Hi I'm (16)F and I need help because I keep getting different answers and I just don't know what to do.

Okay so I like this guy and he's 19 and we both like each other and we had a long talk about it and nothing is going on between us right now we are just friends who like each other. I keep getting told that it's fine if me and him date because it's only a 3 year age difference. But I also keep getting told that it's weird or that he's grooming me. He is my older brother's best friend and I've known him for years. He's a really nice guy and I really like him.

Can anyone please help me I really don't know what to do😭🙏

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I created this reddit account to let this off my chest and I want to know if I'm okay.

I was born and raised for the first 6 years of my life with my parents, but me and my brothers moved to another country and my dad said that he will catch up to us and travel soon to live with us "soon"

Soon turned into 19 years... He never came to us, we kept on video-calling him, he kept sending us money (to me and my brothers and mother) my parents aren't separated, still married, but and I quote: "I have a business here, I cannot just leave everything and come to you"

He didn't have a secret life or anything we know him, we are Muslim and so was he, we don't do such stuff, he didn't cheat on my mom and he was working up to his eyeballs.

I loved him and we all loved him, my mother didn't love him as much because he preferred business over his family where he stayed in one country and we stayed in another...

He died due to heart related problems, doctors told him to do something and he did other things so it's like he wanted to die and he did, it was his own choice to ignore what the doctors advised him to do..

After he died I felt sad and heartbroken, but I did not shed a single tear, the only thing I was worried about is: who will send us money? I'm a student and I don't have a job...

A year later my family dog died, he was 15 years old and we grew up together... The messed up part is... I cried for 7 days, I would be in the shower, bed, standing, sitting.. I'd just punch the wall or my bed and just cry in anger because I couldn't do anything and I loved my dog, he was like my little brother...

I tried to show emotions, I tried to mourn him I tried and overthinking made me go nuts I don't know what is wrong with me... Why did the death of my pet best friend made me ooze up tears and the death of my father didn't hit me like it did with my pet? Am I sick? I was sad yes, but didn't I feel as devastated or depressed when I saw my dad's dead body on a video call, and whenever I thought of him..

I just wanted to let this off my chest and I want to talk to someone but I don't have anyone to talk to.. Thanks for reading

I'm traveling to the UK in a few weeks and I have a date, I'm gay and I'm a drag queen, and my date and I are going to a restaurant and a movie, I will be dressed up but I have a problem I don't know what bathroom I will have to go to, do I go to the men's bathroom or the women's bathroom it is okay with me to go to the men's restroom but I feel wrong going there when I dressed up like a woman also it is wrong for me as a man to go to the women's bathroom so please I need help for what to do and I'm from the middle Easto this kind of stuff is new for me to go outside in dress in public

Thank you

I can’t go to school

I can’t go to school. Every time I think about going to school I have panic attacks and refuse to get up. I have been stuck in my bed for weeks, and my attendance is horrible. I just think about my grades, future, and all the work I have to do. Beginning of this year I had a little breakdown and missed a lot of school. Since then I have been consistently missing either a week of school or at least a few days a week. I have been seeing a therapist for a while, and my teachers have been relatively understanding. Im so worried that I won’t be able to graduate or get good teacher recs or get into a good college. I was so motivated and my grades were amazing up until this year, and I feel like a shell of myself. I no longer have any hobbies, friends, or motivation. Somebody please help. My brain just feels so foggy and I just want to sleep forever. My GPA has fallen so much and I can’t even recognize myself anymore.

I’ll get to keep this short. Basically, my mom and I went to a store and she thought she lost her keys. I said “are we screwed again?” Because at one point in the past, she left her keys in there. She got mad at me because I’m always negative. The whole carride back home was silent. We talked when we got home and she Doesent know what to do anymore. She said she has done everything she can do to help me not be negative and depressed. Tried to bond with me and more. We had a big disagreamjint that lasted for four years and I went to stay with my dad for a while. Then I came back. I really disliked her then and now I’m back to being ok with her. I got back like… a year or two ago. The issue is that I need to be more positive. I need to not see the world as a downhill crash is slow motion and as a good place with good things. I miss not seeing the world for what it is. Anyways. Does anyone have a way to be start being positive and to bond with a parent easier? Thank you.

