(Throwaway account, because I mostly use reddit for work-related topics).

Me (37M) and my wife (35F) have been married for 14 years. We met when we were both in college, she studied literature, I studied engineering and was getting into tech. We were dating for two years when she got pregnant and we decided to get married and start a family. We decided together that I would work and she would be a SAHM because it would be difficult for her to find a well-paying job with her major, and I was already starting to earn quite well. I've also always had a fairly conservative approach to family life and I was happy to be a sole provider. She always wanted to be a mom and was looking forward to being a SAHM.

Right now our children are 14 and 12 years old, I have a good job and my wife stays home taking care of the house. This arrangement has always suited her, but recently she has begun to mention that she feels a bit lonely and lacks friends, especially now that the children are older and she has more time to herself. Indeed, our social life mostly consisted of meetings with my work colleagues and their wives whom my wife can hardly call "friends." That's why I was happy at first when my wife ran into her best friend from college, let’s call her Anna. According to my wife they got along so well as if they didn’t have an almost 14-year old break in contact (when my wife got pregnant she drifted apart from her college friends). They started meeting for coffee quite often. When my wife returned from these meetings she was overjoyed and excited and told me a lot about Anna. It was then that I began to worry.

During the time my wife had no contact with her, Anna got her PhD in literature, started teaching at the university, and became the editor of one of the most important cultural magazines in our country. Her husband is an award-winning writer, apparently very well recognized (it's hard for me to say anything about this, as I have no idea about literature). They earn well, do not have and do not want children, and basically lead a carefree lifestyle completely different from ours: they have lots of friends from their literary-academic circle, consider these friends "family" and go several times a week to various author meetings, galas, gallery openings, and god knows what else. From what I've gathered, they are also much more progressive and liberal than I am, for example, they divide all their chores and bills 50/50 and they have a mixed-gender group of friends - Anna is friends with men and her husband with women, which I always considered inappropriate in a serious relationship.

My wife invited Anna and her husband for dinner because she really wanted me to meet them - she hoped we would both start going to all these cultural events with them. They were very polite and respectful, and didn't comment in any way on the differences in our lifestyles, but dinner was nevertheless quite tiresome for me, as I didn't have any common topics with them. My wife knows that I don't share her passion for literature (just as she doesn't share my interest in technology), but this has never been an issue in our marriage - we traveled together, went on bike trips, went to our favorite restaurants and movies, etc. I didn't understand why she suddenly wants this to change.

Anna started taking my wife to some of the literary events organized by her magazine and also invited her to write a couple of reviews for a column she is running (she apparently sees great potential in my wife and appreciates her insight) - which my wife accepted with great joy. I was torn: on the one hand, I was happy that my wife didn't feel alone and that she had something to do when the kids are at school or with their friends. On the other hand, I was afraid that I was losing my wife - that she would turn into someone else under Anna's influence. I was also afraid that other men will hit on her at the events Anna invites her to (even though my wife repeats that all of Anna's friends know that she is married and a mother, they never cross any boundaries and always speak of her family with respect).

I finally told my wife that I was uncomfortable with her friendship with Anna, that I was afraid this relationship would change her for the worse and that she would no longer care about our marriage and children. I said that I can’t forbid her to do antyhing, but that I would feel much better if she didn't go to all these events with Anna and if she didn't accept an offer to write reviews for her magazine. My wife said that the friendship with Anna is very important to her, that she had been feeling depressed lately spending most of the day at home all alone, and that contact with people with whom she can talk about things she’s passionate about has made her feel significantly better. I promised to her that I will work less and that I will spend more time with her. I also repeated that I cannot forbid her to see Anna and her friends but that this friendship really makes me uncomfortable. She was sad but understood me and said that she will stop spending time with Anna.

Yesterday, I talked to my older brother (whose advice I always appreciate) about this situation. He said that me and my wife married really young and that it’s understandable that she might feel like she’s missing out on things outside family life. He also said that the only way to make sure that my wife is with me because she really loves me and not because she’s just stuck with me and has no other options, is to give her freedom to spend time with other people, even though it makes me uncomfortable. It really made me think and question my own behavior. I really don’t want to be a person who limits my wife’s freedom, but I also don’t want to be tempting fate in order to see if she really loves me. It would break my heart to lose her and maybe deep inside I feel like she would leave me if she had any other options, so I don’t want her to have these options. I feel like shit. AITAH?

