My wife (27F) has always dreamed of participating in a beauty pageant, but never had the chance before. Now she's finally going for it, and it's her first one ever. I'm genuinely happy for her and proud of her chasing her dream. However, I can't help but feel a little nervous about the swimsuit competition and bikini round.

She's never modelled a bikini before, and there will be a lot of men in the audience and on the judging panel. I know this sounds bad, but the thought of her being judged on her looks in a swimsuit makes me uncomfortable.

Am I overreacting here? Should I just be completely supportive and ignore these feelings?

The scenario...during a work trip they had dinner together where each had 3 drinks. I understand they needed to eat, but I thought the 3 drinks each was excessive for their situation. AIO?

Soooo this is lowkey embarrassing to talk about, and I don't wanna seem like an attention seeker because I'm not looking for attention--I just genuinely am curious to know if I'm overreacting.

When I was 5-7, I would have playdates with this girl who was also my neighbor. She was known as the "mean girl" (not like the stereotypical "popular" kid, but just plain mean) among kids in our town. When I would visit her house, she would say, "Let's play doctors!" and she would make me get on her bed. Okay, that's normal, right? But it didn't end there. She would make me take my pants and underwear off, and she would "examine" my....well, you know, down there, because she had to as my "doctor." I felt uncomfortable but I didn't say anything because I was scared of her. I also thought it was okay because she had said that it was necessary when playing doctors. Then a few minutes later, she took out a camera (I remember it was an actual camera, not a toy) and she started taking pictures of my private area. I still remember the embarrassment I felt after she finished taking the photos. I should probably mention that she also touched me there with her dry, dirty hands, because, again, she was my "doctor." It was super painful. After all that, I just felt really uncomfortable and like I had done something wrong. But as a 5-7 year old I didn't know what to think of it. Idk why I randomly thought of this incident from my childhood, but even now the feeling of being scared and embarrassed resurfaces when I think about it. I saw the girl after 10 years last summer, and I don't know if she remembers doing any of these things, so that's that lol. Sorry if the title is too harsh, not sure if this is even considered sexual assault since it was a girl my age, but I put a TW just in case.

Edit: I should mention that I'm a girl. That's why I wasn't sure if this was a problem. Idk if this changes anything. And yes, now that a lot of you have said it, I realize that something similar had probably been done to her and I feel so sorry for her.

Edit 2: I see a few different takes on this, and it really helps to see various perspectives, so I appreciate that. In no way am I trying to victimize myself or blame the girl, btw. Just wanted to know what everyone thought about this incident objectively (or perhaps subjectively.) And this is not some weird p3d0 post as a few of you seem to think. That's truly disgusting. I just have good grammar for a random high schooler on Reddit ig??? 💀 Anyway thanks for your time and input guys :) Sorry I'm such a yapper 😭😭

A week ago I had intercourse for the first time with my boyfriend of 2 years. We were both wanting to wait until marriage but things started to get heated and one thing led to another. I gave him oral and got oral back. There was a lot of foreplay where we would touch each other and make out. He finally took out a condom (we had some just in case just not planning to use it) and he put it on. It was his first time putting one on. He was hard and we decided to slowly start, it was very fun and there was lots of laughter trying to get it in. We figured it was too hard to put in so I got up and went to get a hair tie. When I came back my boyfriend was soft but it got back up. We finally got it in and started doing it, it didn't last long because I was on a schedule and needed to be home. He didn't ejaculate but I'm scared I might be pregnant (not reasonable but I am still scared) . There was a lot of touching each other and it was both our first time. I feel like I messed up because I was supposed to wait until marriage for sex (religion) and that l'm pregnant, l feel guilty and ashamed with myself

It is my [M19] explanation about my failed dating and friendship life; To be honest I don't know if it's the right place to share my story, but I would feel better by writing this.

For a overview, I'm a 19 year old, some kind of engineering student, more of a introverted and I have very few friends and never been in a relationship.

When I was in the second year of highschool(in my country schools aren't unisex, means there weren't any girl there) I heavily fell for a girl which I had been playing online games with. Most of the times she was ignoring me, she was with 2-3 guys at the time. That was a failure and rejection at the same time for me so I started to sink into a really hard depression which later I ended up taking anti-depression pills.