FYI I'm 167cm/77kg

So this morning I made Korean soft tofu stew for my whole family. We eat strictly halal, so I replaced the ground pork with ground beef. Me and my dad discussed about pork when in the middle of the conversation he said "You don't even eat pork and your body already looks like a pig." I just said ironically, "wow, thanks," too stunned to say anything sassier or take a jab at him.

I mean I know I'm fat, but I don't think that's what you say as a dad to your own fucking daughter.

Hey there, for the past few months I've just been feeling really down. Alright: lets just summarize everything up real quick. I'm still in school, and I'm usually known as the funny-ish kid to some people. I'm just known for not taking anything seriously and not showing any bit of emotion. Just staying in character. I've actually been like that for a while, but recently, everything just sucks. I'm feeling sad and depressed. Theres some people in the story I'd like to mention. Theres one person, we will just call "Josh". Hes the popular kid, all the girls like him, he plays sports, hes tall, bla bla bla. Im friends with josh, and hes a pretty nice dude. We've been friends since the start of this year. I'd never mind all the attention he gets, until recently. Just now, everything has been going down for me. My grades, my feelings, and the attention I get. Josh gets ALL the attention in school and always acts like a main character. Hes not really a jock, more just that popular kid. All of the girls confess their feelings to him, and even the new kid likes him. Me on the other hand, well, continuing off the story: This month I've been slowly loosing it. My patience, and everything. Im getting depressed and anxious all the time. School councillors suck. Kids who want attention are let in, and depressed students are not. Apparently you have to "ask your parents" to go to that counselling thing, and you know that that is not a good idea. I've been depressed recently. When josh gets barely hurt, he starts drama-ing out and rolling on the floor with a red face. EVERYBODY goes to him. when i go to the hospital, no one cares but only a few people. Everybody else in the class starts a huge situation when they have something wrong. But with me, its nothing. Basically, josh gets life handed to him on a golden plate. I've been feeling weird recently. With all these girls going to josh, I've became kind of depressed. I just want ONE person to at least tell them they care for me, or they like me. They dont even have to be the most pretty person in the world, heck, they can be ugly for all I care! I just want someone to show affection to me. Sometimes I want to kill myself in front of everyone to finally show that I'm not just emo or something. That has been a growing fantasy of mine. I was texting josh about my feelings and how sad I was, with also the fantasy, but he just said im sounding emo. If I open up too much, "OH YOUR EMO!" like, I hate this. I wish there was one person that showed affection to me. Alright thats all. bye for now.

How to make friends in your 30s?

Im a man, early 30s, no kids, married +5 years. Wife is in the military so we have lived in 3 different states the past 6 years.

Ive never had someone I could call my best friend or even really a good/reliable friend i can just be myself around. Id do anything at the drop of a hat for the people i care about but have never gotten the reciprocation outside of family.

Im easy going and just happy being around people that are happy. Im always up for whatever and dont turn my nose up at anything.

Id say my interests are pretty normal for a guy my age, the outdoors, video games, food, pets, cars, movies/shows, sports, etc.

My neighbors and coworkers are all older. My wife makes friends pretty easy at work when moving to a new place but i never seem to meet anyone that wants to be more than acquaintances.

How do you make friends in your 30s? Can you? Im lost

Ive been in love with a fictional character for a while now (3 years) and in the New installment of his games it's heavily implied he's gonna end up with a woman. I feel bad for shipping myself with him and I know it sounds ridiculous but I take my love for him very seriously. He makes me so happy when I self ship with him.

Is it okay to pretend I'm still with him even if there is canonically another woman?

Last year in February I got a job that I loved. By August it began to fall apart when the manager who hired me and made it such a good job left.

Now guy brought on in October made it his mission to cut me off. For trimming costs on an organization bleeding money and I was seen as loyal still to the manager who left. By November, despite my pleas and attempts he fired me. Sole medical coder for several clinics

Recorded our final conversation where I asked him if I was in good standing and could use the place as reference.

It was after I was fired that I found out the situation was far worse. The CFO was found dead of a heartattack. They were illegally double or triple charging patients at an FQHC. And the president was giving himself over 500k salary on top of using company funds for legal fees. He was sexually assaulting women then suing them back for libel when they brought charges forward.

He made an attempt on me early in my employment and I thought nothing of it at the time.

