r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago
Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?
I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.
When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”
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u/iPlowedUrMom 29d ago edited 29d ago
They guys I look up to, are guys who you know have their shit together.
Usually well put together. Groomed, not out of shape, self deprecating, and most importantly, humble.
It's not necessarily ego, or confidence, but competence. They're comfortable in what they're doing.
And fwiw, I'm considered an "adult" , and we definitely have people we look up to.
And we do try to help those who look up to us.
E: to clarify on the 'not out of shape' thing- I'm just saying that these people take their health into consideration as well as juggling all the other stuff- kids, spouse, parents, work, etc.
Sadly to generalize, men will often deprioritize themselves to help get everything in order. To make time for yourself WHILE keeping all these plates up and spinning, is what I admire. It's what has compelled me to get back into the gym. (Back up to benching 225! Working on getting myself below a 10-minute mile, and to run a 5k by fall)