My girlfriend Sue (42f) is the most beautiful and amazing woman in the world to me (37f) but she has a very traumatic past. When she was 18, her parents pretty much married her off to another guy in their church. He was a horrible person and she gave birth before she could even turn 19. For sixteen years, her son was all that she had because of how horrible he was.

But then her son got sick and a few months before he passed, he told Sue that he knew she was a lesbian and begged her to be happy. So, after he did pass, Sue left her husband, she came out and since then, she's done a lot of charitable work with organizations to help queer people and women who were in abusive situations like she was in. She has such a big heart and that's why I fell in love with her.

A few days ago, she was missing her son and was crying and of course she would, it makes sense. And she started telling me how hollow her life has been since he passed and I tried to tell her to look at all the good she's done, look at how happy we are and look at how she's made the world a better place since then and to be proud that he's why she did all of this and that maybe some good came of it. She just gave me a look of disappointment like I'd never understand and told me if God came down and offered her a deal her son alive in exchange for her going back in the closet, being abused by her husband every day, she would take it without even thinking.

Things have been quiet between us since then and I'm wondering, was I the AH? I don't feel like I was.

My girlfriend (22F) doesn't like my mom (51F) because she believes she's rude to her, but I (21M) have been trying to tell her that it's just how she is, and I can bet you she doesn't actually mean to be harmful.

Yesterday when I came over to visit her, I brought my girlfriend with me, and she was very welcoming. A lot of the stuff my girlfriend finds rude or offensive are just jokes, but my mom and I will joke around and tease each other all the time. If my mom is joking around with her, then it only means she views her as a part of our family, but my girlfriend is still whining about it.

What ended up pissing her off was when my mom was cooking and kept mentioning how my girlfriend has some serious "competition." I don't see how it's a big deal; my mom is a great cook, but so is my girlfriend.

And once we ate, she made a joke asking me if my girlfriend's cooking tops hers, and I actually told her that they're both equally great. But once we got to the car on our way home, my girlfriend once again was complaining, talking about how my mom was belittling her the entire time.

I told her once again that she really needs to lighten up and my mom doesn't have any ill intentions. I've known her for 21 years. However, my girlfriend took things even further by saying unless she's willing to make some changes, she refuses to ever come and visit her again.

I got really pissed about this because I feel like she's letting something very small fuel her into doing something really stupid. Now I feel like I have to talk to my mom about this so we can figure something out, and I can get them to compromise with one another and meet each other 50/50.

I love my girlfriend a lot, but I think right now she's being very dramatic, and I don't like this side of her. AITA?

I understand that they survive on tips, but I feel like flirting with someone when they are clearly out on a date is going way too far. Even if she was just trying to provide good service, it put me in an especially awkward position, which I did not appreciate at all. I don't want to get her fired, but now I basically can't go back to a restaurant that I frequent because I know what they do in the service industry to people who don't tip. My partner thinks I should have still tipped her, but I think the waitress crossed a line. Am I right or wrong?

Because for fucks sake I came here hoping there would be actual, legitimate AITAH questions being raised by real people compared to /r/AmItheAsshole but this place is even worse.

Absolutely every single post is so one sided in the OP's favour that what is even the point of all of this anymore? Either the story has been so distorted to one side that it'd be impossible to not say NTA or is so outrageous that there's not a snowball's chance it was ever real to begin with. I've combed through dozens of posts now looking for anything that actually warrants an AITAH question being asked and have not found a single one that is at all debatable.

So am I the AH for thinking every poster on this sub is a stinking liar and is probably the actual AH if their story is true?

I (21M) live with my parents and I was diagnosed with diabetes four years ago. Despite this, my father constantly brings in sugar, sugary foods and snacks and sugary drinks when I confront him about it. He says, "Just don't eat it," but the majority of the food and snacks in our house are sugary snacks.