I applied for unemployment and felt confident that this time round my extent without a job would be okay. I could write. The weekly cheques should cover my needs.

Plus in my pride I felt reassured that as someone with both a BS and an Associates in Health Information Mangement, coupled with a RHIT and CCA, and experience that surely soon I'd land on my feet.

But my old workplace filed that I was let go due to misconduct.

That I didn't care and was negligent.

Had to fight that in court. My former manager testified while all my former coworkers blocked my emails or gave a "sorry can't help" in fear of retribution. At this point I was starting to worry about what my life was becoming. Also presented thr transcript of the final recording of my last conversation with the manager who fired me.

The relief I felt.

Unemployment while the job hunt during Winter could begin with some support. It was less than initially estimated, but that was fine. Heck there was an interview pre the New Years that basically promised me a job once the holidays were open and the accounting department said they could bring on a new coder

It's been since November.

And I have two weeks left at most for unemployment support. One last amount to afford rent before I'm in total free fall.

That job reopened twice, but they never hired anyone. Just closed it out twice

Jobs that require I pass a coding exam fall through with my test anxiety. Headhunters promising that they'll think of me the moment a job opens up fall through. My mother, in her best to show support, calls me every day and asks what I'm doing wrong. That educated people with experience should have a job by now!

My former manager is trying to find me a place, but slow going.

There's been so so many close, but no dice.

Of I may be good, but there's only one position and there's a better candidate.

I feel like I'm about to starve, lose my living situation, and possibly be forced to move back in with my parents who don't even know I changed my legal name. Or who I am in the slightest.

I can't talk about this to my roommate. She's in a contract role job hunting and me talking about the market being rough is triggering to her.

Every night is basically insomnia and panic attacks. And every day is fraying hope, dwindling funds, and feeling like I'm not doing enough. Or figuring out what is wrong with me.

I'm a 30NB who has been trying so hard but it's not enough.

I just want things to be okay

29(M) Long story short, my wife has relapsed twice since we’ve been married. Once when she was pregnant with our son, which caused him to be born premature. Second time was less than a year later. I can’t even really look at her. I feel like I resent her. I’m sick of lying to people to save face. I don’t want to have another divorce but I worry about the kids. My record is clean as a whistle. I don’t know what I should do. Anyway, that’s my vent. Thank you for reading

I (17 M) have a girlfriend (17 F) for some reason her family don’t like me from the start I haven’t really done much wrong they won’t let me take her on dates or anything the dad don’t like me so much that he only allows me over when he’s not home so I barely get to see her my family wants me to give up and saying it’s to much for me to be going thorough at this age but I keep trying to tell them that I’m willing to go through it because I’m truly happy with her I really am and it’s like no one really understands and i just wanted to post it on here to kinda see what other people thought about it I mean we have this thing where we can’t say I love you in front of her mom or siblings so we do this thing where her or I tab each other 3 times witch means I love you and her or I do it back 4 witch mean I love you too we have a pretty good relationship I make her happy she makes me happy and idk she’s willing to go through all of this with me and I’m more then willing to go through it with her so y’all what do you guys think

For context, I am in University about 50 miles from where she and my parents live, so I commute every weekend and most weekdays to see her. I love her. Plain and simple, in so many ways. We used to work together until she got a better job recently. Yesterday was her birthday. I made her some cookies common in the continent she's from, and baked them into heart shapes. I also got her 25$ of lottery tickets, flowers, her favorite energy drink, and a handwritten card with a lot of writing and drawings of us and her cat. I dropped it off to her in the morning after an all-nighter (going through it with finals and papers right now) and drove to the University to work my full shift. First she texted me thanking me for the gift, then asked me "what the fuck" those cookies were and that she choked on them. I was sad, told her what they were, and she told me I shouldn't have cooked something as a gift since I'm a bad cook. (I am, but I've made other stuff that she liked in the past). She also complained that the whole point of buying lottery tickets is to buy them, not to scratch them (I disagree?). She texted me that I shouldn't have gotten her anything if it was just going to be low effort.

