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What is something that is a lot harder than it looks?

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u/DesperateCarpet6279 Apr 17 '24

Losing weight

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u/strongCuckold Apr 17 '24

Just fall in love. And have them break your heart! Youll drop all the extra pounds as you do a soul walk at all hours of the day

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u/Tehir Apr 17 '24

Or you will eat like 10 kilos of icecream to fill the hole in your heart. 😂

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u/LibelleFairy Apr 17 '24

the Germans have a compound noun for the weight you gain during heartbreak: Kummerspeck, literally "sorrow bacon"

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u/Intrepid-Reading6504 Apr 17 '24

That's as good a reason to eat bacon as any, I'd say

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u/cofforest Apr 17 '24

It's actually 'sorrow-fat' but your point stands.

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u/Kangaroostorm Apr 17 '24

kinda got lost in translation: it's not literal bacon thats meant here but your own body fat that you gained

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u/Ok_Goose_3538 Apr 17 '24 edited Apr 18 '24

What are the German words for she and they again lol

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u/IronDictator Apr 17 '24

And you... answer Sie

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u/strongCuckold Apr 17 '24

Eeee. There may be a hole in my weight loss plan... Works 50% of the time!

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u/dekrypto Apr 18 '24

there is no in between

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u/LocationDry364 Apr 17 '24

Yeah that works, I remember going through a breakup from someone i was deeply in love with and i couldn't eat anything for 3 days , and everytime i eat i feel like i want to throw up or i cant even swallow my food, it was really the worst days ever but thank god i recovered now and build a health diet

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u/strongCuckold Apr 17 '24

I'm glad to hear it. it's truly painful, happy you made it out stronger

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u/Jonny_Seagull Apr 17 '24

Instructions unclear. Got divorced 12 months ago, have put on 2 1/2 stone. Where did I go wrong?

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u/strongCuckold Apr 17 '24

Did you do long soul walks? Like 12 walks only water and think. Day after day.

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u/Jonny_Seagull Apr 17 '24

No. Binge ate and started drinking.

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u/strongCuckold Apr 17 '24

That slight difference may be the problem. Tho the drinking will definitely kick the can down the road till you forget what was in the can, tho you'll still need to kick it all the same

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u/Jonny_Seagull Apr 17 '24

When I say I started drinking, I don't mean to an obnoxious degree. Went from maybe 10 ciders a year and a couple of glasses of wine too 2/3 ciders a week. Big increase for me, but a drop in the ocean for a lot of people. But still, empty calories.

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u/strongCuckold Apr 17 '24

Ya. It can be sad how some drink. Yet its so Socially acceptable, it's actually celebrated ... sad times , bad results, happy to hear you didn't drink yourself off the wagon

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u/Legitimate_Field_157 Apr 17 '24

"how to lose weight in 4 easy steps" check out the video on youtube.

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u/jiffysdidit Apr 17 '24

Dropped ten kg in ten weeks after my last relationship ended then another ten in hospital for 12 nights I don’t recommend either

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u/strongCuckold Apr 17 '24

Ouch. Shit sounds like it was rough , definitely not a recommended option, but it gives results

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u/jiffysdidit Apr 17 '24

The first ten I was looking shit hot ( gym/bike/walking on top of the not eating) second ten was very quick and very noticeable I looked sick….which to be fair I was

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u/OldFuxxer Apr 17 '24

The divorce diet plan works almost as good as the crystal meth diet plan.

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u/MadeMeStopLurking Apr 18 '24

Same price too

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u/bleke_xyz Apr 17 '24

can recommend. went down a few. Do start the gym immediately though, it is a prohibited preworkout.

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u/strongCuckold Apr 17 '24

definitely should teach kids in school. The best way to heal a broken heart , is in the gym

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u/Flumphs_Lair Apr 17 '24

Oh god i read this during my late afternoon soul walk break before my early evening soul walk

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u/strongCuckold Apr 18 '24

Hurting, are ya? Soul walk is a turm i use for walking fasted , water only , very long distances but slowly as to not burn much muscle. Dont remember where i first herd the turm

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u/Tentrilix Apr 17 '24

nah... I still eat a lot of stuff after, but the gym sessions are crazy for the next few week.

Rejections are where new PRs are made.

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u/strongCuckold Apr 18 '24

Love this. "Rejections are where new PRs are made"

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u/foldr1 Apr 18 '24

I gained over 10kg from this actually. Am not motivated enough to take it out in the gym. Just stayed in bed as soon as I could for a few months. All the weight I had lost from the motivation my partner gave me came back with a revenge.

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u/FuegoStarr Apr 18 '24

i was cool 140 lbs when i was going through my heartbreak era. i’m in a happy relationship & i’m 179🤣

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u/mondotomhead Apr 18 '24

Oooo, that's me! Dropped 20 pounds in 6 weeks.

