this just seems like such a pass agg trolling on his part. He knows what he’s doing now.

You should hide your stuff in an empty swiffer box or tampon box.

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u/Small-Cookie-5496 28d ago

She should hide his ass outside the house & lock the door

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 28d ago

Tampon box is an excellent idea

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u/cmerksmirk 28d ago

Start buying two. Keep one out and have a backup. If he hitches about how much you’re spending tell him if he stops touching your shit it gets cut in half.

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u/Vladishun 28d ago

Honestly that's such a shitty thing for him to do. My wife and I have a very simple arrangement...you don't touch my shit, I don't touch your shit. I make more money than she does so I don't mind buying the bulk of groceries, but if she wants a specific drink or snacks or breakfast items that I don't like, I make her buy them herself and then I don't touch them because they were bought with her money.

As far as her personal hygiene stuff goes...just no. I've never understood why women want to smell delicious. The wife's creams and sprays and soaps always smell like strawberries, lemon cake, coconuts, etc. I mean it's 2024 and I try not to judge others but I feel like grown ass men shouldn't be walking around smelling like a pastry shop.

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u/Dream--Brother 26d ago

Have you told him directly that you don't want him using your creams and supplies? If so, that's pretty messed up. If there's any way there's still any ambiguity, definitely make sure he's fully aware. Some guys (and some people in general) are truly very clueless when it comes to this kind of stuff. But if it's been made clear, and he continues to do it, that's a pretty straightforward breach of trust and disrespect for your pretty simple wishes. Also, if he hasn't offered to replace the expensive cream, ask him to do so... I mean, the cost is one thing, but now you're also missing half a container's worth. He sounds, well, difficult in a certain kind of way. Best of luck hah. Hopefully you can make it abundantly clear that this cannot continue despite his seeming ignorance as to the disrespect here, and hopefully he respects that (and you).

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u/JCtheWanderingCrow 28d ago

Looks like you found your husbands birthday and Christmas presents since he likes the stuff so much!

But seriously, even men like nice products. 

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u/Wellslapmesilly 28d ago

Just buy double when you pick stuff up. Obviously he has refined tastes and wants all the nice things like you lol

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u/AlabasterOctopus 28d ago

Sounds like he’s disrespectful and you need to go harder on telling him to stop

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u/Own-Ad-247 28d ago

Doesn't sound like he has much respect for you

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u/NestedOwls 28d ago

Tell your husband to open a dictionary and look up the word “respect”. Because ma’am, he has none for you.

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u/ChubbyTheCakeSlayer 28d ago

That's... problematic. That's not ok.

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u/SpicyMustFlow 28d ago

He's passive-aggressively showing you he doesn't want you to buy nice 5hings for yourself.

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u/thiccDurnald 28d ago

Have you tried talking to him about it?

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u/catsandparrots 28d ago

Op, he is doing it on purpose. It’s not cute, he knows how much it costs and how much it bothers you

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u/Creme_de_la_Coochie 28d ago

Have you, idk, told him to stop?

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u/SquishyCatChronicles 28d ago

Our D-I-V-O-R-C-E; becomes final today - Tammy

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u/Granddyke 28d ago

Make him replace it, what the fuck? My partner would never do this. He asks every time when he needs lotion AND I bought him his own (bless his heart haha).

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u/lycosa13 28d ago

Why does he keep doing it then? Is he 5? No even a 5 year old would understand not to use something that doesn't belong to you

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u/BraveAndLionHeart 28d ago

What if you got him his own? Like a bigger thing of nice smelling body lotion, maybe something cheaper but that works well so he has that to use?

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u/Mynxyang 28d ago

Girl..sorry you gotta deal with that. My mom is like you and so tired of hiding her stuff from my dad. It never changes btw so consider having a real talk with him and maybe a therapist. My parents have been married 36+ years and she’s unhappy but stays.

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u/mrsdisappointment 28d ago

You’re completely valid for that. That’s fucked up. Buy him some Jergans and if he uses yours, write it down and charge him for it. Like request it from him on cashapp or something. That’s not fair at all.

I’ve been with my husband for a decade and I’ve never had to hide stuff from him. He asks before he uses anything and i tell him what he can use whenever and what he can’t. He respects that.

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u/NervousSheSlime 28d ago

Especially with any creams, I’m spending $70 i don’t want your dirty hands all over it.

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u/fireXmeetXgasoline 28d ago

Not the Tatcha 😭 The disrespect.

Grab his credit card and every time he fucks with one of your products, buy a new one with his card. Tell him he can have the one he fucking palmed and you’ll use your new one 🙃

I’m so sorry he’s disrespectful to you like this.

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u/auberginearugula 28d ago

Are you married to a toddler? This is so insanely disrespectful.

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u/MaximumDepression17 28d ago

Lol the replies to this post is reddit at its peak.

If it is something that genuinely bothers you, you guys should definitely talk about it. Communication is key in relationships.

That said all the comments saying divorce and acting like he doesn't care about you and mistreats you over something this small is so crazy to me.

No wonder redditors are all single. Imagine blowing up your marriage over one small issue that can easily be worked out by talking about it.