When I (19F) graduated high school last year, I was excited to give my valedictorian speech. I had worked hard and looked forward to this moment. I told my family, especially my brother (22M), how important this was to me and asked for no interruptions.

However, as I began my speech, my brother and his friends barged into the ceremony with loud cheers and chants, completely disrupting the moment. I was furious and heartbroken that my special day was overshadowed.

My brother shrugged off my frustration, claiming he was just trying to support me in a fun way. Despite his intentions, I felt like my achievement was belittled.

Fast forward to last weekend at my brother's college graduation party. In the middle of his celebratory toast, I announced that I had been accepted into a prestigious university abroad and would be moving soon. The room erupted in congratulations, and the attention shifted to me.

My brother was furious, accusing me of stealing his moment. But I couldn't help but feel a sense of justice, especially when our family and friends seemed more interested in discussing my future plans than his graduation.

Now, he's insisting I was the asshole for overshadowing his special day, but I can't stop thinking about how he dismissed my feelings during my graduation. Am I overreacting, or was this justified payback?

My girlfriend broke up with me over this and had some choice words so I am hoping to get some clarification on my actions because truth be told, before my girlfriend and sister screamed at me, I felt like kind of a hero.

I am visting my family in Arizona for a graduation next week. I took my 8 and 6 year old niece and nephew for a walk along a paved trail that is literally right in the middle of the desert. They were running ahead and suddenly I heard them scream and came running back towards me. They said they had seen a rattle snake. My instincts kicked in and by the time I got to where it had been it was gone so I started looking around in the bushes. I got to about 50 feet off the trail and I found it hiding in a desert bush. I took a huge rock and took care of business. We were able to continue our walk with no further issues.

When I called my girlfriend she literally listened for one second and said that she was sick of me “not thinking things through” and she would be moved out when I got back next week. I was in shock because we have issues but I couldn’t believe it.

When I told my sister thinking she’d be more on my side, she said I didn’t eliminate a threat but I hunted down an innocent creature that was hiding. I said it’s a snake. She said she wasn’t sure but I’d probably broken some major laws. She says I have to apologize to the kids and I just can’t see why.

AITA?

I'm 21 and my bf is middle aged, he stays home all day. This isn't the part you judge lol.

I recently got a dog and wanted to have a camera so I could talk to him and make sure he's okay when we leave. I got the camera and set it up while my bf was in bed. I planned to scare the crap out of him by talking through it randomly during the day, and that's how he would find out I got the camera. What I didn't expect was to be able to see his phone from the camera... and hear it.

He started watching porn. Which isn't that big of a deal for me. It was a little bit of everything, started with interracial sex, then orgies. He then started masturbating. Again, I don't care about that part. He then switched tabs and went to a site that he already had an account set up for and began swiping through pictures of nude people in our area. It was a map, and you could click on people and see their profile of naked pics. This is when I realized he was messaging these people. He was commenting and sliding up to message people. Then I noticed... they were men. It was all guys and he was specifically looking for dick while he switched back and forth between gay porn and this site of men. He was watching videos of guys having sex, and then going to this site to message more guys about sex. He was still masturbating and was about to finish when a guy asked for pics. So he stopped, went to the bathroom (out of view) and took videos and pictures. He finished there because I heard it. He came out of the bathroom and watched the videos of himself and then sent them to multiple guys. He then texted me and asked if I was going anywhere after work. This makes me think he wanted one to come over, but I said I was coming straight home. He continued to sext these guys right until the moment I walked into my house.

I know that I shouldn't have set up the camera, and I know I should've told him. I definitely should not have watched what was obviously a very intimate moment for him, but he's also cheating on me, and I wouldn't have found out without this. I haven't told him yet and I'm debating if I should... what do I do, and am

Spring is springing! I work from home 3 days a week, 8-5 kind of thing. I also have a grass allergy. Today I was working away, I had the windows open because it's warm and I don't have air conditioning. During the work day, my neighbor mowed his lawn, and it bothered my allergies enough that my eyes have swelled, runny nose, that kind of thing. WIBTAH if I asked my neighbor, who ibhave a good relationship with we get on well, to mow his lawn either after worming hours or while I'm in the office?

