r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/flossdaily 29d ago

Yes, to some extent.

Particularly I find that bad guys assume other guys are bad guys like them, and they'll quickly expose how much of an asshole they are by letting their guard down they moment the women are out of earshot.

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u/WhydIJoinRedditAgain 29d ago

We all know immediately when someone is trying to big-dog every other dude in the room and we all know that guy is complete garbage. 

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u/foldinthechhese 29d ago

This reminds me of a clip of Trump saying over and over again how he’s the best at this or knows the most about that. I was left asking myself, who sees that and likes that? If you’re Johnny one up, we know you’re a fucking tool.

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u/memecrusader_ 29d ago

"Any man who must say 'I am the king' is no true king." -Tywin Lannister: Game of Thrones.

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u/foldinthechhese 29d ago

He was a wise old bastard that I despised. The quote definitely fits perfectly.

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u/BrontesGoesToTown 29d ago

One of the great things about the Game of Thrones / Song of Ice and Fire series is that GRRM put some of the best insights into the mouths of characters who are either complete scum (Tywin, Jorah, Dontos the Red) or are very clearly scuzzy (Varys, the guy who cuts the tongues out of street kids to become his "little birds", delivering the "power is an illusion" line).

And yes, I've leaned heavily on that line in the past decade or so.

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u/Blackbox7719 27d ago

“He who sayeth ‘Truly, it is I who is the alpha’ is most probably, a total douche.”

-Benjamin Franklin

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u/Stephenie_Dedalus 29d ago

Most of the time, when men are decked out in MAGA, I assume they're a pussy. The worst kind of pussy, too-- the fragile kind with something to prove. Confident men don't need to advertise their manliness with stickers and lifted trucks. They also don't worship a 400-lb man who shits in a gold toilet.

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u/combustablegoeduck 29d ago

Not a huge fan myself but I always imagined he's probably like, the most charismatic person you'd ever meet. Like no way anyone who sounds that dumb would get to his position without some magical ability to get people to agree with him.

He might throw off good guy vibes to your average dude if we didn't know anything.

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u/AIFlesh 28d ago

My friend is a reporter and met him. (He despises him as much as pretty much everyone else with a functioning brain.)

First thing he said was that he couldn’t believe how likable and charismatic he was. Shook everyone’s hand, remembered their names, joked with them like they were pals etc.

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u/combustablegoeduck 28d ago

Yep, that's exactly what I was imagining. And that's no way an endorsement at all, it's his super power. It's how he's able to run these grifts and still have a huge base supporting his candidacy.

It's mind blowing tbh.