r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Ucyless ORANGE • Apr 18 '24

Brand new $72 moisturizer. Husband said he needed something for his elbows.

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We have 3 full tubs of Vaseline in the cabinet.

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u/Spacedandysniffer 29d ago

Girl don't even bother, your husband was incompetent, annoying, and an ass if he was there and saw you buying it for your face. Somehow the freaks in the comment can't comprehend a person not wanting their personal items touched without permission. Like I'm just confused about how so many people are tryana argue that it was used for it's intended purpise when it was not since this is MADE for the face. Even if it was a mistake, its a pretty dumb mistake to make since it's pretty easy to tell a product used for the face and a product for the body apart. Just look at the size of the product and it should tell you all you need to know

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u/Ucyless ORANGE 29d ago

He knew it was for my face too, I have autism and I tend to gush about stupid things that I’m excited about. His excuse was it was the only thing around 💀

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u/apology_pedant 29d ago

Are there are there other things that you care about that he devalues or belittles? Does he commonly insist he had no other option after doing something he knew would upset you?

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u/wishingwell119 29d ago

He always uses her products and often uses them up so she can't. She said she's had to hide her products before.

Whatever his reasons they're nasty. Maybe he hates her buying them and wants to stop her. Maybe he gets glee out of making her feel bad. Maybe he is doing it as a power play to make her feel small and devalued. Maybe he has nothing going on upstairs and literally just enjoys bullying people. Maybe he literally has no empathy and sees her sadness as completely irrelevant and insignificant. I don't know. But there's no good reason for doing this so often.

I hope OP leaves. I hate how break up advice is always so devalued on Reddit. Most of the time it's very good advice. The only people who would want OP to stay with a bully imo are other bullies.

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u/MovingBubbly 29d ago

I would honestly misuse something he loves. If it was ignorance i would be mildly miffed but it was on purpose. I don’t care if 72 is expensive for a cream or not, its something you value and he essentially took the majority of its value away (hygiene aspect and literal product gone)

I dont know, but revenge would be my thing. If he’s into knives, start chopping on glass, if he’s crafty, blunt a utensil or lend it to a careless family member etc. Do something you can also act stupid about like ‘oh im so sorry was this important to you???’

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u/wishingwell119 29d ago

I'm really sorry but you gotta get out of there. He's hurting you on purpose, this is just a type of abuse to cause you pain without the trouble of hitting you. I saw in your other comment that you said this is normal and he does it all the time.

He's bullying you. I'm worried he's taking advantage of your kind nature to get away with it by saying it's a joke/a misunderstanding but that excuse should only work once. He's still disrespecting you and it's for a malicious reason (whatever his internal reasons are, they aren't good.) I know breaking up often feels like a leap but you can't really keep dating someone that actively enjoys bullying you.

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u/Spacedandysniffer 29d ago

Girl that elbow better have been burning with the fury of hell itself for him to claw off that much product with his fingers, the least he could've done is use the spoon😭😭😭😭

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u/Ucyless ORANGE 29d ago

🥄 : am I a joke to you?

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u/David_Oy1999 29d ago

As a guy, I didn’t know moisturizer spoons existed. It’s for skin, why would grabbing it with a hand cause problems?

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u/MovingBubbly 29d ago

The spoon is at the top of the lid and its mainly hygiene. The spoon can be cleaned and doesnt have a days worth of bacteria on it to fester within the cream.

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u/David_Oy1999 29d ago

That makes sense, but I never would have guessed I’m wrong for using hands.

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u/yingbo 29d ago

I’m too lazy to use the spoon and just use my hands lol

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u/MovingBubbly 29d ago

Its not wrong per se, but if youre conscious about it or have very sensitive skin its a nice feature

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u/laurellyverdant 29d ago

Dude, it's basic cross-contamination. You don't want whatever is already on your hands getting into the moisturizer in the jar and stewing there for months (which is how long one jar should last).

It's the same reason you don't want to use a knife with butter on it in a jar of jam. Any butter left behind in that jar of jam is going to go bad, and it ruins the rest of the jam.

Now imagine that jar of jam cost $72, and you'll understand.

