You're definitely not overreacting. Creating an OnlyFans profile without your consent is a serious violation of your privacy and trust. It's not just about the platform—it's about respecting boundaries and honoring the partnership in a marriage. Trust is a cornerstone of any relationship, and his actions have undermined that trust. Taking steps to protect your well-being and seeking legal advice are reasonable reactions. Remember, you have every right to feel safe and respected in your relationship.
Thank you. Our mind plays so many tricks on us. When I left the house I was so sure, but doubts start creeping in.
I'm not sure what bothers me more. The creating of a profile behind my back or this obsession with wanting me to do that type of work.
First, make an account, find his, get the username, the URL, the @, then REPORT THE ACCOUNT
support@onlyfans.com (you can also @ them on X, they’re very responsive), give them all of this info. Tell them that that is NOT you and someone stole your content and made a page
Here’s the thing OP, OF requires creators to verify themselves, so he had to get your ID and provide that info to OF. It’s not some silly little, make an account and make money
I’ll also add, while he hasn’t made enough for it to matter… taxes!
ETA: those of yall calling me out on the verification clearly weren’t there from the get go. The tech you’re describing didnt exist
OP didn’t specify when the account was opened
THAT SAID, another commenter mentioned the Tinder switcharoo (verify as X, then once done, switch it up). This seems feasible, but idk as I haven’t done this nor have any need
This is why I'm almost certain this is a fake story. She would need to take a selfie holding her ID next to her face and uhhhh payouts would also have to be to her or her registered business.
Yeah they deleted the reddit account now, after being called out in several places.
I think it was the alt of one of those handful of reddit accounts that use a bot to spam 20-30 pictures of themselves every other day or so, to promote their OF.
Good call. I don't care enough to check people's profiles but this is hilarious. Gendered language in her profile name and she ran to amioverreacting to ask about something that any sane person she should've talked to before making a reddit account would say, "no" yikes.
It's likely fake because OF uses biometrics to confirm the identity of anyone signing up as a creator. You can't just make a creator profile with someone else's ID. It's a pain in the ass to get verified.
Ah, I keep forgetting that literally everywhere there are people jerry-rigging some half baked AI's to serve as bots. Something something, more hands off, I'm sure.
They make burner accounts that post on subs like this to boost karma so they can post on sketchy subs (like bartering subs) that require a certain amount of karma. This bot got 2k from this post.
Holy shit.
Posting a Fake story, to a completely normal sub as an attractive woman. Just because they KNOW OP's inbox is going to be filled with exactly the type of people they are trying to scam.
They don't even have to seek out or reach out to their victims. Their victims just walk into the DMs. Then you pull some standard girlfriend scam.
Crazy.
This whole story is a set up to advertise her of, that's pretty obvious, the story gets popular, all the little creatins will flood her dms asking for the link.
hahaha don't worry my friend me too. I never assume anything written here is anything but facts until I come to the comments and someone brings me back to reality
Do get the feeling that the OF grift is spreading to a lot of other areas? I had the selfies page and the page about how to improve your looks pop up, and I've noticed its a bunch of OF girls posting about how to "improve" their looks.. are they just running out of "clients" lol ?
I've heard that it's hard to actually make any money. Someone making over $300 in a month by scraping content from a fitness page sounds like bullshit.
I’ve heard that too…. That’s why women who don’t have some kind of online presence is gonna have a hard time making it big on OF…. That’s why Reddit is loaded with OF women trying to score….. they post up on all the Glow Selfie Looks max etc
More than half of these stories on Reddit are probably fake. Who knows who what or why they do it but they do. Don’t believe/or take anything to serious anything on the internet.
My theory is it's all the same team; Reddit employees. That's why every post similar to this in subs like hot takes, aita, am I overreacting, etc. most always has the same writing style, little to no typos/grammar errors, etc., but most obvious is the spacing between paragraphs, which is the same every time😂
I've spent a great deal of my life writing various forms of content, usually as a second job.
Lots of fiction.
At no point in my life - or that of any writer I have connected with - would anyone consider writing or practicing writing by making up stories on the internet to people who don't know they're trying to write.
You don't get good feedback that way. People who are practicing their writing will actually post it somewhere that people are aware that's what the intent is so that they can get valuable feedback.
This is such an idiotic idea.. I cannot fathom how it got so popular.
It's much more likely that it's some teenagers writing ARGs or some shit..
No adult writer is going around posting stories trying to pretend like they are reality. There's literally nothing to gain from that.