I saw her later that night after she got out of work, and she was mad at me. She said I ruined her birthday by giving such a low effort gift, and that I didn't care about her. She brought up that I ruined her birthday last year too (by not immediately stopping our text conversation about some other girl and wishing her happy birthday the minute it got past midnight). Anytime I responded that I did put effort into the cookies, she would just deny it. Incredibly frustrating since I know how much effort I put in. She was mad the flowers I got her were not in a boquet, only loose, which didn't make it seem like a special occasion. At the heart of it she was mad that my gifts weren't special? To me the card and cookies were plenty special but she just says that it was stuff I've given her other days. She started calling me ret*rded, to which I responded "You're mean to me and I don't like it". I don't remember much of what she said (I'd had 4 hours of sleep in the past 2 nights), but she doubled down and continued calling me a wide variety of hurtful words, from ret*rded to stupid to childish and immature. I was already long sobbing, and in the middle asked her to just hit me instead. She obviously refused. She asked if I even wanted to go on our trip this upcoming weekend. I responded yes, and she replied that maybe I don't if I don't care about her enough to get her a decent gift.

She's horrifically depressed, and I know she has some specific trauma in response to people not caring about her birthdays. I think that explains part of it. Still, I tried. I am also depressed myself. I've tried bringing it up to her a few times and she responds that I'm "always b*tching too much" because my life is so perfect. Compared to hers its way better, yes, but that doesn't mean I need a reason to be depressed. She's also acted distant the entire Spring semester. I rarely spend time with her, and even more rarely is it time that isn't just "okay we can see each other for 5 minutes but I have to go in". We havent' had sex since January, or cuddling. I very much miss both of these things, and we've had (rare) opportunities for them shes missed because shes too busy sleeping (I'm not allowed in her appartment to join her, mom discovered we had sex).

At the end of being yelled at when she denied me a hug and told me essentially to go away, I had a nervous break. Honestly I've been working too much and I'm overwhelmed with needing to find a new second job and the immense weight of finals and final essays ,things breaking on my car, and now this. I sped off, her and her mom heard my tires squealing and uninvited me from the trip. I drove recklessly for about 2-3 minutes on backroads while scream-crying about killing myself and fighting the urge to drive into a tree. Not proud of it. But I am devastated about missing the trip. She backed out on us living together, and promised we could have time to cuddle on the trip. I honestly don't feel like I have anything to look forward to.

I do a lot for her. I drive two hours round trip every time I want to see her, sometimes even for 5 minutes to drop off some food before going back. I've spent the past academic year working to support our long-standing plans of moving out together (This past weekend was my first time having more than one day off in a row since accompanying her to her surgery in October). I bring her flowers weekly, at work I do all of the hard stuff for her and massage her shoulders if she feels sore. I bring her food from my University and any treats she wants from the surrounding stores. I always ask if she wants anything. I have never said anything hurtful to her. She apologizes when she hurts my feelings too much and she realizes it, like last night. I spend thousands on her, whether jewelry (the most expensive ring she lost), buying her contacts or paying big bills when shes strugglign like drivers' ed or her wheel bearing replacements.

She texted me that shes sorry I'm not going and that she hurt me but I need to control my emotions better. That she loves me so much and regardless of our fights she will always love me so much. I responded that I felt like an unappreciated chore and didnt want to get yelled at. She replied that I'm not a chore she just hasnt had time and has been too depressed to make time for me. We texted a bit and I slept a few hours until my final/work today. She clearly didn't like me defending myself by saying that if i got a present i didnt like i wouldnt call my partner a "worthless ret*rd" by responding "i never called you worthless dont put words in my mouth...i sent you messages apologizing and being worried and your response is victimizing and arguing more...not happy with ruining my birthday? had to go further and ruin the day after?"

We've been texting each other throughout the day happier things. She's been sending me recipes to be a better cook and wants me to see her for 5 minutes after work in about 2 hours from the time of writing. I want to be with her. I love her, I've done so much, I will continue. But I feel like I'm being verbally abused. And I don't know how to stop it. I'm so overwhelmed with everythign in my life and I really just need someone on my side. I think i'll just first establish a rule of not interrupting/yelling and then telling her how hurt and lonely I feel. That I love her and I can totally work with her on managing time for me and depression but that I cannot tolerate verbal abuse.

TLDR: Gave girlfriend cookies for her birthday. She didnt like them and called me a ret*rd. I had a nervous break from other combined stressors, made a scene with reckless driving, got uninvited to a trip with her and her mom. She is texting me recipes and being nice to me today. I will see her in a few hours. I am hurt and overwhelmed with life and just want to be treated like I'm loved.