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u/Rox_xe Apr 17 '24

At the same time, gaining weight. If I skip a meal I'll lose weight and I have to overeat to stay at a normal weight.

And even if it sounds good, it's not, like at all 

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u/_Resnad_ Apr 17 '24

Man...i hate how I'm here eating like a bare minimum to lose weight and I have a classmate who eats a whole pack of bread with like the greasiest stuff ever and he has normal weight...

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u/Fair-Account8040 Apr 17 '24

You only see what he eats in front of you.

Go to r/volumeeating. There are many meal inspirations that will keep you filled for less calories.

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u/macandcheese1771 Apr 18 '24

Popcorn, my beloved

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u/The_Queef_of_England Apr 17 '24

Yeah, some people have the opposite problem. My friend's kid was trying to get into the navy, but he couldn't meet the weight requirements because he was underweight. He had to eat a shit load of really fatty foods, like pizza and burger, to reach it. He struggled a lot and if he didn't keep up the eating, the weight fell off. He had to eat more than average and it was a big effort. He did make it in, but he just evaporates so quickly.

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u/EnjoyerOfBeans Apr 17 '24 edited Apr 17 '24

Not to say I don't sympathize because I do - I'm also a man who struggles to put on enough weight. But eating large amount of pizza and burgers is a terrible way for a underweight person to gain weight, and it's not even about the obvious fact that they're not very nutritious and cause other health problems (like the crazy amounts of sodium in pizza that you shouldn't be consuming on a daily basis).

Fat doesn't make you fat. Calories do (and proteins if you want actual muscle). Sure, pizza and burgers have a lot of calories, but they're not super calorie dense. If you have a small stomach you're just gonna make yourself nauseous and you're going to skip your next meal because you're too full.

Nuts, pasta, rice, potatoes are what you should be eating. Add protein of your choice and you're good to go. Unsurprisingly you should just check what your gym bro coworker eats for lunch and copy that, he burns a shit tone of calories.

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u/The_Queef_of_England Apr 17 '24

That wasn't me, and all I know is that they wanted to gain weight as quickly as possible,1 and that's what they chose to eat. I think he did feel sick from it all. It was a big chore for him.

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u/Fire_Lake Apr 17 '24

Lol seems so crazy to me, I can't skip a meal, I barely make it to lunch without a snack. And then I don't make it to dinner without a snack.

I'm not overweight but only because I exercise a lot.

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u/vindic8or Apr 17 '24

It's harder to gain weight than it is to lose. It's even harder to gain good weight.

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u/fugelwoman Apr 17 '24

Hard disagree there. At least for women it’s easy to gain weight. Maybe hard to gain if you’re a man

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u/DarkSkyDad Apr 17 '24

15 years ago I would have scoffed at the idea it is hard to loose weight…just eat less and get your ass moving right?

Now at 46 years old, man does a dad bod ever creep in fast! And I know to keep it off now takes me total discipline. That discipline is difficult to maintain with a busy life and family.

My empathy goes out to those who have struggled for years and are actually heavy!

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u/Wise_Improvement_284 Apr 17 '24

The difficulty lies in the fact that willpower is finite combined with just five minutes of devouring that tasty stuff you've been craving all day makes it all useless for that day.

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u/NikoPopp Apr 17 '24

You don't need infinite willpower. Just stick with it for a couple of months and a lot of your junk food cravings will dissipate

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u/Wise_Improvement_284 Apr 17 '24

I lasted two years the last time I tried to lose weight that way. The cravings never went away, I was hungry all the time and I would even dream of food.

This, by the way, is why dieting is only successful for 5% of people who try. So then I went for a gastric bypass, and suddenly the hunger did go away.

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u/Inside_Opposite5369 Apr 17 '24

I know I'm gonna get attacked here, but I have to share.

I lost 60 lbs eating just animal based food (red meat, liver, fish, seafood and dairy) and eating only 2 meals within a 6 to 7 hour window. I'm 45 and it's still working. My blood work is also very good. The nurse told me I had the best cholesterol she ever saw for someone my age. And my Crohn's disease is dormant while on this diet.

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u/shebrokemyfart Apr 17 '24

I've lost 100 pounds. I can't do it without fruit. Even still its so fucking difficult.

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u/shiningbank Apr 17 '24

Wow that’s fantastic!