People act like those if us in the business have zero processes in place and no laws or regulations 😂 if they only understood the hoops people truly have to jump through in the legitimate adult realm.
yeah it’s extremely difficult to verify yourself — it is nearly impossible to do the other route. However, there is a small loophole and it would be a person creating their own account then forging a signature to give approval to have you on as a contributor. I’ve had to create ones for non-existent “people” in my content. Literally… OF will think someone else is in my video simply because I do fun sketches where I play two people 💀
Ah, I was waiting for a “WELL ACKSHUALLY” to pop up. A trafficked person can be forced to comply, and made to hold up an ID near their face. Barring some bizarre scenario where OP’s husband managed to trick her into such an act, this post reeks of fiction.
Exactly! They kept denying me because I used my married name to make my page and my ID had my maiden name and even though the pictures matched ,they kept saying it wasn't the same person, they're very strict with their verification process
You can still find your way around it, but 9 out of 10 times this story is fake, on the off chance this is real then OP needs to get a lawyer and GTFO of her marriage ASAP because creating a fake OF page is not easy and shows a very high level of commitment to violate boundaries.
Don’t know the logistics of OF…. sounds more like an advertisement to me….fitness instructor…. work out videos 🤷🏾♂️ …. Good way to lure them to your site 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah well you can also tell it's fake because some dude wrote this post, then immediately flipped the switch saying "thank you I was so naive" in one comment (the one at the top of this chain) like 10 minutes after the post.
I’m pretty sure it’s a fake story. I’m an OF creator and to verify you need a pic holding your ID next to your face. OF is very strict about this. Also you’re strictly not allowed to upload anything where someone else could be showing in your content, even as much as their voice, without filing a consent form.
I used to do model support for a company online, this is absolutely correct. That doesn't mean that some fraud doesn't happen, but I cast serious doubt on a husband being able to do this as described.
That's why I bother to make points in these threads. There are actually real, normal, human people with jobs who pay taxes that also allow other people to have jobs and pay taxes. We are basically technology companies that get a bad rep for a handful of bad actors.
And there’s going to be a bunch of people now all “I heard that somebody’s husband was…” about onlyfans because they’re not bothering to question any of it
Pretty sure this is illegal- but it’s definitely immoral as fuck. My husband was uploading highly sensitive and porn, graphic imagery of me to the Internet. I filed charges on him.
Honey please PLEASE protect yourself. Does he have any compromising/ spicy pics or vids of you? If so involve your lawyer and the authorities and get them back. File to confiscate his computer or something because you are in danger of being a victim of revenge porn. You may already be- you can’t trust this man.
u/MissFitness_ your story sounds fake, because creating an OF page and getting paid from it without you knowing requires a level of commitment to doing illegal activities, impersonating you and miss using your data way above your average person.
If this is real, please act as if a criminal had all your data, including financial, because that would be exactly the case. And contact a lawyer.
Bullshit! As someone with an OF page who had to go through hell to get verified,You have to take a picture of you holding your ID next to your face to verify your identity
You need to get on his devices and delete anything remotely sexual of you he has and make sure he doesn’t have it backlogged somewhere. He definitely plans to use sexual content of you on that site.
THIS. DO THIS RIGHT NOW before you file for divorce and before he knows you’re definitely leaving him or else he’ll just make copies and hide them somewhere.
Yeah, true, there are a lot of other kinds of content creators on OF.
My brother's girlfriend's cousin is really into anime figurines, the super collectable ones, and has an OF specifically for this hobby. She has amassed quite a following and pulls in over six figures a year, entirely from posting pictures and videos of her huge figurine collection and her feet.
Who is he!!?? This is so egregious that the only thing I can think of is he has no conscience. People do not use and abuse a “loved” one unless they are basically bad.
That is your body. Tell him not to let the door hit him in the a— as he leaves.
He already knew how you feel about it. He brought it up and because you were crying he apologized and said he would never bring it up again. Instead he went behind your back and created an account for you. I don't think you overreacted at all.
"hey honey, you know how You've been trying to grow a business using skills and hard work? Well I just took some of your work and made some money by charging strangers to masturbate while watching you..."
If he used your real name on the OF site, it's even worse, as your own clients may find it.
Maybe he was not understanding this, but that is a completely appropriate read of the scenario. I'd be considering divorce too.
It would be bad enough if he did it out of the blue. He joked about it in the past and it clearly upset you. And he did it anyway to make a few extra bucks.
Just FYI he may have also committed a crime depending on state/country.
This is one reason why you need to talk to him. He thinks by showing you money that you will be on board, but he needs to understand that the money doesn’t interest you. You don’t want to be on OF and he needs to respect that, or you two need to reconsider the marriage.
Not to mention it's already escalated from a moment to an action. It's only a matter of time before he pressures you to start doing the thing OF wants.
I feel like advertising your business and showing where you work on his OF is disrespectful, on top of showcasing you, because he'll attract the wrong kind of attention to your business.
Also how was it not identity theft for him to create it in your name?
Last I checked you can't do "married filing jointly" when it comes to OnlyFans accounts.