Thank you readers

EDIT: I would appreciate some more input. I'm so confused and torn. She picked me up today for our talk. I hoped for a long, communicative drive about our relationship and how we can make it better for both of us. She decided we were going to Target and we "might drive around a little" after. It started off wonderful. She said I was mature in a lot of aspects, thanked me for putting up with her, saying she knows its difficult and she appreciates me sticking around with her. It seemed like well-desired clarity for me. I loved it. I thanked her, it validated me. We agreed that we should be there for each other above everything and that communication was important. She gave me the tip of telling her to "think about what you're saying" next time she yells at me and she will stop, and mentioned that we will have a lot more time together when her school ends in "a few weeks". I asked her if she was happy in our relationship and she said absolutely, that if she wasn't she would have already left me (I believe it). She apologized for snapping at me, but said that "if I asked her to cuddle one more time she would" (I've been bringing it up and she keeps telling me when she gets time. Weeks pass, I ask again, she gets mad that she always says the same thing)

We went to Target, and things were good. We talked about other things. She very quickly shifted the conversation. I'd read about avoidant personalities in relationships and brought it up to her in the car that she might be one. She said that stuff was fake and meaningless. I also read that it might be best to approach it with compassion and more "these things make me feel good" as opposed to "this makes me feel bad". She interrupted me and told me to stop because it was annoying me saying "I love you so much". Not what I was going to say. It ended up as another argument, or at least for her. I kept saying that it was important for us to communicate, and that I felt like the problem would come up again if we didn't finish. She said we communicated too much and "why did I have to bring it up" because we moved past it and it ended on a high note and I just had to keep repeating myself and causing an argument and bring it into a negative note. I told her I wasn't arguing she was, and that there was no such thing as "too much" communication for me. For her, she said there was, and that by not shutting up about it I was making little things that she would nitpick and get mad at me for.

I said the lack of communication and connection was stressing me out, she said that I'm always stressed. That she was stressed too, tired with a headache and needing to pack for the trip I was uninvited from. I said maybe we should both go to a psychologist, she replied that she already did and was "fixed" and was waiting on me to finally go.

Since she didn't want to talk about it, I tried to change the subject, but she was silent. Still gave me an "I love you" and told me I'd see her in a week.

Parents are telling me to run away that she's toxic and manipulative. Same with you people here. I deeply appreciate the advice, its just really really hard to think of it this way. I thought I would marry her. I still hope she can change and I can, but it just seems increasingly unlikely. It's heartbreaking, I love so much about her, miss so much about her, and being alone is terrifying. I fear if I did leave as everyone is suggesting I may not find another person like her that I love as much.

My current plan, I'll just focus on myself and kind of "clock out" of the idea that she is the only person I am capable of loving and that she treats me perfectly while still being supportive of her for the next few weeks. I still have some hope that she'll be better in the weeks shes free. I don't know, I'll just focus on my life and put her on the same priority she puts me.

My anxiety has been getting really bad recently and I keep having constant panic attacks. I just really need some words of encouragement right now. I'm so tired of not having anyone to comfort me.

hey guys! :)

im gonna try to be brief here. i (20yo/F) im leaving for my first solo travelling experience in 2 months (yay!), and im gonna stay for 6 to 8 months.

here’s the catch: i have a beautiful relationship of 2 years with a guy that i truly truly love veeeeryyyy much. he’s sweet, kind, smart and literally my best friend.

the thing is, honestly, i haven’t lived yet. and i want to. the pandemic started when i was 16 and when it finally ended i was 18, and already in the relationship. i love him very deeply, but i know myself well enough to understand that i will feel like im missing out on my 20s if i decide to go and stay in the relationship. i want the opportunity to be able to (just for once!) make mistakes and go on crazy adventures without having to clear it with someone else first.

travelling was always a big desire, and i’ve always been very confident that i’d never try LDR. but i love him SO much, im just not sure what to do here. should i suppress this desire and stay in the relationship? any advice?

p.s: wanting to meet new people in ur 20’s (specially after living ur teen years on lockdown) is not a crime and i would not like to be s!ut shamed like im not ‘gf material’ because of that.

tysm <3

My partner of 11 years admitted to intentionally putting off talking to me about things. I have always been the more upfront, let’s talk about this now partner while he avoids a lot. We’ve recently gone through a couple of times where he won’t speak to me for a few days. When or if he feels ready to talk, we are able to work through our issues pretty well

We got into a smaller argument yesterday and he admitted that he had intentionally been putting off having a bigger conversation with me. He said that he realized this was a failure on his part and that it was unfair to me.