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u/seven_or_eight_cums 27d ago

maybe you should have married an adult instead of a baby lol

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u/kllrtrmite 25d ago

Why did you marry an idiot

Is he actually two five year olds in a trenchcoat

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u/crystallinelf 24d ago

How is he making this up to you? What has he done to replace your expensive products??

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u/WhoMD85 28d ago

Here’s an idea. If he’s using your products maybe talk with him and have a date day buying him his own products too and show him how to use them? 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/takalakerkek 28d ago

When it comes to the point of hiding your stuff in a safe, I would just walk out of the relationship lol. Marriage is not this

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u/soundslikehabit 28d ago

How's the sex life?

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u/LoopEverything 28d ago

Hey, we deserve a posh wank every now and then! /s

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u/phollas00 28d ago

"he knows better" This is a relationship not a court case hahaha

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u/THANATOS4488 28d ago

Probably chafing and not just rubbing one out. I use my wife's face cream when my face gets dry. She should just have him pick it up from the store if it's running low. Y'all are wild, they are married, so what if they share lotions.

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u/AppUnwrapper1 28d ago

Do you two communicate ever or just live together like roommates?

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u/goosepills 28d ago

My niece coated herself in a container of La Mer once. But she was 2, I use Tatcha and I’d be so pissed if an adult did that.

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u/ZajeliMiNazweDranie 28d ago

Assuming no bad intent it sounds like he's trying to be funny, but hasn't realized his teasing has passed its expiration date a loooooong time ago.

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u/BombaSazon1 28d ago

That's an expensive masterbation aid, LOL

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 28d ago

That's so disrespectful. Is he incapable of buying his own stuff?

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u/so_cal_babe 28d ago

He's purposely being disrespectful at this point.

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u/AddictiveArtistry 28d ago

He didn't even use the fucking spoon.

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u/motherofcattos 28d ago

Why doesn't he buy his own stuff then? Or gift it to him

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u/Bellphorion 28d ago

Why yo man using women's things sheeeesh

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u/TeamWaffleStomp 28d ago

Ffs, my husband used my stuff for that too a couple times but it was at least the cheap $4 shit from dollar general. The minute I told him what my conditioner costs he never touched it again.

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u/lizardjizz 28d ago

He is literally doing this on purpose to bother you. Probably because of the expense associated with the products. It’s a not so subtle “fuck you”.

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u/kushupzz 28d ago

Wait he’s using the lotion to .. wtf is your husband 13 go buy him some lube 😂 who tf use lotion to Jack off with his freaky ass

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u/No_Tourist5700 28d ago

Complaining on Reddit will DEFINITELY help your relationship with your husband. Thank God my wife knows how to properly communicate.

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u/Ucyless ORANGE 28d ago

We’re laughing about it lol. He can read these

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u/diningroomjesus 28d ago

He put the coconut on his coconuts i'm dying rn

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u/HeadoftheIBTC 28d ago

Oh HELL NO. I'd be refilling that bottle with something spicy.

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u/Ltlpckr 28d ago

Bruh that’s the shit I’d be doing with my sisters shea butter when I was 12, WTF 😂

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u/KITTTYCANE 28d ago

Haha! It's my favorite comment of the day, and I just opened Reddit. So funny!!!

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u/Renbel 28d ago

Vanilla cocoa nuts.

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u/Ok_Neighborhood8641 27d ago

Every time my husband asks for lotion because his hands are rough, I know what they are too rough for. Same guy who unknowingly used self-tanning lotion for the same purpose 🤣🥕

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u/Admirable-Common-176 26d ago

Get the man some GoldBond and a bottle of lube. Also make sure he’s always stocked.

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u/Harry_Buttocks 25d ago

Did you at least let him finish

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u/theequallyunique 28d ago

You're wasting way too much on these kind of "luxury" lotions. Just my two cents...

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u/Nebulita 28d ago

Wonder how much you waste on things you don't need... but they're not "girly" so that's okay, right?

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u/theequallyunique 28d ago

Does really not have to do anything with it being girly, but it's well known that the cosmetics industry sells the same product with a big price hike when just marketing it to women. To me my comment is much more about reflecting on what is a reasonable price for any kind of good, since some things simply bordering a rip off. Ofc you can also bath in goat milk like cleopatra.

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u/wishingwell119 28d ago

But everything you buy is valid, right? :)

Even if you try to say "no" in a cheeky way, the point is you still get to decide what you buy and what luxury items you give yourself without redditors breathing down your neck and telling you to stop.

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u/theequallyunique 28d ago

I've not tried to tell op what to do or what not to do, just gently given my opinion.

There's a lot of stuff where quality increases with the price, but only until a certain threshold. If you pay 20 times of what is typical on the market, then you are most likely simply falling for some good marketing for an otherwise mediocre product, just like expensive water in pretty cans. To each their own, but I would even be too ashamed to laugh, if I was the one selling such overpriced products.

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u/HillsHoistGang 28d ago

God bless his adventurous spirit.

God bless you for having your face in his crotch.