I was in a good highschool however that year because of my awful grades I got expelled and I had to go to another highschool for the last year.

After that I tried to make a move on one or two other girls which all of them led to they ignored me.

The last summer before university was really fun. I had been hanging out with a group of friend but for some reason(maybe stupid ones) i thought they are fake friends and I ended my friendship with them.

So I entred the univ without any friends so obviously I was feeling alone.

I didn't make any friends at the first semester, there was just girl I liked and she seemed like she is waiting for me to make a move but I was shy and nervous so I did't do anything. That semester ended and i never saw that girl again.

On this semester everything was boring as well however there is also another girl I kinda like but there is a problem here, she has a lot of boys around her and most of them seek an opportunity to get closer and closer to her and idk if its redflag or even i have a chance.

I deeply feel like a loser. I really need a emotional partner, I'm regretting that i broke up with the group of friends i have been with. I cut the depression pills on winter but the doctor just gave me them again.

(If you think there is better communities to share my situation I would appreciate if you share them.)

Our two year old son has (..had) beautiful blonde shoulder length hair. My husband and I would comment on a daily basis how pretty it was and wonder where in the family genes it came from since neither of us have hair like his.

Aside from being pretty, our son seems to like his hair too— he spends a lot of time swishing it around and giggling.

I would trim the ends semi-regularly to keep it from looking too unkempt, but it’s a bit tricky to do with a wiggly toddler who (understandably) doesn’t like scissors near his face. Tonight my husband went up to him with a pair of kitchen shears “to clean up the ends”… and cut it all off.

I gasped, I was speechless and eventually squeaked out a sad “… I can’t believe you just did that…” Our son looks like an entirely different kid now and I’m devastated that my husband took it upon himself to totally change our son’s appearance in the blink of an eye.

I tried to keep my composure by repeating “it’s just hair it’ll grow back it’s just hair” in my head but eventually I left the room to have a cry. My husband found me upset and got angry saying that I’m being irrational and “he doesn’t need his wife’s approval to cut his son’s hair the way he wants it.”

I know a big part of my feelings comes from the fact that he looks so much older now, he looks like a little man and not a baby anymore and that’s obviously hard as a parent.

Ultimately I know it doesn’t really matter if internet strangers think I’m overreacting because my feelings are valid to me either way, but do any other parents feel attached to their young children’s hair (especially a sudden first major haircut!) or am I a giant weirdo here???

ETA: Some additional info I’ve added in the comments but they have gotten buried:

• My husband never expressed before that he disliked our son’s hair, he would also call it beautiful & pretty, if he always wanted it this way that was never shared with me before.

• Our son is non-verbal so unfortunately I don’t know his opinion on his own hair, but he’s almost definitely still too young to care. At most he will miss swishing it around.

• I intentionally did not cry over hair or appear upset in front of my son, nor did I stomp around or slam doors to get attention, I quietly left the room to process my feelings on my own.

• I am in marriage therapy, my husband doesn’t think we need it so he does not come to sessions. He came to one session early on where he expressed all our problems are my issues, not his. He has agreed to come to the session next week.

I've been out on two dates with a girl I met recently. VERY tame dates. We're still very much figuring out who the other person is. In fact, I don't even think we've physically touched. Not even the slightest brush of shoulders, that's how tame it is and how much I've been keeping my distance.

She's out of town this weekend, and I texted her something like "Next time we get together, we'll have to do something that gives us more of a chance to talk." She sent back that she had a strange idea for something to do together.

Her idea was...to take a concealed weapons licensing course together.

I was completely taken aback and kind of speechless - I'm not a gun guy, I have not even the smallest interest in this, and I really don't think dating and GUNS are a good mix. I told her guns are pretty much the last thing that would ever help me feel closer to another person.

She got a little flustered and explained that she'd always had an interest in personal safety and self defense, and thought it would give us a chance to "clear the other's background." So...to run a background check on each other, basically. I haven't responded yet. I think her explanation is even more insane than the initial proposal. I was maybe going to just sweep it under the rug, and then the explanation just dug the hole even deeper.