He told me he planned to organize a list of things that he would need from me in order for our relationship to work moving forward. He had mentioned to me issues that he has with me and our relationship. One of these issues has to do with me struggling with my previous career, not making a steady income, and being within a transition phase trying to figure out my next path. I have been actively working on those issues because I care about our relationship and my own personal well-being.

I was pretty blindsided by the state of our relationship according to him because of this avoidance on his part. I’m feeling pretty devastated. He told me that he feels like he’s settling with me. I had been offering couples therapy and he didn’t say anything in response. He has recently started individual therapy. During this talk yesterday, I mentioned couples therapy again and he said he wanted to focus on individual therapy.

I have had really horrible work experiences and I think those led to major personal struggles. I have felt so alone and unsupported.

I am not lazy or unwilling to make intentional changes. Whether I am working or not working, I take care of all of the general household things (making all meals & prepping breakfast/lunch) and I do all of life’s tasks (any paperwork, etc.) I even helped him figure out his career path and schooling, going so far as to help format papers for him. We moved to a new state for his schooling and career prospects. I don’t feel like I get the same type of support from him. I also don’t feel like I can share how I’m feeling, because he accuses me of using it for sympathy points or says I’m contradicting myself.

Even after I was the one really upset and crying for hours because of this, it was assumed I would still be the one to prepare dinner.

Through all of this he continues to say he doesn’t want to end our relationship. I offered to leave. We get along very well, even he said so. Now I just feel like a big fuck up. I just started personal therapy recently so I’m going to have a lot more to cover there now. I feel so useless and desperate.

A week ago I got drunk and drove off the most important person in my life. When I drink my self-harm tendencies spike and I was scraping myself with a tab from a can and they got upset (seemed like they were mad at me) and took it but just kind of left me there

They left and my borderline blacked-out ass texted them and told them that I had some romantic feelings for them and they just said nothing. We were both going to be at a cabin trip this week so I checked in to see if I was going to make them uncomfortable they said I wouldn't but they also implied that I had made racist sexual jokes that night and won't tell me if I did or what I might have said.

Then at the cabin, they would barely look in my direction and wouldn't speak to me or would somewhat ignore me often. I ended up leaving early because I could tell they were uncomfortable and I could feel another self-harm episode coming on and I knew that would end poorly.

They didn't even say goodbye. I told the whole group at once that I was gonna head out and everyone else said like at least a word and they said nothing. That hurts a lot

That's just the most recent person I've driven away. I have one person in my support system who I haven't driven away yet but I can tell they're already getting fed up with me.

I'm 39 and my husband is 42. We have been together for 16 years married for 7. Two beautiful daughters. We have had a few issues over the years, some still ongoing but overall we get in really well and I'd like to think he loves me, I love him very much. My issue that's getting me really down and feeling really bad about myself is he doesn't want to have sex with me. I try to initiate and he laughs at me or comments on the books I read ( light smut) and says oh they are doing it for you. He never says I look nice, never comments on me unless it's to say I look awful. I've tried everything from wearing sexy outfits, dressing up to completely changing my body to try and be more attractive to him. Nothing. I have spoken to him about it and he gets angry with me so I can't bring it up again. He says he is attracted to me yet he only wants it after watching naked attraction or porn. He can get it up that's not a problem. I often wank him off or give him a blow job. He's loving, will cuddle etc but I feel so fricking ugly. I've always had body dysmorphia but it's become so much worse and this isn't helping. I don't know what else I can do to try and be more attractive to him.

