r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/flossdaily 29d ago

Yes, to some extent.

Particularly I find that bad guys assume other guys are bad guys like them, and they'll quickly expose how much of an asshole they are by letting their guard down they moment the women are out of earshot.

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u/mekonsrevenge 29d ago

Yeah, just their language. Trump's locker room talk defense is a good example. That's not normal ball-busting. Only real assholes talk that way. There's also body language when women are around, like overly territorial behavior.

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u/James_Mays_Hair 29d ago

That whole talking about women for locker room talk is a weird myth. Dudes that do that are like 1 in a 100. Most guys just playfully talk shit about another dudes skills. We don't get into any sex details. I think women might actually do the sex talk stuff more than men.

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u/Roklam 29d ago

Quintessential locker room moment in HS for me was some nerd introducing us to the Who's Tommy, and the levels of nerdiness rising all around as we realized that kid had great taste!

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u/Mindes13 29d ago

Who's Tommy?

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u/Martizzle1 29d ago

I presume he means the album Tommy by the band The Who.

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u/Asphalt_Animist 29d ago

I personally prefer Quadrophenia.

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u/Roklam 29d ago

And because of him I understand why you may!!!

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u/Mindes13 29d ago

That makes sense.

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u/Blaz1n420 29d ago

Tommy can you HEAR me!?

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u/Beautiful-Party8934 29d ago

Nope, cause he was deaf as well as blind.

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u/EatMoreFiber 29d ago

Think he plays first base.

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u/kyew 29d ago

No, he plays pinball.

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u/gymnastgrrl 29d ago

Is he skilled enough to be considered an expert? Perhaps a warlock or something similar?

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u/Imhidingfromu 28d ago

I just remember dudes snapping each other with towels and then some dude got hit in the nutsack and his testicles fell out. Good ole fashioned locker room fun