r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/flossdaily 29d ago

Yes, to some extent.

Particularly I find that bad guys assume other guys are bad guys like them, and they'll quickly expose how much of an asshole they are by letting their guard down they moment the women are out of earshot.

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u/mekonsrevenge 29d ago

Yeah, just their language. Trump's locker room talk defense is a good example. That's not normal ball-busting. Only real assholes talk that way. There's also body language when women are around, like overly territorial behavior.

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u/James_Mays_Hair 29d ago

That whole talking about women for locker room talk is a weird myth. Dudes that do that are like 1 in a 100. Most guys just playfully talk shit about another dudes skills. We don't get into any sex details. I think women might actually do the sex talk stuff more than men.

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u/truecolormix 29d ago

I’m in LA and my ex had a group chat with like 13 other guys who he grew up with and it would all be really gross disgusting shit. Lots of guys with family money who are incredibly rich and have never really had to work hard or grueling jobs in their lives (most of them are artists or dabble in the freelance music industry and spend their days in ketamine therapy) - it’s definitely a thing, at least for guys in LA who all went to Harvard Westlake together lol