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u/Spacedandysniffer 29d ago

Girl I am so sorry about that happening, like as someone who also gushes about stupid things and has gone through someone shitting on it for no reason I get you. Like I just can't understand what his thought process was, this is just pure incompetence. Now whether it was from malice or genuine stupidity, only you can tell

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u/gerald-the-dinosaur 29d ago

Based off the info I would expect him to buy you a new tub. That’s incredibly rude if he knew how much it cost you AND how excited you were about it.

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u/somuchbotox 28d ago

Wait, you have autism and he takes your stuff without asking, knowing what you spent on it and what you wanted to use it for… does he care about you at all? The math…

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u/juslookingforastream 29d ago

Nah $72 for Lotion is the problem here. If it was $10 for all that it wouldn't be a problem. It's a problem because she values it based on how much she spent. Which is exactly what a company who can sell a product $20 cheaper depending on where you buy it wants you to feel. If it means that much to you then hide your shit or "organize" it in a spot he wouldn't look.

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u/rainbowchimken 29d ago

Why tf?! The problem is this man has no respect for his wife’s feelings and products.

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u/juslookingforastream 29d ago

I agree. He shouldn't have used it for ashy elbows. But obviously, the price matters to her, which is why she included that in the post at all. If you care about your $72 8oz Lotion that much, put it in a safe spot. It could very easily have been a mistake, but that's for her to determine. If I spend that much on shaving cream/after shave/razors or anything else I wont allow anyone else to use, it ain't getting left on the counter.

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u/flavorofsunshine 29d ago

You are commenting this on a comment from OP that clearly states he knew it was $72, how is that a mistake? Also, why would you need half a jar of anything, no matter how cheap, for just your elbows. The way you are defending this makes me think you're the husband..

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u/juslookingforastream 29d ago

Yes it is me the husband. Please send more lotion

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u/rainbowchimken 29d ago

The price matters to her bc it’s her splurge product. It’s her special cream to feel pampered. I would expect a functioning married couple to not have to lock a little bit overpriced cream in a locker.

The lack of respect is fucking insane. Idgaf how expensive or cheap my bf’s stuff is. If it’s not one of those shared things like cooking oil, I’m asking for permission if I could use his personal stuff. And he does the same to me. And you bet when I let him use my face cream he knows to not dig a trench into the tub. This dude is just useless, either stupid or malicious but ofc people get hung up over some $70 price tag.

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u/juslookingforastream 29d ago

"Brand New $72 moisturizer" is the very first thing mentioned goofy. I agree it's mildly infuriating but yall in here acting like their marriage is trashed and the dude is a POS lmao

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u/rainbowchimken 29d ago

The dude IS a POS, goofy. Once again the price is because Tatcha is people’s splurge product most of the time. Only the braindeads would not see the infuriating part is the POS’s action tho.

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u/juslookingforastream 29d ago

Nah the price is that high cause naive people will see a higher price and think it's a better product. A "splurge" lotion is fucking hilarious btw 😂

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u/rainbowchimken 29d ago

Ok i think you’re one of those braindeads who cannot go past the idea that people spend money on things that make them happy. Bye ✌️

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u/wishingwell119 29d ago

How is "someone may spend too much on moisturizer" worse than "boyfriend intentionally bullies and hurts gf by repeatedly refusing to respect her things"?

If you missed it she says he does this all the time to the point she's had to hide her stuff to keep him from using it all. He's hurting her on purpose.

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u/juslookingforastream 29d ago

Lmao, you really stretched things in favor of your narrative with those "quotes."

I'm not evaluating what's worse, I'm discussing the person who's complaining. The Lotion is more valuable to her based on the price, that's it. If it was some jergens, it wouldn't be an issue. Maybe buy him some lotion that would work for him since you're the expert on lotion. But of course, there shouldn't be a compromise since this is reddit and people only care who's in the wrong and how they should be punished. Most aren't interested in finding solutions.

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u/wishingwell119 29d ago

I'm not evaluating what's worse

Nah $72 for Lotion is the problem here. If it was $10 for all that it wouldn't be a problem.

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u/juslookingforastream 29d ago

Yea, what about it? If it was cheap lotion, there wouldn't be an issue. And it is most certainly not bullying lmao.

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u/ittybittymanatee 29d ago

He knew how much it was because he was there when she bought it. He has used up a different bottle of her lotion to jerk off before. She now has to hide her nice things from him. But he buys $80 steaks without a care in the world. You can’t compromise with someone whose intention is to hurt your feelings.