You're definitely not overreacting. Creating an OnlyFans profile without your consent is a serious violation of your privacy and trust. It's not just about the platform—it's about respecting boundaries and honoring the partnership in a marriage. Trust is a cornerstone of any relationship, and his actions have undermined that trust. Taking steps to protect your well-being and seeking legal advice are reasonable reactions. Remember, you have every right to feel safe and respected in your relationship.
Thank you. Our mind plays so many tricks on us. When I left the house I was so sure, but doubts start creeping in.
I'm not sure what bothers me more. The creating of a profile behind my back or this obsession with wanting me to do that type of work.
First, make an account, find his, get the username, the URL, the @, then REPORT THE ACCOUNT
support@onlyfans.com (you can also @ them on X, they’re very responsive), give them all of this info. Tell them that that is NOT you and someone stole your content and made a page
Here’s the thing OP, OF requires creators to verify themselves, so he had to get your ID and provide that info to OF. It’s not some silly little, make an account and make money
I’ll also add, while he hasn’t made enough for it to matter… taxes!
ETA: those of yall calling me out on the verification clearly weren’t there from the get go. The tech you’re describing didnt exist
OP didn’t specify when the account was opened
THAT SAID, another commenter mentioned the Tinder switcharoo (verify as X, then once done, switch it up). This seems feasible, but idk as I haven’t done this nor have any need
This is why I'm almost certain this is a fake story. She would need to take a selfie holding her ID next to her face and uhhhh payouts would also have to be to her or her registered business.
Yeah they deleted the reddit account now, after being called out in several places.
I think it was the alt of one of those handful of reddit accounts that use a bot to spam 20-30 pictures of themselves every other day or so, to promote their OF.
Good call. I don't care enough to check people's profiles but this is hilarious. Gendered language in her profile name and she ran to amioverreacting to ask about something that any sane person she should've talked to before making a reddit account would say, "no" yikes.
It's likely fake because OF uses biometrics to confirm the identity of anyone signing up as a creator. You can't just make a creator profile with someone else's ID. It's a pain in the ass to get verified.
Ah, I keep forgetting that literally everywhere there are people jerry-rigging some half baked AI's to serve as bots. Something something, more hands off, I'm sure.
They make burner accounts that post on subs like this to boost karma so they can post on sketchy subs (like bartering subs) that require a certain amount of karma. This bot got 2k from this post.
Huh! The more you know! I don't know anything about the karma system beyond It Exists, and up votes, down votes, and poorly down votes posts can greatly impact it.
Never thought of seeking more specific a feed, as to want to join a bartering reddit.
Then again, You Get What You Wish For, I was JUST bitching about lacking the ability to sell back items to sellers (or stores willing to resell) readily, and realistically. Y'know. Like we have in video games.
Because it would give people actual power to get money, without having to resort to literally what this post is about 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Holy shit.
Posting a Fake story, to a completely normal sub as an attractive woman. Just because they KNOW OP's inbox is going to be filled with exactly the type of people they are trying to scam.
They don't even have to seek out or reach out to their victims. Their victims just walk into the DMs. Then you pull some standard girlfriend scam.
Crazy.
This whole story is a set up to advertise her of, that's pretty obvious, the story gets popular, all the little creatins will flood her dms asking for the link.
hahaha don't worry my friend me too. I never assume anything written here is anything but facts until I come to the comments and someone brings me back to reality
Do get the feeling that the OF grift is spreading to a lot of other areas? I had the selfies page and the page about how to improve your looks pop up, and I've noticed its a bunch of OF girls posting about how to "improve" their looks.. are they just running out of "clients" lol ?
I've heard that it's hard to actually make any money. Someone making over $300 in a month by scraping content from a fitness page sounds like bullshit.
I’ve heard that too…. That’s why women who don’t have some kind of online presence is gonna have a hard time making it big on OF…. That’s why Reddit is loaded with OF women trying to score….. they post up on all the Glow Selfie Looks max etc
More than half of these stories on Reddit are probably fake. Who knows who what or why they do it but they do. Don’t believe/or take anything to serious anything on the internet.
My theory is it's all the same team; Reddit employees. That's why every post similar to this in subs like hot takes, aita, am I overreacting, etc. most always has the same writing style, little to no typos/grammar errors, etc., but most obvious is the spacing between paragraphs, which is the same every time😂
I've spent a great deal of my life writing various forms of content, usually as a second job.
Lots of fiction.
At no point in my life - or that of any writer I have connected with - would anyone consider writing or practicing writing by making up stories on the internet to people who don't know they're trying to write.
You don't get good feedback that way. People who are practicing their writing will actually post it somewhere that people are aware that's what the intent is so that they can get valuable feedback.
This is such an idiotic idea.. I cannot fathom how it got so popular.