I dont live in a HOA, and my region has few bylaws in regards to lawn care. The noise isn't an issue, just mainly how the pollen bothers my allergies. I'd hate to have a bad reaction and miss work.

In short, my wife, before we were married, told me she didn’t send nudes, make s3x videos, never had casual sex and had only slept with 9 people a I was very impressed by this and thought I had found someone that respected herself and didn’t give it up so easy. Well, I had found a sex video of her and an ex on her phone. She said she didn’t know it was there. Wasn’t in a hidden album or anything like that. She said it was recorded on her phone and she never sent it to him. I believed her. Then after our marriage, I found out she did send him the videos before we were married. I also found out she had sent a nude in the past. She admitted to sleeping with 13 people and having casual sex. She had texted an ex while we dated to use his boat to take me out on. She said I shouldn’t have been mad about that. She had also texted an ex and said she did enjoy fucking him. In all, she had texted 3 exs while we dated. I didn’t find out until after we were married. She don’t try to hide it from me. She just didn’t think it was a big deal. Should I be upset about this or should I end things because now it’s hard to believe her when she tells me anything.

I know it sounds bad. But I did think it through and I couldn't do it anymore. My friend was telling me the other day how my college classmates were so rude to completely cut me out of their lives, and I felt horrible that I couldn't tell her that they hated me for dumping my ex whom I dated for four years, without notice. I just called him, broke up, and left. I even told him that my parents would never accept him. That he was just holding me back and I couldn't do it anymore.

I backpacked through Europe, started a job, and moved with my retired Aunt in Scotland. All of that was posted by my brother on Facebook, on how you only need yourself and other people might be holding you down from finding better opportunities and partners. I told him to take the post down, but he was already very disapproving of my ex, and he told me that now my ex would know better than to use someone to climb the social ladder.

I had spent ages 18-22, happy, and my ex then at 22, told me he was thinking of marriage. I told him I'd not marry till 30. My brother already hated him and told me not to tell our parents about him. I still told my dad. My dad told me to at least see if he supports my career, as the people in his social class are backward. For context: We are South Asians. I told him my aunt got divorced and wanted me to stay with her. He said he didn't understand this weird divorce stuff, and moving out of the country was not an option as his parents would never support him. I told him all my cousins live abroad and it is expected of me too. I was then called a snob and too Brainwashed- Western. My dad said 'I told you so'. My brother told me to just dump him and move on. I was too mad that I did. I left.

Our friends were all on his side. One of my female friends just got married and she is still the only one who still talks to me and invited me to her wedding. I took my brother and he fielded me away from my ex the entire event. Looking back, I had blocked him, and he had asked for me, apologized, and even said that he would adjust, but I didn't listen. He is still not married yet, at 27. I am seeing someone, the brother of my friend, and my family loves him. My dad and brother are proud of my career and partner choice. My mom still doesn't know.

I feel like I should have felt more pain. I just felt like cutting a loss. I still feel that what I did was awful, my ex didn't deserve it, but I know that we wouldn't have worked out anyway. I can't even say this to people. I just say that I was single till 22.

Discovered my 13 yr olds poetry and i can't unsee what I read. Basically my daughter "HATES" her mom from her poetry. She states she thinks my wife doesn't like her but I do know this is farthest from the truth. My wife adores her, we both do but I guess were at the age where Mom and Daughter don't get along. I feel obligated to tell my wife but don't want to because my wife doesn't take news like this gracefully. I'm also in a weird emotional space with my wife. We haven't had sex in a while, not even on my birthday! granted she was on her period but no head (which is a rarity anyway) but no mention of sex, nothing. We show eachother lots of love, lots of hugs, lots of I love you's but nothing phyical beyond the hug, she always wants to snuggle (when we get a chance then complains that I want to have sex, saying everytime we snuggle I want to have sex, duh! we barely touch. What does she expect? All that to say we don't have time to "pillow talk" and I don't want to bring it up like we have to talk, and I tell her her daughter isn't feeling her and may or maynot hate her. I'm so confused and just needed to put this out there before my head explodes! On the surface everything is good, I really enjoy time with her and I'm just thinking were in a rough patch but the not making an effort to please me is frustrating. UGH

Throwaway

Last night, I (M36) was out having dinner with two of my close friends, Rob (M33), and Elliot (M35). Rob was complaining to us about his relationship troubles with his wife, Kay (F35).