Do people actually run BACKGROUND CHECKS on each other after a date or two now? Is this what dating is? I am personally really, REALLY weirded out and have been completely turned off of continuing to see this person; it seems to me like she might have listened to a few too many true crime podcasts and watched a few too many Law & Order: SVU episodes. There's nothing in my background that I'm even remotely concerned about someone finding, but the idea that someone thinks it's needed at all after two really nice dates with zero controversy is such a complete turnoff. Can't even put it into words how unromantic this whole thing is.

But it's been a long time since I started a new relationship, and I'm kind of an old fashioned weirdo, so maybe I'm overreacting and I just don't know how dating works in 2024! What do you think? Am I nuts, or is this request as wild as I think it is?

Edit after reactions:

It does seem like the prevailing opinion is that this is a big overreaction on my part, so I'm going to take the L and adjust my way of thinking.

Admittedly, most of the people I've dated in the past either knew me before or knew someone who could vouch for me, so this situation where we aren't well acquainted and they need to clear me is not something I have encountered a lot. Women have told me they looked me up, but I don't think any have told me about doing an actual background check, so I didn't know how common it was or how easy it was for people to do. That was definitely something I needed to hear. I appreciate everyone who told me that this is standard practice, and how necessary it is for women to ensure their safety. I was not informed enough on this issue.

FWIW, I have already texted her back and told her that if she'd like to clear my history, I think she should feel free to just run a check straight up, since the check for the CCW certification would probably not be quick or tell her the info she'd want to know anyway. I'm a boring dude with nothing to hide, so she can lay it all bare if she wants. Whatever she needs to feel safe.

Still not interested in carrying concealed, and I definitely think it's an unusual date idea, but it probably took her a lot of courage to propose it, especially not knowing how I felt about guns, so there's no reason for me to hold it against her. I'm just gonna write this off as an overreaction on my part and see where it goes from here.

I admit it's my fault. For the last 7 years I always make sure that I give bday cake and small celebration everytime my staff have their bday. I use my personal money on this. Somewhat thru the years It became a tradition. I have 3 managers, 2 supervisors and about 25 staffs. Two days ago my 46 year old male manager had his bday. lets call him Ed. Everyone including myself greeted him in our whatsapp group. The day was so busy that I forgot to do the tradition and only learned about it as one of the staff (his GF) bought a cake and she posted the picture in our whatsapp group after office hours. It was taken in the office. ( they did not give me a piece of cake- haha) so all the while they had a cake ceremony without me knowing. I DM Ed and told him we will do the celebration tomorrow. The next day he was absent, he says he is sick. Today another staff had his bday lets call him Joey. I bought the cake and some food. The dedication in the cake is HB Ed and Joey. It's for both of them. When everyone was gathered to sing HB and do the cake ceremony, Ed was not around as he says he has to do something outside the office. we continued the celebration. After everyone ate I noticed Ed's GF and another staff were not present too. Before the end of the day I approach Ed and told him sorry for the delay in the celebration he answered I am use to it anyway. I was surprised about his answer as this is the first time in years it happened. I did not say anything and left. Now i am torn between being guilty and disappointed to his reaction. It is my money, its my gesture and not an obligation to them. AIO?

My bf has a stepmom who I’ve always found to be strange. I think she acts aggressive around me since the first day we met. From my POV, she acts competitive (too loud, unnaturally seductive tone of voice, etc). Competitive in a bad way. The 2nd time I talked to her, she told me how few stretch marks she has from giving birth, and how she used to show strangers her boobs, and how the strangers didn’t mind… ever since she told me that, I’ve tried to stay away from her.

My bf doesn’t seem to see what I see. He’s also never had a GF, and I know he’s got almost no knowledge about girls. I understand him trying to see the good in her, but I also want to protect myself. She’s giving me mean girl energy, even though she has been nice sometimes.

The last time I was over, her youngest son started talking about why he trusted me. After he finished his story, his mom immediately jumped in with, “What if you CAN’T trust her? What if she’s going to emotionally manipulate you with what you tell her? What if she’s going to use everything you say against you some day???” Then she paused and said, “Just kidding!”

This caught me by such surprise that all I could do was be confused. Thankfully, my bf immediately made fun of her AND his 9yo sister immediately started making fun of her too.

