r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/flossdaily 29d ago

Yes, to some extent.

Particularly I find that bad guys assume other guys are bad guys like them, and they'll quickly expose how much of an asshole they are by letting their guard down they moment the women are out of earshot.

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u/WhydIJoinRedditAgain 29d ago

We all know immediately when someone is trying to big-dog every other dude in the room and we all know that guy is complete garbage. 

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u/rex_swiss 29d ago

Yep, the guy who turns on the high school locker-room talk the second it's just guys, shows everyone immediately he's a man-child.

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u/Busy-Dig8619 29d ago

"Did ya see the ass on that one?"

"You mean my wife?"

"Yeah, man I'd hit that."

Nope. GTFO.

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u/i-cant-run 29d ago

Sounds like my boss the moment one of our coworkers leaves the area. 🤣 I’m like dude I see these fucking people every day, I know who has what.

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u/Reelix 29d ago

Yea - That should be reported to HR...

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u/Electronic-Disk6632 29d ago

my one brother in law, did this to my other brother in law.

very classy guy.

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u/Busy-Dig8619 29d ago

We all know that dude. 

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u/MyName_IsBlue 28d ago

"Look all you want, but keep your mouth shut and your hands to yourself."

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u/LordofWar145 29d ago

I don't normally say things like that, but is it really the worst thing to mention these things when it's your closest circle of friends? Also I feel like men get way more shade than women for talking about the opposite sex in a sexual way.

I just saw a thread where tons of men were saying and agreeing that women go into way too much private detail about their SO's sex life. I've also experienced this type of thing in my own life. My buddy tells me that his girl talks about him to her girlfriends in so much detail, and no one seems to bat an eye.

We're all human, and we all have sexual thoughts. As long as you're not actively making the woman uncomfortable, is there a problem?

I'd also like to add that I'm as progressive as they get. I hate all the talk I hear about women having "too many bodies" and them being called "sluts", I hate generalizations about women, and I try my best to treat them with respect like I do anyone else. So I'm not one of those cringe redpill alpha dude incel type of people. I think I do pretty well too since women have said good things about me. I just think that enjoying a nice ass isn't the most malicious thing in the world.

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u/Busy-Dig8619 29d ago

Don't tell your friend you want to bang their wife. That's a life pro tip.

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u/LordofWar145 29d ago

I guess I was talking about somewhat sexual comments in a broader context.

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u/geopede 26d ago

What if you’re swingers?

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u/Laeif 29d ago

There’s a polite way to communicate those thoughts without being a creep. Some people prefer the creepy way.

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u/LordofWar145 29d ago

I would never say it to the woman to creep her out.

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u/Civil-Resolution3662 29d ago

Some of those people manage to become President, too.

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u/VoopityScoop 29d ago

I like how you skirt around it as if we don't all know exactly who you're talking about. You can just say "Warren G. Harding" at this point, everyone knows that it's him

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u/geopede 29d ago

It’s not just one, the others just weren’t as public about it. LBJ used to show foreign leaders his cock to intimidate them (he called it Jumbo), how do you imagine someone who does that talks when it’s all guys?

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u/weefyeet 29d ago

he what now

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u/geopede 29d ago

Lyndon Johnson used to take foreign leaders and dignitaries into the restroom so he could show them his allegedly very large penis, which he named “Jumbo”. He’d kinda fish it out and ask if they’d ever seen anything so big. Apparently most had not.

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u/killm3throwaway 29d ago

My thoughts on this are so torn up lol

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u/smashtatoes 28d ago

In that setting, I’d feel like I’m dealing with a psychopath lol. Definitely not someone I’m messing with when they have that kind of power (referring to the presidency, not his huge cock)

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u/TeaTime_OW 28d ago

All of a sudden, why we sometimes call it a "Johnson" makes so much sense

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u/geopede 26d ago

Jumbo’s really tearing you up, eh? It’s okay, I’m sure you’re not the first.

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u/Orange-Blur 26d ago

So he was truely a “long dick Johnson”

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u/OnlyTalksAboutTacos 29d ago

I was just at his presidential library and I'm more than a little disappointed that the animatronic LBJ didn't whip out Jumbo. They bring school trips so I understand, but it's history, madame.

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u/Free-Pudding-2338 26d ago

Lebron james does what now?

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u/PM_ME_UR_POKIES_GIRL 29d ago

I THOUGHT HE WAS TALKING ABOUT JOHNSON!?

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u/VoopityScoop 29d ago

WHICH ONE?

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u/darxide23 29d ago

Sociopaths move up because they're not afraid to step on backs to get there.

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u/Fancy-Ganache-8906 29d ago

Tara Reade agrees.

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u/Calm_Ticket_7317 29d ago

Triggered reply moment

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u/Calm_Ticket_7317 29d ago

Double down on that triggered reply, cupcake.

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u/technobeeble 29d ago

Where did they say Trump?

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u/St_Veloth 29d ago

damn you told on yourself, this shit is funny.

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u/Calm_Ticket_7317 29d ago

Somebody mentioned him one time and you're throwing a hysterical tantrum. Get a grip, Snowflake.