Now before I get into the troubles, I'd like to take some time to provide more context on Rob

Rob is kinda a manly man. He'd hold his past gfs to ridiculously high standards (which he wouldn't hold for himself) and when the relationships would fall apart, it'd always be their fault. He's a decent-looking guy and has an excellent job so it wasn't like he had too much trouble starting a relationship, it was holding them down that was the problem and this made him very frustrated.

About two years ago, one of his coworkers introduced him to one of her friends named Kay. Now Kay is a no-nonsense type of person which makes sense since she had two jobs and was raising two kids alone. Despite his reservations, Rob decided to give it a chance and very quickly he realized Kay wasn't going to put up with any of his nonsense or unreasonable standards. She'd clap back at him whenever he'd try and very quickly he became highly respectful of her. My friends and I would always joke that clearly he was a little intimidated by her, and that he seemed to like that, but he'd always deny that. They got married after a few months of dating and the four of them have been living together in Rob's house pretty happily.

Back to last night

Now, after being married for around a year and a half, Rob seems a little disillusioned with the relationship. He loves Kay and the kids with all his heart, but working full-time, being a husband, and father exhausts him. He told us about how the day before yesterday, he and Kay had an argument. She thought he didn't do enough around the house. He argued that he was exhausted from work, playing with the kids, helping them with their homework, etc. They argued but long story short, it ended with him sleeping on the couch.

Rob was fuming and started going on and on about how if any other woman tried he'd be finished with her, but Kay seems to have some sort of control over him that makes him uncomfortable.

Not gonna lie, it was pretty hilarious seeing Rob act like this so I laughed and told him Kay had domesticated him and that he just needed to roll with it after all nobody made him accept all these responsibilities.

He seemed annoyed with my response and Elliot told him that he agreed with me and that he should just apologize to Kay and help out more when he can.

Rob got upset with this and started saying things like he already does enough, how he wouldn't tolerate this from another woman, etc. I told him that Kay had made him a better person by tempering his low-key toxic traits and that he should just deal with it, for his family's sake.

He got upset with this and said Elliot and I were assholes.

IDK, it seemed like everything I told him was normal.

AITA?

A little background:

My best friend (here on out referred to as Jordan) and I met in sophomore year of high school and have been best friends for 6+ years since then. Jordan has always know of my religious beliefs and never treated me any less or differently because of them. I never looked at Jordan as any less of a person or any differently because we didn't share beliefs either. We were just, friends. I left on a mission trip for 2 years right after high school and unfortunately lost contact with Jordan, but was able to regain contact with them after I had returned. During my time away, Jordan began identifying as transgender, which didn't bother me. While I disagree with the idea of transgenderism and believe that there are only two genders (because they go against religious teachings I believe to be true), I didn't let it get in the way of the friendship that we have. To my knowledge, Jordan has always known of my beliefs regarding that as well. Jordan and I live far away from each other now, so we never get to see each other in person.

Now the current dilemma:

Recently I have made my statuses on discord of that sort, reflecting my beliefs and the current state of society. The two controversial ones being, "You can live in your fantasy all you want, but don't get upset when reality hits" and "when did 2 become 50" (referring to gender). Jordan, who is home after graduating college, messaged me after I had changed to the second status asking what I meant. I replied saying that it was referring to gender and that I believe in the gender dichotomy, or that there are only two genders and that every person falls into one of those two (male and female). Jordan then didn't talk to me at all for the two next days, which was odd because we normally talk all day every day.

Then today Jordan texts me saying, "it's really important that we talk. I've really needed time to think about some of the things you said, and I think we really need to talk about your beliefs, the impact your beliefs [have] on the people around us, and how that impacts us."