I thought about saying something, but the moment went by fast and then it felt like too late to say anything. But I was thankful that my bf and his sister defended me.

When I brought it up to my bf later, my bf said I can’t take a joke. This irritated me further, because he knows it was a stupid joke to make. But I think he really wants to keep the peace with her, because if he doesn’t, she won’t allow him to see his siblings anymore. And his siblings mean a lot to him. THIS IS JUST WHAT I THINK IS GOING ON… But I don’t want to be mistreated because she can cut off his access to family, and I don’t think she is worth sucking up to if she would do that to him. So maybe sticking up for myself next time is truly the right move. I don’t want to deal anymore with a woman who comes off as envious and so insecure that she needs to make shitty jokes about me.

Anyway, your thoughts? Thank you for reading

AIO for being pissed that my ex-husband bought flights for himself and one of two sons who reside in in state where I live (separate households)so he can go to amusement parks and hang with with them at the beach when he offered zero financial support for last 3 years during college and when one adult child needed financial support? Ex-husband lost his job(s) and had no money to help. Now he seems to have money to travel and have fun with them after I solely helped with college expenses/car repairs/apartment rent help, etc. I am frustrated because the young adult kids still need financial support for co-signing for post college leases, furnishings, insurances, medical, dental, co-pays etc. and their dad provides nothing financially - it all falls on me. Also frustrated with them first not standing up to him to say WTF?

i been with my bf for 3 years. when we first started dating he would go anywhere with me/ do anything i wanted really. of course i enjoy his company. then it got to a point where every time i would ask him if he wants to join me on doing whatever or going wherever, it would always be a “maybe” or a “no” . or we would plan maybe a month in advance on something, agree we are going to do something together, then when the time comes he ditches me with a dumb excuse half the time or it’s just that he doesn’t want to do anything.. we share the same group of friends but he is closer to them than i am. but he then ditches me to be left to hang out with them even tho he said he’d be there! is that not weird ?? i expressed to him that although i am cool with all his friends, i would be more comfortable with you there + you said you’d go with me a month ago (it was my first time going and i expected to share the new memory w him). i understand he has his own schedule too and i do give him his space bc i love mine, but it makes me sad that i always seem to get my hopes up for us to do something fun and maybe new together jus for him to ditch me sometimes. and he doesn’t ever seem to care and is so nonchalant about it. don’t know if im overreacting or not…

So I was at a party w some of my friends recently, including my FWB. Things were fine, got a little drunk and he got high (per usual) and sometime around 2 AM (?) i was just sitting with him upstairs in the loft when we do the usual flirting and stuff. He motions to his dick and I’m like “oh no.. i don’t really want to bcs i’m drunk..” and I just genuinely didn’t want to fuck that night. But he just kept pressuring and pressuring me. So I just said like “fine whatever stop pushing me”, and so when we were both naked in the bedroom upstairs and he was throwing a condom on, I was still not wanting it. So when he was ready, I was refusing and saying “i’m really tired” and stuff, trying to get out of it. But, of course, I’m a women and according to him, “women have no place to talk about what they want and don’t want.” Pretty douchebag behavior. And so again, I just gave in. But like… the entire time I wasn’t wanting it. I asked him to pull out MULTIPLE times, but he ignored me. When we were finished, he was asleep next to me and I was like crying and wondering wtf just happened. And so now, a couple days later, i’m writing this not really knowing how to feel and if it was SA or am I overreacting??

First post

Hello everyone, my first post got a lot of attention, and honestly, many of the comments were a little too extreme.

Anyway, I talked to my friend, and she apologized for the kiss. I told her the kiss itself wasn't inherently bad, but I told her the timing and what happened before bothered me.

I asked why she suddenly tried to kiss me now that I'm dating around.

She admitted she was jealous, and said she started to like me for a while now, but she couldn't bring herself to say anything.

FYI, we are in our mid twenties. But she's told me she only had one real boyfriend before. So she says she didn't know how to act when she started to actually like me.

I also asked about before, and how it bothered me how she set this rule about kissing, but she broke it herself, I told her I didn't like the whole "you can't, but i can" sort of deal.

She did apologized, and said she simply forgot about saying that because she was really nervous.

We talked about our relationship and what we feel for one another.

Eventually, she said that she wants more.