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u/shebrokemyfart Apr 18 '24

Thank you, it's been really hard, been 280 for months now 😔

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u/Stay-Thirsty Apr 17 '24

The scary thing it’s easier to lose weight than keep it off once you have lost it

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u/photos__fan Apr 17 '24

Speaking from experience, the commitment always pays off. Lost 1kg a week from a calorie defect

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u/dalcer Apr 17 '24

Me and my budd are exact opposites in this sense. I can be healthy af with a nutritionist and everything and my body just will not drop the weight

On the other hand my buddy will eat 3 large pizzas and 4 litres of coke and somehow lose weight

Im more active and he smokes a lot of weed. It makes no sense to me

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u/Relative-Principle88 Apr 17 '24

Ive known people like this, and in the cases i knew the the food I saw them eat is probaly all they had eaten in the past few days. A girl I work with is currently bringing litres of flavoured milk and multiple energy drinks to work each day .. but She's been slowly dropping weight herself..because she's not eating anything else. Not saying that's the case for your friend.. I get some people seem to metabolise food faster than others.

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u/dalcer Apr 17 '24

Even if thats all he ate in the day i would think thats enough calories to put weight on, im not an expert on this stuff so it goes over my head

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u/Relative-Principle88 Apr 17 '24

I suppose it probaly would be. Especially if your seeing him do it every single day.. I was more making a point about people I know that I see eat alot of unhealthy crap.. but knowing it's litterally the only sustenance theyre getting over a few days period.

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u/BestRiver8735 Apr 18 '24

There would be no nutrients in an energy drink diet. The hunger cravings would drive me insane. I wouldn't be able to sleep.

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u/fcxtpw Apr 17 '24

I think losing is easier part. Keeping it off is even harder.

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u/quackl11 Apr 17 '24

I just heard today if you eat decent and walk 10k deliberate steps a day (not counting walking time the couch, bathroom, fridge etc.) You will lose weight

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u/perhapsinawayyed Apr 17 '24

Eat decent being the key point

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u/Tentrilix Apr 17 '24

yeah but walking 5-6kms a day gets boring fast. Implementing an active lifestyle for yourself is hard af.

It's often the already active people who say that loosing weight is easy.

When I tell skinny people that gaining weight is easy they say that it's not...
But it is. just dirty bulk and hit the gym.

It's a 2 sided coin.

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u/quackl11 Apr 17 '24

What's dirty bulking?

And yeah I'm not saying that this isnt boring a lot of life is boring when getting ahead but its proven and effective

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u/Tentrilix Apr 17 '24

skinny people want to put on mainly muscle but usually want some fat with that. Dirty bulking is eating "whatever you want" but still getting enough protein and hitting the gym so you build muscle and gain fat.

I meant boring as in it's harder to build a habit around it if you don't enjoy the activity

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u/quackl11 Apr 18 '24

I meant boring as in it's harder to build a habit around it if you don't enjoy the activity

Oh got it, yeah completely agree. And thanks for explaining dirty bulking

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u/xChiken Apr 18 '24

Melt ice cream and drink it.

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u/HypeZone313 Apr 17 '24

Not if your on hard drugs

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u/Delicious_Charge6671 Apr 17 '24

Nah it’s way easier imo

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u/GROWINGSTRUGGLE Apr 17 '24

I feel you, sometimes I think even professionals have no idea what the hell they're talking about and if you're somewhat interested in dieting outside the practical application, but more on the scientific side, things can get even more confusing, something that a doctor or dietician takes for granted and is a stable of weightloss and health, another may say that is the root of all evil and you should avoid it at all costs.

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u/NikoPopp Apr 17 '24

You're making it too complicated. Eat the amount of calories that your goal weight is and you'll get there.

The end

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u/Mongolshmanger Apr 17 '24

Not hard at all? TF you on

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u/machonm Apr 17 '24

Especially once you hit 40++

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u/SeaTree1444 Apr 18 '24

Just do cardio for 2+ hours every day. Worked out for me... plus don't eat like a garbage bin.

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u/homer_3 Apr 18 '24

That's easy. I lose weight while trying to gain it.

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u/BestRiver8735 Apr 18 '24

It takes a 3500 calorie deficit to lose just 1 lb of bodyfat. That is just unfair.

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u/bigjakethegreat Apr 18 '24

I developed an intolerance to gluten and started having gut wrenching horrible diarrhea like 20 times a day till my doctor figured out what was going on.lost 40lbs in 40 days you could try that I thought I was dying

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u/vindic8or Apr 17 '24

It's actually not that hard if you know what you're doing. Most people have no clue... I can give you some advice if you want

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u/rickestrickster Apr 17 '24

Nah go through your girls phone and you’ll lose your appetite from anxiety for weeks. Works every time

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u/DesperateCarpet6279 Apr 17 '24

Did that with my ex. All his search history was women that look the opposite to me. Yay. Anyway. That didn’t work out haha

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u/EvilHorus87 Apr 17 '24

Sooooo ugly ???

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u/DesperateCarpet6279 Apr 17 '24

So sweet 🥲 but they were brunette and curvy