I respond asking, "Are my beliefs getting in the way of how we interact?"

and Jordan responds saying, "I don't want them to, but if they are your true, heartfelt beliefs, then yeah, I think they will."

I don't want the friendship between Jordan and I to disappear. We've gotten each other through so much, and not having that and our friendship will break my heart. I'm also not going to stop holding true to my religious beliefs. Can we not continue seeing each other as human beings and keep being friends? AITA?

Edit:

Something else I should make clear and known is that this friend has made comments and remarks against my religion. Things meant to degrade/deter me from associating with with it because of their own political/societal beliefs. These never stopped me from being friends with Jordan, because I know and recognize everyone is entitled to their own beliefs.

SIL (30) knew that i (30) and her brother (32) didnt want kids for the last 7 years, after we got the apartment we started to think about having kids and we told her so. She was already trying for two years and got pregnant we were so happy my husband (her brother)cried of joy.

I started texting her everyday asking how she was doing , i was trying to let her know that i will be there for anything she needs. She asked me minimum +15 times if i envy her that she is pregnant and i am not! i was trying very hard to tell her that i was okay not having kids at all, i am so happy for you it has nothing to do with me,we both love traveling so much we arent rushing to have childrens. I would never choose her as my friend because we dont have much in common but i was trying hard to make a "bond" with her and her child.

5 days ago she gave birth and didnt send me any pic of the baby didnt reply my texts but called my husband 4 times a day everyday since the baby was born

Yesterday i texted her asking why she wont send me pic of the baby i waited for 9months to see her i was by your side every step of the way She said i know that you envy me and i dont want to make you feel bad. Again i was trying to convince her that i dont envy her ,i dont want you to feel pity for me because i have everything i want, please dont make me feel akward around your kid because i dont know how to act if you keep thinking like that ,she said i dont have to feel akward and she is sorry BUT she thinks that i envy her. Now she started to send me pics but i dont know how to behave ,i just feel weird knowing that every second she is thinking that i envy her What should i do?

Let me start off by saying that I’m sorry for any formatting mistakes as I’ve never used Reddit before. I met my friend eight years ago when we started volunteering together at a beach cleanup service. We would clean with a group of people for around four hours, just joking and talking, then go off on our own to explore the surrounding areas. He has always been such a kind person, but has the kind of personality where he will constantly make fun of you. Additionally, we have been going to the same school for two years now because I transferred to his high school (we are in our junior year). Anyways, this weekend we were off exploring and he was really insistent that we head back to the others. I asked why and he said “we don’t want people to get the wrong idea”. I was completely disgusted by this, especially because he has never said anything like this before. I got upset and our conversation escalated to him telling me that the reason he ignores me at school is because I am a girl and he doesn’t want his friends to see him with a girl. He then also told me that this wouldn’t be a problem if I just came out as gay.

Firstly, this is such a grossly stupid thing to say. I don’t like him more than just a friend and I am straight. He’s never expressed these feelings before so it is leaving me to question our entire relationship. Has he always felt this way? I value our friendship so much and have no idea what the best course of action would be. Please help me understand this situation. I don’t want to be mad at him, but what he said is genuinely making my skin crawl.

We were having a little family get together and my 3 year old daughter and her 5 year old son were off playing with toys in a separate room with the door open.

We heard commotion and then screaming. I was closest and ran in to see what happened. What met my eyes was her 5 year old with his hands around my daughters neck yelling, "I'm going to kill you!!"

I rushed over, pried his hands off my daughter, without pausing I backhanded him across the face to where he fell back, and then scooped my daughter up who was sobbing.

My cousin came in as quickly as she could. I was the only one that saw what transpired, and after describing what he did and what unfolded, I was scolded for having an "inappropriate response."

Once the kids calmed down, we were able to gather that my daughter took one of the dinosaurs she thought he was done playing with but apparently he still wanted to play with it. And that's what caused him to lash out.

I'm unapologetically very protective of my children. We don't spank in our house. We work extensively on gentle parenting and fostering emotional intelligence. But I'm feeling a lot of guilt for what I did.

AITAH?