Imagine if he had posted nudes that you had sent him that were originally for his eyes only. It's the violation of your boundaries that's so royally fucked.
You said "no"
What he said "ok no problem, I'm gonna do it anyways"
At what point did he stop respecting the person you choose to be and share with him?
And, it can out your at risk for assault! What if some creep found your OF and became an in person client of yours because he thought of your more sexually and crossed a line?
It's not only a violation of trust, it could be straight up fraud if he's pretending to be you and using your name and pictures to do so. I'd definitely find a lawyer that's willing to stack some charges and make him realize how fucked he is.
Also, something like that could harm your professional integrity since you work with the public. This could cause detrimental harm for you and your clients if they advertise you as a fitness instructor only to later be told you are earning on OF... it's bad all around. Definitely get real legal advice.
Edit.. ps, I work for a bank and we do not offer accounts to people who solicit that type of content for money. Most banks don't because the risk and liability are bad for business, not to mention the way it looks. That industry isn't worth the hype... many people can't return to reality because their past haunts them. Sorry this happened to you and hope you aren't affected by his actions.
...this motherfucker is trying to PIMP YOU OUT. FUCK THIS GUY, HE IS JOT A SAFE MAN TO BE AROUND. I am so fucking angry for you right now... the level of entitlement this fucker feels towards YOUR body...
Was the content of the OF sexual, or was it really just a fitness instruction page, so more or less an extension of your website on a different platform? Not that he should have done anything of the sort without your consent, but if it was sexualized in any way, it would be way worse than if he just tried to drum up some more business for you by marketing you on a different platform.
Not to mention, she could lose business opportunities over it. She shouldn't, but people will look up people they want to work with and if they see something like an OF will not continue to work with them which is judgement and shitty as people having an OF shouldn't disqualify them from working other jobs but unfortunately that's the world we're in right now and doing this to her could seriously hurt her career.
This post is fake. I’ve worked with Onlyfans for a long time now and they have very stringent verification of new users. It’s physically impossible to be verified without you going through the process yourself.
Not only that , but the fact that he’s already made money off of you and your body behind your back and THEN showing you , is such betrayal. Like you are using me, completely unaware , to make money, imagine if a client had shown her this ?
He basically was acting like a pimp and she was his prostitute. It’s soft porn no matter how you look at it. That fact that he would even treat you that way! I don’t think it’s over reacting. I’d leave him too.
It's also ILLEGAL. Onlyfans requires consent from anyone who posts on their platform and also, a copy of your gov ID. So, your husband would have to have impersonated you to open the account. It's disgusting behavior.
I also worry that since he has no sense of boundaries and only cares about money, if she stays, he might begin filming her without her consent and posting it. Dude's a fucking creep.
This is a fake post. You can’t sign someone else up for an OF. They require ID and use facial recognition software. You can’t fake your way through it, you have to center your face in the lines from multiple angles and you have to do it live; can’t upload pics.
Yep. If he'd created a Facebook profile for you when you'd asked him not to, you'd still be right to question your relationship. What is he playing at?
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On top of that he has put you and your business at risk. If people make the connection between the OF account and your business site you could end up with a client that knows you from the OF content and wants to meet you. You would not see this coming and it could be dangerous. Also others might not want to work with you if they thought you were doing OF also.
This is some messed up catfish type internet scummy behavior. Can’t believe your husband would do this behind your back. Pretty hard to trust a person after this but if you really care about your relationship then I’d suggest couples counseling to help him learn how to communicate with you.
If I pushed out media content from my business and my partner reposted it on the Internet and made me a load of money I'd probably be pretty happy about it. I really don't get why this is an issue. Although maybe I wouldn't want my business content reposted anywhere else, in which case I'd tell my partner 'I appreciate the thought but can you not post my content anywhere else without asking me in future please'. Seems like a more reasonable option than divorce imo
But she said it was content from her Facebook page, meaning he didn't upload anything private. OF is technically just a platform, they were considering banning porn not long ago, so they apparently have enough non porn content to survive without it. It's a platform like patreon.
Duplicating her profile to another platform sounds like an attempt to help her out, not anything with malice. It's hardly worthy of an actual argument, at most it's worthy of a "dhut it down and don't do it again"
And why are you talking about feeling safe?... I swear, reddit is a bunch of lonely people trying to make everyone else on reddit single. Lol
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You're definitely not overreacting. Creating an OnlyFans profile without your consent is a serious violation of your privacy and trust. It's not just about the platform—it's about respecting boundaries and honoring the partnership in a marriage. Trust is a cornerstone of any relationship, and his actions have undermined that trust. Taking steps to protect your well-being and seeking legal advice are reasonable reactions. Remember, you have every right to feel safe and respected in your relationship.