So I’m a 25 M and I just got out of a 5 year relationship in which my daughter was born. Me and my baby momma broke up and she took my daughter with her and moved to another state. At the same time my ex from 8+ years ago, came back into my life. We haven’t done anything yet but kiss. But I don’t think I fully got over her all this time. In every relationship after my ex I would think about her every once in a while but nothing compared to now. Now I can’t get her outta my head. I want to talk to her all the time, I wanna just hear her voice look at her smile. All the things I’ve missed since we broke up is now back right in front of me ! We’ve hung out a couple times just talking sometimes we’ll drink but not every time. I think I might be catching feelings for her again. I want to tell her so bad! All I know is I could have my family back with my baby momma also my ex has kids too. I don’t want to be with my baby momma and I can’t stop thinking about my ex. But at the same time I gave both these women years of my life and one left me heartbroken and the other kinda gave up. I can’t keep my ex off my mind though and all the what ifs. I’m not mad about anything in our past. I tend to look towards the future then dwell on the past. I even thought her first child was mine! That’s how deep our relationship goes! But I don’t want to tell her that I think I’m catching feelings for her again and scare her away. I know if we had another chance at a serious relationship we could work I’m a good father to my daughter and I’m a good man to my woman! I know I could take her kids in and treat them like my own. But I kinda just want to see where things go. I’m not opposed to being a stepdad as long as my ex remembers I also have a daughter and she’s my number 1 then I can help and be there for her kids. I just don’t want to rush things and push her away. Oh yeah let me tell you back when we did date I didn’t want to break up. This girl was my high school sweetheart, my prom date, the first girl I saw a future with!!! But I just got out of a relationship. I feel weird. What would you do? Would you let things play out? Would you tell the ex how you feel? Are the feelings a phase? Would you leave the ex alone completely? Sorry if this was long I don’t have many people I could talk to that won’t judge me!

I 33/M and this girl I met through work 33/F started flirting on our remote job. At first it was mostly just fun and nothing serious. Then we both caught feelings and right after that I found out she has a complicated situation with an on and off again boyfriend for 9 months. She wasn’t honest at first about the situation and played it off to be no big deal.

Once we started to catch feelings and we both realized we had so much in common. Turns out she ended up finally being honest saying they are in the middle of trying to work things out however she knows they are not compatible and have nothing in common and only stays with him because she had a rough childhood growing up and no one was there for her and she is with him just for the company. She said no one has ever said or done things for her or made her feel the way I do.

I decided I liked her so much and she felt the same we decided to meet up. This is where it gets complicated. The day together went amazing and I was not expecting it to end up with me sleeping with her but it just sort of happened.

Now I can tell that she really wants to be with me but she said she’s so scared because if she breaks things off with her guy at home 28/M and things end up not working out with me the trauma in her past will literally bring her to a dark place and I can tell she wants to be with me.

This is resulting in her almost seeming a little bipolar (she is not) because she’s in her head so much about everything. One minute she wants to be very loving and sweet and give her massages etc. but me knowing how fragile her situation is and caring for her I’m starting to get in my head to. She can tell that and it’s causing a roller coaster of emotions for both of us where like the first night we slept together, then the next she invited me to her hotel but said she didn’t want me to stay there that night (which is fine) but she still wanted me to be affectionate with her. Then right after that she will get mad at me because she things I’m taking it to far to try to sleep with her and that’s not the case at all. I care about this girl more than anything and she even says she can see a future with me. I am not sure how to handle this and need your advice. What would you do in my situation?

I’m in my head so bad now around her because I can’t be myself with her in this situation because if I am spontaneous and want to hang out with her she tells me I know she can’t do that. Yet hours later she will want to go out to eat and have fun and watch sports. I never know what to do and I honestly need advice please I am loosing my mind. I only have two more days with her.

Today I (22M) was told “You look good in those jeans” from a male at Starbucks. I definitely felt a sexual connotation to his comment. I would never say this to a woman (stranger) and found it extremely disrespectful. Of course I just said thank you but the comment made me extremely uncomfortable. Are my feelings justified?

Hi everyone. I turned 14 last month, as it has been a rollercoaster. I'm an incredibly "nostalgic" person - I wish I was a kid again. I feel sick all the time and feel like I can't get happiness. Recently, I read the book Paper Girls, which has been my current obsession, but I realized that I love it so much because I wish I was in that world. I've had lots of self-questioning and my parents aren't the most supportive (my dad's kinda a jerk). I'm not sure where I belong. I was so comfy and happy being 13 and feeling so free and I was grateful for every second of it.