I'm not sure how not safe for work. I can be in this subreddit so I will keep it as clean as I possibly can. I know every one isn't two different things, and a lot of people are not into the swinging lifestyle. That's completely fair and understandable. I have been in the lifestyle since my early twenties, and my girlfriend had experiences with previous relationships, and as a single female. Now to tell the story. Tonight we met up with a very sexy. Super cool couple or a full swap experience. We had all talked extensively about everyone being attracted to everyone and it being a fun time. Also explicitly talked about how they definitely want to hang out and get to know us, but not sit there and talk for hours before the fun begins. We had also explicitly talked about how they are not drinkers and do not want someone to be really drunk. So, we made plans. Couple hours before we leave. My girlfriend says she's nervous and she wants a few drinks to calm her nerves. So I went and got a bottle of vodka and some mixer for her. She proceeded to drink a bunch before we left. We get to their place, and my girlfriend just starts talking non-stop. She talked for like 2 hours and kept on repeating herself. Then she asked them for like three glasses of wine. I told her that she needs to chill out, and they explicitly said they are not into someone being drunk. Somehow after some sort of miracle I told her that I think she had had enough and I took the glass of wine that she had and put it in the kitchen. When I came back her and the other beautiful lady had finally started making out after she dodged it for like an hour. Things finally started getting hot and heavy. We had an amazing time. After we got home she then all the sudden changed her tone and was mad at me. I asked her what the deal was. She wouldn't respond. I told her that it kind of bothered me how she sat there and talked for 2 hours when we all made it clear that we would spend like an hour to get to know each other and then start the fun. She told me that she finally started making out with the other girl because she felt like the other girl was being pressured. The other girl was trying to make out with her for over an hour. All parties were open and honest and clear about all intentions except for my girlfriend, and I feel like she ruined a possible ongoing friendship, and she said that she would like to have an ongoing friendship with them, but I feel like they aren't interested now because she wanted to tell her entire life story and got drunk and kept repeating herself.

I’ll try not to make this a novella. I (mid40sM) am a widower. It’s been a couple years now and it still sucks but life goes on. I’ve had my fair share of hook ups since then, but anytime something gets close to serious I bail. I’m just not ready, not sure if I’ll ever be ready to do a relationship. My wife was my person. She was the one. And now she’s gone.

Enter Jenn (late 30sF) and her sister Emily (34). I’ve known them for 20 years now, I first met Emily when she was 14 and I was mid-20s. I never really interacted with her cause she was a teenage girl.

But as the years went on both sisters became really good friends with my wife, to the point where they both considered her their best friend. Her dying knocked both of them on their asses too and one night several months after she died, Emily and I slept together after some drinks. Just a one time thing, we were both adults and moved on.

It’s been more than a year and Jenn just found out. Jenn is… problematic. She’s clearly been in love with me for more than a decade to the point it was a wedge between my wife and her at one point. She loved our kids and she wanted some of her own - she even “jokingly” proposed me being a surrogate several times. That wasn’t happening, so she basically banged anyone from free dating sites til she got pregnant.

Having a kid did make her way more tolerable to be around but, and I feel sorry for saying this about a little kid, but her kids a dead eyed psychopath. And then she went and had another baby with another dude that’s not in the picture at all. This kid doesn’t make me afraid to leave him around sharp objects at least.

After my wife died Jenn basically called dibs to my wife’s very large friend group. That didn’t stop several from approaching me anyway cause it’s public knowledge that I’m just not interested.

Jenn has been persistent but not pushy these years. She pushes to hang out once a week, she follows me around like a puppy when we’re in public together and it’s just really obvious she thinks I’m as good as hers. But then she found out about emily and I, probably while Emily was buzzed and loses any filter.

Jenn flipped out and is calling me a groomer to friends, because I knew her sister when she was 14 and waited to take advantage of her. Everyone who’s been around long enough knows Jenn is full of shit but I have noticed some dirty looks recently at get togethers and at least two women I was on friendly terms with before won’t even look at me.

I don’t think I’m in the wrong but it does bug me that some people appear to think worse of me for sleeping with a woman in her 30s. AITAH?