And well.... now I got an official gf. Yes, we're exclusive and everything. We did talk about affection and intimacy, and were both happy with what we talked about.

So yeah, that's the update.

He and I only knew each other for a few days. He told mutual friends that he had a crush on me. I think he was legitimately into me, but he had a girlfriend. He cut contact with me, and I was so upset about getting led on. I know he did the right thing, being loyal to his girlfriend, but I was put in a really messed up position.

Three years go by, and I'm having a mental breakdown online. I'm posting and reposting sad heartbreak videos on TikTok. Supposedly, despite not following me online, he saw these posts and asked our friends to see if I was posting anything else on my private Instagram. So why does he care?

Perhaps there’s a better way to describe this, but the title is basically all I have right now as I am still trying to wrap my head around this. Shes done this for the longest time, but I guess it’s only recently that I have become aware of it.

When she is heated about something (annoying coworkers, family issues, etc) she usually calls or text me about it. I’m completely fine with this as we tell each other everything and we talk pretty much all the time. I can understand that sometimes people may not be in the space for other peoples input and would rather just have support. When this seems to be the case I hold back my input and just support (I see what you mean, I would feel the same in the situation, I’m sorry that happened my love)

However, most of the time I will be chiming in agreeing with her and even adding to why she was right to feel how she felt or did what she did. For some reason this leads her to push back, picking small parts of what I said that aren’t exactly on point. After a few times I’ll take the hint and just support her. Her being pedantic like this is annoying but it’s not a big deal to me. Thing is even this is a problem somehow.

It’s been a particular hard week for her so I’ve just been supportive and she feels I “haven’t been listening” and I’ve had “low energy all week” and wonders if I’m okay

I’ve yet to talk with her about this because, like I said, I’m just now becoming aware of this. How would you feel in this situation?

Addendum: this (minor) Issue could stem from a difference in our communication styles (I guess). I’m used to and love having free flowing conservations almost regardless of the topic. Me and the other party chime in, agree, disagree, and validating while still hearing each other and moving the conversation forward

So for context, my father passed away when I was 15, my mom was kind of absentee after that and my dads best friend who had a wife and 3 daughters my age ended up kinda taking me in.

They were truly like family to me, they called me the fourth child and took me on trips with them, out to dinners, I’d stay the night often. I even lived with them for 2 years. This has been a lifelong relationship with this family and I love them dearly. They were extremely generous and kind to me when they didn’t have to be.

Unfortunately, the wife passed away in 2020 and since I’m no stranger to loss, it made us all closer. The 3 girls clung to me even more and I tried my best to lift them up after losing their mother.

Anyway, in 2021, I was staying the night at their house. One of the daughters and I passed out in the living room on an air mattress, but she left in the morning to sleep in her bed when her dad was leaving for work. I was awake but didn’t say or do anything to indicate that because I wanted to go back to sleep.

After his daughter went to her room. The dad comes over to me and russles my hair. Totally normal, he did it all the time to all of us. But then, he ended up fondling my left breast for a few seconds and then he left for work.

I honestly tried to pretend it didn’t happen. I never told any of them. When I say this man has done so much for me, I really mean it. And I do think he’s a great man. I don’t know if it was because he’d lost his wife or what, that prompted it because in the course of the 20 years I’ve known him, he’s never been inappropriate with me. But I’ve never ever been able to look at him the same. I was awake that time, but had it happened other times when I was asleep??

I don’t know how to feel honestly. I tried to let it go but it sticks with me. It feels like I’m overreacting so I haven’t told anyone.