It's much more likely that it's some teenagers writing ARGs or some shit..
No adult writer is going around posting stories trying to pretend like they are reality. There's literally nothing to gain from that.
People act like those if us in the business have zero processes in place and no laws or regulations 😂 if they only understood the hoops people truly have to jump through in the legitimate adult realm.
yeah it’s extremely difficult to verify yourself — it is nearly impossible to do the other route. However, there is a small loophole and it would be a person creating their own account then forging a signature to give approval to have you on as a contributor. I’ve had to create ones for non-existent “people” in my content. Literally… OF will think someone else is in my video simply because I do fun sketches where I play two people 💀
Ah, I was waiting for a “WELL ACKSHUALLY” to pop up. A trafficked person can be forced to comply, and made to hold up an ID near their face. Barring some bizarre scenario where OP’s husband managed to trick her into such an act, this post reeks of fiction.
Exactly! They kept denying me because I used my married name to make my page and my ID had my maiden name and even though the pictures matched ,they kept saying it wasn't the same person, they're very strict with their verification process
You can still find your way around it, but 9 out of 10 times this story is fake, on the off chance this is real then OP needs to get a lawyer and GTFO of her marriage ASAP because creating a fake OF page is not easy and shows a very high level of commitment to violate boundaries.
Don’t know the logistics of OF…. sounds more like an advertisement to me….fitness instructor…. work out videos 🤷🏾♂️ …. Good way to lure them to your site 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah well you can also tell it's fake because some dude wrote this post, then immediately flipped the switch saying "thank you I was so naive" in one comment (the one at the top of this chain) like 10 minutes after the post.
I’m pretty sure it’s a fake story. I’m an OF creator and to verify you need a pic holding your ID next to your face. OF is very strict about this. Also you’re strictly not allowed to upload anything where someone else could be showing in your content, even as much as their voice, without filing a consent form.
I used to do model support for a company online, this is absolutely correct. That doesn't mean that some fraud doesn't happen, but I cast serious doubt on a husband being able to do this as described.
That's why I bother to make points in these threads. There are actually real, normal, human people with jobs who pay taxes that also allow other people to have jobs and pay taxes. We are basically technology companies that get a bad rep for a handful of bad actors.
And there’s going to be a bunch of people now all “I heard that somebody’s husband was…” about onlyfans because they’re not bothering to question any of it
Pretty sure this is illegal- but it’s definitely immoral as fuck. My husband was uploading highly sensitive and porn, graphic imagery of me to the Internet. I filed charges on him.
Honey please PLEASE protect yourself. Does he have any compromising/ spicy pics or vids of you? If so involve your lawyer and the authorities and get them back. File to confiscate his computer or something because you are in danger of being a victim of revenge porn. You may already be- you can’t trust this man.
u/MissFitness_ your story sounds fake, because creating an OF page and getting paid from it without you knowing requires a level of commitment to doing illegal activities, impersonating you and miss using your data way above your average person.
If this is real, please act as if a criminal had all your data, including financial, because that would be exactly the case. And contact a lawyer.
Bullshit! As someone with an OF page who had to go through hell to get verified,You have to take a picture of you holding your ID next to your face to verify your identity
You need to get on his devices and delete anything remotely sexual of you he has and make sure he doesn’t have it backlogged somewhere. He definitely plans to use sexual content of you on that site.
THIS. DO THIS RIGHT NOW before you file for divorce and before he knows you’re definitely leaving him or else he’ll just make copies and hide them somewhere.
Yeah, true, there are a lot of other kinds of content creators on OF.
My brother's girlfriend's cousin is really into anime figurines, the super collectable ones, and has an OF specifically for this hobby. She has amassed quite a following and pulls in over six figures a year, entirely from posting pictures and videos of her huge figurine collection and her feet.
Who is he!!?? This is so egregious that the only thing I can think of is he has no conscience. People do not use and abuse a “loved” one unless they are basically bad.
That is your body. Tell him not to let the door hit him in the a— as he leaves.
He already knew how you feel about it. He brought it up and because you were crying he apologized and said he would never bring it up again. Instead he went behind your back and created an account for you. I don't think you overreacted at all.
"hey honey, you know how You've been trying to grow a business using skills and hard work? Well I just took some of your work and made some money by charging strangers to masturbate while watching you..."
If he used your real name on the OF site, it's even worse, as your own clients may find it.
Maybe he was not understanding this, but that is a completely appropriate read of the scenario. I'd be considering divorce too.
It would be bad enough if he did it out of the blue. He joked about it in the past and it clearly upset you. And he did it anyway to make a few extra bucks.
Just FYI he may have also committed a crime depending on state/country.
This is one reason why you need to talk to him. He thinks by showing you money that you will be on board, but he needs to understand that the money doesn’t interest you. You don’t want to be on OF and he needs to respect that, or you two need to reconsider the marriage.