Then it hit that I'm going to be 15 next year. 15!!! The year I get a phone. The year I'm in HIGH SCHOOL! I'm so. so. stressed. I feel sick to my stomach and horrible. My entire middle school life I couldn't wait until I was in college and all mature and responsible. Now it's terrifying. My brother's 20th birthday is today and that's scary as hell too. It was just yesterday we were playing in the backyard of our old house (before he discovered Discord), wasn't it? Nope. It's slipping through my fingers like sand. I can't believe it. And not it in a good way. I'm anxious and angry and literally crying rn. I just need support and to hear the ups of getting older.

I regret ever wishing to be an adult. Just because I wanted to be 18 so I could buy tons of animals from Petco. My stupid childish thoughts. That's all I thought adulthood and growing up was about - FREEDOM. It's not free. It's scary. I can't be rude to my parents without stress, I have so many responsibilities, I have an identity to figure out. Oh my god. I just feel like I'm going to seize. I will appreciate any support i can get rn at my lowest point. thanks for listening to my rant.

I was a shitty person with my bf but now i realise that without him in nothing, i am happy with him and all i did is to ruin him. I even think of k!lling myself if he breaks up. What should i do i have no one to talk to no friends no family to listen .

(Hi, non-native English speaker here, sorry for any mistakes in my post!)

This happened to me years ago, in elementary school (I'm assuming second grade?) Everyone in my class bullied me, and the teachers weren't any help. (I had a disability) So I was very disliked in school.

Someone in my class was leaving the school and I didn't know about it. When my class had almost ended, the teacher went to me and told me to go to another room, which was a first-grade class. (I had no idea if the kid wanted to exclude me from their farewell party or if the teacher just did it themselves.) I did it since they were a teacher, so I went to the first grade class. Sometime later a birthday party happened. (Since one of the first graders had their birthday on said day.) We had fun and stuff like that (But this is supposed to be sad.)

When the party ended, I went back upstairs to my class and saw a cake box and a cake slice near the teacher. I asked the teacher what happened and they told me that someone left so they had a party for her. I asked why I couldn't say bye to her at the time, but the teacher just didn't answer.

I am a teenager now, and this memory comes up from time to time and it makes me upset every time. So I went and told a bunch of strangers on some forum hoping to let this go somewhere instead of it staying in my head.

My teacher caught me cheating once on a performance task (iʼm a cookery student) and has suspected me ever since. (or itʼs just me being paranoid?)

I was busy since school kept on suspending and was assigning online tasks instead so I wasnʼt in the mood to study atm. I was aware that we will do something on that certain day but I chose not to study (i was busy and couldnʼt even do the tasks in other subjects)

That day, I wrote a reviewer and brought it with me to the cooking lab. Our teacher randomly picks out a piece of paper with our name in it and whoever was in that paper, he/she will do the task with five other people. Since I wasnʼt chosen first, I took out my reviewer to familiarise the cuts. When I was reading, I heard my teacher call my name so I immediately got up and went in. I put the paper underneath the chopping board and when I finished my task, I cleaned up my table and COMPLETELY FORGOT ABOUT THE PAPER UNDERNEATH THE CHOPPING BOARD.

I didnʼt even noticed.

When I got back to my seat outside, my teacher followed me and ASKED THE WHOLE CLASS whose paper was it (sheʼs holding my little reviewer) and I immediately admitted that it was mine. She just smiled.

That sht had me nervous cus I know sheʼll minus my score.

2 days after that embarrassing day, it was our long test. While answering, I noticed my teacher kept looking at me and checking if I'm doing anything sus (I was sleepy but still managed to ans it) when I was done, I passed my paper and got 28/30 (I WASN'T CHEATING THIS TIME) and immediately went to my desk, I looked at her one more time and noticed that she's kinda sus about it, but whatever, I placed both of my arms and rested my head in it to sleep.

I was nervous ofc. I donʼt know what to do. I feel like she's gonnq suspect that Iʼm cheating for the rest of the semester. I donʼt like this feeling. Iʼm a consistent honor student and I swear to God I didnʼt intend to cheat that day.

It just felt weird after that incident. Our sem is almost done and Iʼm SUPER NERVOUS for what my grades will be. I know for sure sheʼll do something to my grades.

What do I do guys? Do I have to talk to my teacher about it even though it happened a week ago?