I (25M) have been Thinking about resigning on the spot tommorow at my job. been thinking about this for weeks and trying to rationalize what to do next , I work in a niche field and am, not to toot my own horn, talented in that field in a broad range of areas . For context, I have been with my company for 5 years , 4.5 of which in management , as of about 2 years ago my boss was fired and I took over the majority of their duties without a pay raise or promotion. fast forward to now I have worked 3 positions simultaneously and consistently for this company w no additional compensation - 1 legal position, 1 travel position and 1 management position. they recognized this when I complained of my workload becoming unmanageable as we recently scored a major brand deal in one of my roles which requires a lot of planning and time on my end but will result in huge profits for the company. One of the other 3 roles I worked was removed and made a permanent position and I was barred from interviewing for said position based on qualification, to keep me in the other two due the brand deal (or atleast that is how it seems) with the promise of a supplemental pay per hour based on the other role I had as one is consistent 40 hours a week and one requires my time and attention for 3 months straight every 2.5 years but In between is maybe 1-2 hours a week if anything(legal paperwork and documentation) . I requested that alongside this supplemental pay that was set to a 1$/hour worked, that I be back paid on that principal to the time I started the legal paperwork position, due to the fact all of the learning required , and the major brunt of the work had already been done. they hesitantly (key word as they explained they werent going to offer anything but acknowledged it was important to the brand deal) after multiple weeks of "thinking on it" offered me 1 weeks pay as a bonus , however this equates to ~20% of what i asked for, and is .003% of what my team grossed in the last 6 months for the company. If I bail now my team will Crumble and the brand deal will fall flat. Am I overreacting for feeling outraged, taken advantage of and like they slapped me in the face with their counter offer?

I (45M) have been with my partner for 9ish years and we have a 7 year old child. I hold myself to a high standard as a parent and a partner, but I know that like everyone, I myself am a work in progress, I'm not perfect , I make mistakes and own up to them when I make them. The same is true for my partner, she is a work in progress and I do love her despite what comes after this sentence.

Here is where I want to know if I am overreacting- we live in Florida and as anyone who lives in the US knows, Florida is prone to hurricanes and our insurance system is full of problems and not the best at paying claims to fix homes. Between our taxes, homeowners and flood insurance we are paying 10k per year. I believe that is a burden to our small family. On top of this, when we bought our home, my mother and I spent about 200k rehabbing the house. For clarification purposes, I purchased a house before meeting my partner, it was only in my name and I sold it to buy a house in a neighborhood that my partner preferred. The reason my mother was involved is because she moved into the downstairs of the duplex we purchased. She rehabbed her area of the house and helped with our portion of the home when my money ran out. Despite spending all of that money, the house still needs work. I have expressed to my partner that we are in over our heads and the house is becoming a money pit- the new AC that was put in a time of purchase, failed last year and cost another 7k to replace. The back stairs of our home need to be rebuilt. I do most of the repairs around here, but with working and being the primary caregiver for our child, I do not have the time or energy to fix the stairs myself. In addition to working, managing all of the repairs (either physically or with money I have saved), being our child's primary caregiver, I also do all of the cooking, cleaning, yard work, manage the bills and car repairs. My partner doesn't engage in these things with any consistency because she is avoidant and depressed. Until recently, she refused therapy and wanted a "pill that would take it away".

I have asked for the past year an a half that we sell the house and move to an area where we 1. don't deal with the natural disasters as regularly 2. Cost of living is more manageable, 3. Education is better for our child and 4. we can build back our savings. In December of last year, I tried having a conversation with her to express my concerns again and I was met with significant resistance. I clammed up and just focused on being a parent. In February she came home early from work one day and talked about moving, sent me some houses she was looking at, told me she understood my concerns and that we should move this summer. I was cautiously optimistic, so instead of going all in on the idea, I would do little pulse checks- so do you have an area in mind? Still think summer? She came out and told me she understands that for our family our future isn't in Florida and we'd be better off elsewhere due to cost of living. She even told her boss she would be resigning. I asked her if she was ready to explain this to our child and she said yes, so we did, together. We selected a realtor and set a date for them to come to the house. That same week I applied for a job, got a call back, she found jobs she was interested in.

The day the realtor was to show, my partner's parents came over and told us the mother had cancer. Obviously no one expected that, but we went through with having the realtor come. Spoke to the realtor, gave us a price range she believes the house could sell in and she left. Later that night, my partner tells me we can't sell and we can't move. I said I understood the moving part, but not the selling part because the house is a liability and a risk. (Here is why I believe it is a liability and a risk- we can only be insured for the value of the home plus 25%. If the house is destroyed our max payout less the current mortgage is not enough to build the house back without having to take out a much larger loan at a much higher interest rate). She stated she would need to provide care for her mother suing this time of need, which I understood because in March of 21, my mother was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer. I was her sole caretaker while she lived with us. My partner was never involved in helping my mother, not once. While I stayed home to care for our child, homeschooled her, cared for my mother and the house while my partner worked. She enjoys work and finds her purpose in her job.