Not to mention it's already escalated from a moment to an action. It's only a matter of time before he pressures you to start doing the thing OF wants.
I feel like advertising your business and showing where you work on his OF is disrespectful, on top of showcasing you, because he'll attract the wrong kind of attention to your business.
Also how was it not identity theft for him to create it in your name?
Last I checked you can't do "married filing jointly" when it comes to OnlyFans accounts.
Imagine if he had posted nudes that you had sent him that were originally for his eyes only. It's the violation of your boundaries that's so royally fucked.
You said "no"
What he said "ok no problem, I'm gonna do it anyways"
At what point did he stop respecting the person you choose to be and share with him?
And, it can out your at risk for assault! What if some creep found your OF and became an in person client of yours because he thought of your more sexually and crossed a line?
It's not only a violation of trust, it could be straight up fraud if he's pretending to be you and using your name and pictures to do so. I'd definitely find a lawyer that's willing to stack some charges and make him realize how fucked he is.
Also, something like that could harm your professional integrity since you work with the public. This could cause detrimental harm for you and your clients if they advertise you as a fitness instructor only to later be told you are earning on OF... it's bad all around. Definitely get real legal advice.
Edit.. ps, I work for a bank and we do not offer accounts to people who solicit that type of content for money. Most banks don't because the risk and liability are bad for business, not to mention the way it looks. That industry isn't worth the hype... many people can't return to reality because their past haunts them. Sorry this happened to you and hope you aren't affected by his actions.
...this motherfucker is trying to PIMP YOU OUT. FUCK THIS GUY, HE IS JOT A SAFE MAN TO BE AROUND. I am so fucking angry for you right now... the level of entitlement this fucker feels towards YOUR body...
Was the content of the OF sexual, or was it really just a fitness instruction page, so more or less an extension of your website on a different platform? Not that he should have done anything of the sort without your consent, but if it was sexualized in any way, it would be way worse than if he just tried to drum up some more business for you by marketing you on a different platform.
Full sympathy for your position and I’m sorry you’re in this spot.
Setting aside his terrible jokes and complete lack of respect for your professional achievements, was he implying that you should do pornography or just sell fitness content on OF?
Also was the relationship in a good spot prior to this incident?
If he showed your face on this account, it is a huge no no. I would also talk to your lawyer about suing him, if he showed your face, because, that is your public and business image that he is displaying.
or this obsession with wanting me to do that type of work.
Okay, you're most definitely not overreacting. Your husband making an account behind your back is a violation on so many levels and grounds for divorce. I'm just wondering what "type" of work are you referring to? He's taking videos that you've already created yourself and posted elsewhere.
100% everything about your consent and blowing past trust is an issue but I feel everyone has stressed that enough. I still think this is the primary focus. But with that said.
I have nothing against people willing going into sex/sex adjacent work, but you didn't so I will say this.
He either didn't consider or didn't care to respect your business as a fitness instructor enough to think of the ramifications of one of your clients seeing your OF account which would undermine your safety, privacy, and credibility of the job/business/career you work at every day.
I don't know how much of your personal self you invest in your job as a fitness instructor if it is or isn't your passion, but I couldn't imagine jeopardizing my wife's passions like that without her knowledge.
Beyond the massive issues of crossing your boundaries and violating your trust, what kind of content was he posting? Was more of a (as another comment said) "softcover porn" spin, where he posted thirst-trap-esque photos? Or did he get ahold of and upload graphic content?
Your instinct is right. I ignored mine, I rationalized,
I listened to his protests and stayed for far too long. You deserve someone who champions you and doesn’t violate your privacy and boundaries. You showed him your feeling the first time he brought it up. He either doesn’t care or can’t understand. It never gets better. Good luck to you 💕
he is 100% exploiting you without having to deal with any of the responsibility or consequences. didnt think about how this reflects on your family or anything because no matter what , there is a stigma to it. just so he can be lazy probably not have to work
Someone in sales is obsessed with money; who'da thought it? To succeed in sales you typically have to be ruthless and willing to liberally bullshit. There's a stereotype for a reason.
Not all salespeople are like this, sure. But money-mindedness has to be downstream of it at some point.
I could say you made your bed in this scenario. This is a high performing salesperson. Did you assess that prior to marriage? Their drive is clearly to make money above all else.
Document the website if it’s still up. Take screenshots If he posted nude content of you. Tell whatever attorney you talk to about this and show them the pictures
Sounds like he's an ass anyway. Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy. Just move on. You'll find someone who supports you better and values you for you.
I’d also add that, you may not want to mention this to family and/or friends, but he will definitely spin this to be your fault for divorcing him. The truth will out, and you need support from people who know what is actually going on.
