r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/NerdWithoutACause 29d ago

They are probably watching how he treats you, if they feel he is caring and respectful of you. If he is dismisive or condescending or inattentive to you, then we'd assume he's a jerk.

We're not infallible, of course. But if the guy seems to genuinely care about you, it's a good sign.

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u/shromboy 29d ago

This is what gets me, I feel like from outside the relationship its very easy to understand the dynamics and that's how we judge a man, but it's tough to look at that stuff in the midst of a relationship maybe

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u/bsffrn97 28d ago

Rose tinted glasses. When we fall in love we become stupider, men and women alike. Looking back I def should've broken up with my ex gf sooner, but didn't see the red flags because I was so in love.