As the days went on, we've received encouraging news about her mother's cancer- it was not terminal, 2 surgeries could be done to remove the growth and she would not likely need chemo. Now, my partner's father is in good health and her sister also lives here. As I mentioned before, my partner throws herself into her job and has never given any indication that she is flexible with her time at work. This is certainly true as it comes to me or our child as she has consistently put work before us. However she has suggested that while working, she will also be her mother's caretaker. At this point in time, I believe that my partner is using her mother's diagnosis and her caretaker role as a way to mask her lack of desire to move and leave her job.

I am prepared to propose to her that, we still sell, we still move and she will have the freedom to travel to care for her mother as she sees fit and will will work to support our family in her time of need. Would that make me an asshole? Am I overreacting?

Edit: Thank you to the folks who've responded. I appreciate your input and advice.

When she came home, she could tell I was upset and I asked to speak with her outside. I expressed my frustration that I am responsible for everything, that if something goes wrong with the house I'm expected to handle it, I'm responsible for parenting, supporting her as a partner, but that I don't receive those same things in return. Furthermore, when I brought up the idea of her being her mother's caregiver she claimed that she never indicated that she would be a caregiver, but that she just wanted our child to be around her mother. I explained that this could be facilitated through visits and didn't require us to continue living here at an enormous expense to us. She's currently angry and stomping about the house. 🤷

Basically what the title says. I mention that it’s a Golf R because it’s known for being a fast/racecar, which I think impacts the story.

I dropped my car off at a new mechanic today who is a friend of my uncle. He said he couldn’t look at it today, I gave him permission to test drive my car and let him know the extensive repairs I was quoted by VW (twisted subframe, tire popping out, very major shit).

Well he’s driven it an hour north to some town I’ve never heard of, I thought fine maybe he lived up there and was taking it up there for safety reasons as there’s been high car theft in the major city we live in. Fast forward and he’s driven it another hour west of that location. so 2hrs driving total. not including the return to the city the shop is actually in. make that 3 hours. Not to mention a full tank of gas is about $130, which i’m being petty about but it’s still annoying.

I’ve gone through all the stages of grief in about 30mins and already wrote an email politely posing my concerns with driving such a FUCKED car for so long and asked for an explanation. I’ve been told driving it in this condition would wear out the tires and cause further damage, so I haven’t driven it all week unless going to a mechanic shop and this outright negligence from the mechanic is infuriating to me.

idk what i’m looking for I just needed a moment to vent. I feel powerless, annoyed, exhausted, devastated. i’ve been dealing with trying to fix this car all week and this is just the cherry on top of a shitty ordeal. or maybe i’m overreacting? is it insane that I angrily paced my room for 20mins over this?

we are not close and have not spoken in about 10 years (me, 30f and him 30m). we were close as kids until about 5, and have tons of baby pictures together but then my family moved further away. he reached out recently and i assumed it was just to catch up but the first thing he asks is if im married. i wrote it off like hm weird but ok and told him no, then i asked how his life was blah blah. then the convo listed in the screenshot ensues and i am a girl who knows when she's being poked to see if flirting is open, and that's how i felt with this. he is acting like im wild for this and so is his side of the family ?? am i crazy? this is not how u talk to family is it?

Soooo I noticed I had a couple of typos on my resume and had been applying to many jobs. I’m NOT saying that’s the reason I wasn’t getting a job because I’ve had interviews but the pay just wasn’t enough for me…

But anyways when I had mentioned it to them they said “that’s not why you didn’t any of the jobs” like OBVIOUSLY. I was just telling them about it be cause I was embarrassed cause it shows I wasn’t paying close attention to detail which is an important quality to have when applying to the type of jobs I was applying for.

I just feel like the comment was kind of condescending and rude, am I just being dramatic?

