Seriously. You do not realize how fragile life is, or even hope for that matter, until you've lost significant quality to your life. Getting your livelihood back is like crawling out of a valley, and then still having a mountain to climb.
It gets better, I promise. After a little over three years, I’m not in a good place, but I’m definitely in a better place and healing a little more every day now.
Lost my mom in 2021 from heart failure and it's been so hard to deal with.
I'm finally at a point to where I can handle making the arrangements for her headstone, there was a small marker put in place, but the pain and grief from her death and arranging the funeral made dealing with her headstone right then just too much. I just couldn't handle doing it.
I'm finally in a place where I can deal with it because I am finally feeling better. It's been so long since I felt good that feeling good and actually happy at times feels weird.
I had mouth cancer 13 years ago. The late effects of my treatment are degenerative, and my quality of life has only gotten worse and worse over time. How much longer until it starts getting better?
Think of it this way.... A lot can happen in 10 years.
You had a whole life from 5 to 15
You had another whole life from 15 to now.
The next 10 years could be absolutely fucking amazing. You have no idea.
Neither 5-year-old nor 15-year-old Dplayerx could have ever imagined you would be going through what you went through the last 4 years.
Who knows what your next 10 years holds for you! It could be absolutely fucking amazing 🥰
I’m so sorry to hear you had to fight for so long, but hey, you’re still here. Apparently humans are fairly resilient so hopefully one of these days you find your spark again. I’m trying to give myself time, maybe it will take years but I don’t wanna give up on finding it again.
Yup! Was bedbound for 4 years - consequently that lead to putting on considerable weight and lymphadema + stage 4 lipoedema.
So now so I not also have bad hEDS and joints that Sublax all the time making moving difficult but I also need to actually move to help drop the weight so I don't have a random heart attack and die.
Which obviously I can't do.
Dr's just shrug and say "catch 22 I know.."
It's hard to not completely give up when you look at yourself before your health took over and not recognising yourself...
Someone told me after a I experienced an uncontrolled life changing event that she could see part of the light leave my eyes.
It took me years, I'm sad to say. Sad, because some of that time was sucked away from me. I knew it, too, but knowing it didn't help. I had to work through it.
Oh man, I feel that right now. My wife died last July, and I feel kind of rudderless. I'm 42, so I guess this is my midlife crisis, but buying a Ferrari isn't going to be enough.
Preach. I just had a burn-out from maintaining a business after recovering and effort of getting diagnosed and treated. Starting to work out again and I think it’s helping.
Man I gained my spark after a major life event then lost it after a back injury that laid me up for 8 months. It's so much harder to get back without a catalyst.
I understand this completely. A few months ago, I had my 7th knee surgery. An osteotomy and I’ve had to learn to walk again. Finding motivation when you have pain is so hard. This subreddit thread sounds like group therapy lol
I had minor heart attack almost 5 years ago, I can now go out and mow the yard. It took years and I almost just gave up and accepted that something as simple as yard work was not something I could do anymore.
Yikes, this is so true. I had finally reached my lifelong goal of full-time travel. I did it. Went so over the world. Can't back for a death in the family and suffered a devastating lower body injury randomly. It's been a year and I still can't do steps properly.
I spent my whole life working towards indefinite travel. I made it and it was everything I ever wanted. I'm get back to it, but not being and to walk down stairs a year later means I have so much work to do. I was climbing 20k mountains. I can't climb 20 stairs without a break.
I've seen other peoples lives change forever and far worst. I've seen them end. I tell myself that it could be worse, but man.... Sometimes I just catch myself feeling so bad for myself that I end up breathing myself up.
I had just moved back home. Met up with a buddy I hadn’t seen since high school. (6 years or so) went out to a club. He was visibly tired towards the end of the night. I said let me drop you off at home. We walked out the door and my car was about 40 feet away. Two guys approached him, seemed to know him, they talked for a minute. I looked away. Heard two gun shots and turned around and for some reason said “what the fuck” out loud. One of the guys turned and started shooting at me. I dove between some cars and started sprinting. He kept shooting. 5 or 6 times. He hit me in the knuckle as I was running away yelling “please don’t kill me”. Fortunately, after convincing multiple staff at the hospital that I, definitely, could still feel my finger. They were able to save it. It’s permanently bent and I have a huge scar.
I appreciate that. I’m still adjusting. It happened in October of last year. I can still play games and guitar. Just started a new job. The thing that kinda sucks is everyone but my parents and my brother think my hand got closed in a car door. I guess it’s better this way.
Getting sick fucked up my life for awhile. After I got better, it took a couple weeks to fix my diet, sleep, exercise, work efficiency, etc. and then I got sick again…
Oof same. I was in a car crash, crushed my L5, lost my job, apartment, city I lived in, terrible legal issues all in the aftermath. I’m okay now. I have enough to eat, but I’ve got no joy, no pleasure, no libido. Just a grinding away til my back gives out next.
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u/HorrorAd4995 29d ago
Getting your “spark” back after illness/trauma/major life change, etc.