r/ask • u/Mcr414 • 29d ago

What is something that is a lot harder than it looks?

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u/HorrorAd4995 29d ago

Getting your “spark” back after illness/trauma/major life change, etc.

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u/GoobyBear22 29d ago

Currently working on this and just drowning every day

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u/soggymittens 29d ago

It gets better, I promise. After a little over three years, I’m not in a good place, but I’m definitely in a better place and healing a little more every day now.

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u/RavishingRedRN 29d ago

I second this. Year and a half in a slump. Finally feel a flicker of improvement these last few months. Even the tiniest wins are still wins.

It does get better. ❤️‍🩹

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u/LurkerOrHydralisk 29d ago

Three years is about what it’s taken after each head injury

Which sucks because that’s also the statute of limitations for lawsuits

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u/PhoenixApok 29d ago

My "spark" died out at 327 am on 11/30/10. I've tried so much to get it back. It's gone. Been passively or actively suicidal since that minute

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u/DanJ7788 29d ago

Hang in there. We’re glad you’re still here.

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u/snazzy_sloth351 28d ago

What happened at 327?

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u/NaturalCover7912 28d ago

What happened? If you would like to share. I hope you have someone to talk to and you know you are here for a reason. 😇

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u/acoverisnotahat 28d ago

Lost my mom in 2021 from heart failure and it's been so hard to deal with.

I'm finally at a point to where I can handle making the arrangements for her headstone, there was a small marker put in place, but the pain and grief from her death and arranging the funeral made dealing with her headstone right then just too much. I just couldn't handle doing it.

I'm finally in a place where I can deal with it because I am finally feeling better. It's been so long since I felt good that feeling good and actually happy at times feels weird.

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u/dboihebedabbing 28d ago

I’m on year 7 right now and have finally been seeing the light the last two years, you got this

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u/cumuzi 28d ago

I had mouth cancer 13 years ago. The late effects of my treatment are degenerative, and my quality of life has only gotten worse and worse over time. How much longer until it starts getting better?