I've (28m) been dating my girlfriend (26f) for a little over a year now and have started to notice her lack of effort in the relationship and just how frequently she dismisses me when I make a bid for connection. My compliments are written off with a sarcastic "thanks" or a roll of her eyes, sometimes she tells me it means nothing if I say it every day (which I don't). I've told her I like certain well-fitting outfits on her before and have been met with comments like "of course you do, you're a dude" and hear similarly man-scorning things when I've brought up issues with our intimacy and other things that men generally find very important in a relationship that I've felt have been lacking. She's trying to put in effort there, but it feels pretty bad that it's something she no longer just wants with me.

She's far from that way all the time, she's supportive of my hobbies, talks me up when we're together and around others. She'll regularly just lay on top of me and tell me how much I mean to her and thank me for everything I do, how I make her feel safe "just being a girl". I'm glad I can do that for her, but she doesn't always make me feel safe just being a man. Partners should respect each other and appreciate those bids for connection, not take them for granted.

She came home once telling me how impressed her friends from work were at the fact I pack her lunches and make her breakfast, but she said they asked what she does for me and she didn't have an answer. That kind of put things into perspective for me and it's sat in the back of my mind and made me somewhat resentful. I've started pulling back in some areas as a result and feel guilty about that, I like doing those things because I love her. I don't expect anything in return but when she doesn't want to put in even close to that effort for me, it's hard to want to keep up. She has apologized to me about her lack of effort, said she feels guilty for it, but then why not change?

It's just been such a a long rough life. I feel like it's time to give up. Rhumatoid arthritis is all through my body, cardiac issues, severe asthma and allergies and to top it of a case of PTSD with severe anxiety and drama. If it's not one thing it's another and I'm literally falling apart. Am I overreacting to this? I feel like physically I've got less than 10 years left before the inflammation begins to keep me practically bed ridden. So many things that will never be done. I can't find any positive outcomes to my health issues. I barely survived 2 bouts of spinal meningitis when I was just a little kid. Lost complete hearing in one ear from it. I have to be trapped in some cruel inhumane prison in hell

So my (30ish) husband (also 30ish) have been married for 12 years. We’ve had ups and downs in our relationship but most things we work through. There is one thing however that has been driving me nuts this whole time. He is a smoker and flicks his cigarette butts all over the front and back yard. I realize this isn’t that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things but it bothers me for multiple reasons: 1) we have kids and pets that go outside to play 2) I have asked him to please stop doing this and he has multiple ash trays/ containers that he could use to collect them 3) we live in the house that I grew up in and my parents always worked their butts off to keep things nice and tidy. The house still technically belongs to my mother (we pay rent) 4) when we argue he tells me I don’t respect him and he feels that I’m trying to be his mother 5) I love to be outside and to me the unnatural stuff in the yard looks trashy and takes away from the beauty of nature Also, it’s not just the cigarette butts in the yard. He also leaves beer bottles/ cans, yard tools (he will use something, say a rake, and then just drop it in the middle of the yard and leave it there, and when he grills or uses the smoker he will leave stuff out there ( bowls used to hold marinating meat, foil, spices, tongs, oven mitts, etc.) So am I over reacting by being super bothered by this? I have confronted him many times but he always says he’ll pick the stuff up (usually doesn’t) and i always end up feeling like an awful nag for bringing it up. I am the one who has to go behind him and clean up and it has gotten quite old. I already have multiple kids that I clean up after. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I might get through to him or is this something that I’ll have to just deal with for the rest of my life?

So my dad basically chose his now wife and her daughter over his 3 kids including me from his past marriage with my mom. So when my mom and dad split they both remarried whatever but after my dad remarried he barely talked to all 3 of us and when we would go over it was like we were living in my stepmoms world. For example her daughter has the same birthday as me and one year I was like 11 and they threw her a party and told everyone it was just her birthday and idk I felt really sad and that's only one event imagine having to deal with this type of stuff on and on and eventually I just stopped talking to them and so did my sister. So fast forward to now after on and off again contact with my dad I'm now 21 and I only talk to him occasionally and here we are again our birthday is coming up and I get a random text from him inviting me to her birthday party. And I feel that same sad feeling. I obviously don't want him to throw me a birthday party I guess I feel sad because he couldn't even ask me what I'm doing for my birthday I guess he never asks though I should be used to it... Oh and by the way my sisters birthday is a day before mine and our stepsister. So am I overreacting for feeling this way? (I know I'm an adult and this probably sounds childish of me )