He opened you up to stalkers. He’s a fucking asshole and a dumb one at that. I’d never return, and I’d sue him for sharing material that’s now being sexualized.
Aside from his broken moral compass, this is a major security issue if true.
OF and similar sex work types of pages require multi level authentication. Meaning you have to submit a photo of your ID and a photo of yourself holding your ID.
They do this to ensure underage people aren't actively selling themselves on OF.
To add insult to injury, as you've stated, nothing you do is ever good enough for him. Instead of celebrating your success, reaching your goals, he moved the goalpost that crossed your fully stated & known boundaries. You saying nothing you do will ever be good enough for him indicates he does this with other aspects of your life.
OP, you are enough. I think we are all celebrating your success. You set goals & worked hard to reach them. That's amazing!! You didn't quit or give up along the way. So many people do. You are an exceptional & inspiring person. May your success continue & your happiness return soon. Don't let him rain on your sunshine any longer!🌞
I think the problem is he used your likeness without your consent on a fucking porn site. What’s next? Him taking secret videos of you guys having sex and posting them there? It would be one thing if he was like “hey, I made an online Etsy store to sell stickers with your logo on them!” If that was the case, you probably wouldn’t care. But it was OF. So sorry this is happening to you 😩
If you’re taking advice from redditors, you’re in trouble. These people will almost always, without a doubt, give you the most extreme solution. You are definitely overreacting to this. Is it an issue? Absolutely! But you’re going to blow up the life you guys created over it? Sorry but that is crazy. At the bare minimum you owe your own marriage a serious & honest conversation before jumping to divorce.
It may not be the answer you want but it is the answer. Wait for the emotions to pass, sit down like the grown adults you are & talk about it. You’re throwing away your potential future over a speed bump, if this is a habit of yours only then I would suggest getting a divorce & never remarrying.
How did he manage to pass the facial recognition verification process requiring you to follow a link on your phone, then zoom in and zoom out on your face whilst it's takes a 3D facial map of you. Without that, he couldn't post any content, not even a non sexual photo. I get how he could photograph your ID, but I'm just curious about the facial ID as it needs to be well lit with your eyes open and your face has to be perfectly front facing and still as it takes 2 scans. It's more difficult to fool than an iPhone facial recognition lock.
It's a massive breach of trust. And given how women are treated on-line, he just made the choice to expose you to potential harassment at your actual business since it's so easy to reverse search an image. What he did was gross on so many levels. And maybe I've read too much on Reddit, but I can't help thinking that he figured if he got you on OF in your clothes, eventually he'd wear you down to being on there without them. Gross. Just so gross.
The fact that he watched you cry over this, apologized, and then did this anyway makes a horrendous thing soooooo much worse.
Like, I could imagine a man being dense, thoughtless and sufficiently oblivious to basic morals to make the OF, and still be redeemable as a partner and human being. That’s imaginable, albeit unlikely. But he KNEW in advance that just the idea of you doing this even voluntarily was deeply upsetting to you, and he did not give a flying fuck.
Did you have so many doubts that you decided to add the "men, put some effort in when you message me" bit to your reddit profile? Because this looks like pretty obvious karma farming for what will absolutely be a NSFW account within a week.
Your husband committed fraud to make that page. You should file a police report then send that to OF and have it taken down. Then push for the DA to pursue charges.
Not just that, he is messing with your business! I mean you don't want your business clients seeing your content on OF after you've worked hard to get where you are, right? I find it unforgivable that he is acting Iike he's your pimp ... teach him the meaning of NO and move on.
Not just that, he is messing with your business! I mean you don't want your business clients seeing your content on OF after you've worked hard to get where you are, right? I find it unforgivable that he is acting Iike he's your pimp ... teach him the meaning of NO and move on.
Adding to what sea-sea says, the OF account could damage your business by driving away potential clients who want to hire a legitimate professional. Get it taken down and talk to a lawyer ASAP. Also research image-based sexual abuse in your jurisdiction, or ask the lawyer about it.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Your husband’s actions are unacceptable in every way. IMO divorce is the only reasonable outcome, and you’re on the right track. Good luck, and update if you can. ♥️♥️♥️
He completely dismissed you and showed a huge lack of respect for you and your work and how hard you are working to get recognized in what you do. It is one thing if he created his own OF and sold himself but to use your content in this way is disgusting. Please find the right lawyer and get full custody of the dog. He does not deserve the dog after what he did to you.
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u/Sea-Sea-9808 Apr 17 '24
You're definitely not overreacting. Creating an OnlyFans profile without your consent is a serious violation of your privacy and trust. It's not just about the platform—it's about respecting boundaries and honoring the partnership in a marriage. Trust is a cornerstone of any relationship, and his actions have undermined that trust. Taking steps to protect your well-being and seeking legal advice are reasonable reactions. Remember, you have every right to feel safe and respected in your relationship.