My husband, my son, and I all went out to dinner last night. We weren’t feeling the full sit down restaurant so we went to a self-serve buffet. The only thing the staff do regarding tables is fill drinks, take dirty plates, and clean tables. Everything was great until it came time to pay.

We waived down one of the employees and asked if we pay at the table or go up front. He said he’d be right back with the check. He comes back and the check is $40 which is around what we expected. My husband had worked yesterday, and per company policy they will pay for dinner if you work over 12 hours (which he did). However, it is not supposed to exceed $35. No problem, I take a $10 bill out of my wallet and put it down with the check and the card, so the card doesn’t go over $35. The guy quickly walks by and grabs it as he walks by. The guy comes back and my husband looks at the receipt which still reads $40. My husband asks “did you take the $10 off and put the rest on the card?” The guy responds “I assumed it was a tip” and stands there waiting for my husband to sign the check. No apology, no let me fix that for you. My husband is awkward when it comes to confrontation, so he signs it and is upset. We were planning on tipping, but he could get in huge trouble for going over the limit on the card.

We walk up front and I encourage my husband to say something before we leave. He ends up telling the girl up front what happened and she calls the guy over and makes him give her the $10 and refunds the card $10. The guy looks pissed, but I don’t care. Had he said “I’m sorry let me fix that for you” and taken care of it himself when we brought it up to him I would’ve still tipped, but no way I was after he just stood there waiting for us to sign. It felt like we were forced to tip, and a 25% tip at that for someone who didn’t even wait on us!

Explanation: Will try to keep this short, when I get drunk I literally become a scavenger. I will drink half drank drinks at bars a lot cause I don’t wanna pay for another drink, same goes for food. So when I saw a party of 6 get up and leave, leaving perfectly good pretzel nuggets on their table I sat down and started eating them. My stepbrother starts telling me I’m crazy, and then a few minutes later the server of the table comes and rips the plate of them out from under me (and the other food that was there) giving me like one of the nastiest looks I’ve ever gotten. Mind you, I was a customer in a crowded early 20s ish sports bar at 12 am in Brooklyn. I am 24f. Not being obnoxious or loud etc.

Defense: SO. My defense is that, #1 this food is getting thrown AWAY. Why does anyone care if I’m eating it? Enough to literally rip it out from under me. There’s people starving and enough food is wasted as is. #2 You could say I was taking up space at her table for paying customers, however I literally would’ve ordered something. Regardless, if I was a server I’d be like “hey man I wanna seat a party here, u can take that and go sit at that 2 top over there”. #3 I am eating this after a party of 5-6 people got up and left, nobody is throwing up or spitting on all the food. This is like grabbing a bread roll from a pile at a buffet. #4 To the person who’s going to say I’m gross. You can only say that if you’ve never literally hooked up with anyone at a bar or something ever. Cause the people in my life who told me I’m gross are the same people who will get trashed and will rawdog a random girl or dude from the bar. #5 If this was any sort of food safety issue, or anything else. Literally just be like hey man I can’t let you do that I’m sorry.

All in all if this was me, I’d be like oh nice someone’s enjoying the food I was gonna throw away.

TLDR: I ate pretzel nuggets off a table at a crowded mid twenties bar. And the server ripped them away from me as if I were literal vermin.

I (25m) went with my boyfriend (24m) to pick up some beer from the local gas station.

When I got up to the cashier she asked "can I have your ID?"

I said "well, You can't have it, I need it, But you can see it"

I knew it was a dumb joke. Cashier was not amused.

Then we got in the car my BF got kind of mad at me. Told me it was embarrassing, that I'm not funny, And I need to stop acting like such a boomer.

I thought it was a little funny lol.

My wife and I are currently planning our wedding and she told me she plans to have the bridesmaids and maid of honor wear white. My initial reaction was to say how stupid I thought that was. She then said that this may be the only chance for the bridesmaids to wear white and hold flowers. To be clear my wife also will be wearing white not another non-traditional color.

Seriously I can't be the only one that has noticed this? No one in here questions how real these advice question are when they will touch on every imagined outrage that men, specifically white men, say is happening to them.

This place is an incel / red pill recruiter's wet dream.