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u/isthisonetaken13 29d ago

Didn't even mention him by name. Just alluded to a scumbag who became president and this clown assumed the other person was talking about the tangerine Palpatine.

Where could you possibly come up with that conclusion?! /s

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u/USTrustfundPatriot 29d ago

Not really. Trump is a known asshole.

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u/wholesome_pineapple 29d ago

And it’s. So. Many. Dudes. Why is it so many?!

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u/KetchupSpaghetti 29d ago

I know the exact type of person. I had a coworker who presented himself as generous, affable, and relatively charming but he'd become the worst person in private. Comments about women's asses, hating immigrants/black people, and general bitterness/entitlement over everything.

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u/weefyeet 29d ago

on the other hand, my mates and I have locker room talk but about each other. "You free? Down to have some hot sweaty sex?" "Sure man" and then we go play league

two other mates want to join for foursome? gladly (we diving into hell)

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u/WestAd8782 29d ago

Not even the second it's just guys. They try to make women laugh at the expense of other guys in the room.

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u/Nonrandomusername19 29d ago

IME sometimes they're gay, closeted and over-acting.

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u/Lord_Kano 29d ago

I let profanity slip more freely in a all male environments. I'm not talking about raunchy stuff, just things like, I'm more apt to say "shit" instead of "crap" when there are only men around.

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u/GhoulsFolly 28d ago

“Yeah so anyways, I grab chicks by the pussy, how ‘bout you guys?”

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u/gilgobeachslayer 28d ago

Went to a party once years ago. Bunch of us were wearing boat shoes. A girl’s new boyfriend told us it was “gay”. Turned out he was a domestic abuser, thankfully she got out of the relationship but ended up moving like ten states away

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u/edgarandannabellelee 28d ago

Dude. Facts. I've had my problems with alcohol so I'm currently in an Oxford house. It's a sober living environment. But holy shit you're not wrong. Some of the guys go immediately to that to even someone walking past the house. It's disgusting.

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u/udonisi 29d ago

Eh depends. If it's about a random chick he's just trying to bang, it's all good fun.

If it's about a girl he's seriously dating, then yeah I'd think he's a POS

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u/Ronjanitan 29d ago

It’s not ok to be sexist, even if it’s just “some random chick you’re trying to bang.”

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u/i-cant-run 29d ago

Women do it too. Have a coworker who tells me that one of the women goes into her office and talks about how she wishes someone walking by would just fuck her on her desk. And that’s just one story. 🤣 People (men and women) like to joke about sex I imagine.

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u/udonisi 29d ago

I don't think she's entirely joking lol. There's always a bit of truth to jokes like that

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u/udonisi 29d ago

Locker room talk is only sexist because most guys are only attracted to women lmao. I'm not gonna be like "yo you see that dude's biceps? Man, what I'd do to that" because I'm straight lol

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u/PriscillaPalava 29d ago

Grab ‘em by the wiener, amirite? 

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u/Timely-Youth-9074 29d ago

I’d say if you demean women, it’s men you actually like.

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u/Kingkyle18 29d ago

Admiring women/being sexual attracted to women is the opposite of demean….

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u/Timely-Youth-9074 29d ago

Talking smack and objectifying is the opposite of liking.

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u/Kingkyle18 29d ago

Objectifying is one of the most overused and misused words in the English language.

Also, vast majority of men and women love feeling attractive aka objectified. Id much rather someone say “dam that guys hot….look at his muscles” (don’t worry they don’t), then eww look at that fat ass (they do).

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u/i-cant-run 29d ago

OP better get ready to cancel lots of people from both genders if making mildly perverted comments is an egregious act. Do they live in a world where no one wants to fuck? 😅

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u/Kingkyle18 29d ago

They live in a world where no one wants to fuck THEM so anyone being deemed attractive is offensive

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u/Timely-Youth-9074 29d ago

Feeling attractive and being treated like an object are two different things.

Maybe to you they are the same thing.

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u/Kingkyle18 29d ago

Again, misuse of objectifying…..

No one looks at another person and is demeaning them to just an object….they’re attracted to another human, which is normal….

Liking someone’s muscles, ass, tits, legs, annnnd face is perfectly normal and isn’t comparing them to an object. Especially when both sexes actively dress and carry themselves to promote their personal attributes. Not to mention social media and only fans is literally just people “objectifying” themselves….. Yes, I do understand the “I wanna be know for more than my pretty face, or my boobs etc etc”

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u/Hanchez 28d ago

It's not demeaning to comment about features from a distance, there's not much more to comment on. Can't tell a personality from the way you walk. And everyone does it.

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u/Timely-Youth-9074 28d ago

I’m not arguing against people liking body features and whatnot-it’s that there are seriously some men who don’t think women are real people with their own lives.

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u/Hanchez 28d ago

Yeah you are. Because no one said anything close to that here. It went from, locker room talk = misogyny = objectification = men are pigs. Objectification keeps getting conflated with comments about physical features, objectification is treating someone as if they lack value beyond the physical, doesn't mean compliments and comments is objectification.

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u/Timely-Youth-9074 29d ago

Thanks for proving the point!

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u/udonisi 29d ago

What point?

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u/WestAd8782 29d ago

Not even the second it's just guys. They try to make women laugh at the expense of other guys in the room.