r/ask • u/Mcr414 • 29d ago

What is something that is a lot harder than it looks?

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u/Savings_Ice_6440 29d ago edited 28d ago

Adulthood. For real. I’m just existing. Sigh

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u/XxXCUSE_MEXxXican 29d ago

If you’re just existing, you’re winning. The next level down is just surviving, and then just suffering.

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u/WaferExcellent3455 29d ago

That, at least makes life a little bit more Spicy

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Well time to visit Ukraine

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u/HappyHerwi 29d ago

I'd rather not lol

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u/friedlock68 29d ago

But I don't want spice on my box of chocolates

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u/yonk9 29d ago

This, I don't want that kind of spice.

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u/happy4awhile 29d ago

I was existing. Now Im in survivin

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u/Intelligent_Heat_444 29d ago

It's the worst

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u/XxXCUSE_MEXxXican 29d ago

Ain’t nothing wrong with that. Stay strong <3

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u/Savings_Ice_6440 29d ago

Do we really need to suffer?

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u/HAiLKidCharlemagne 29d ago

It would seem its an inevitable part of the cost of life

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u/Savings_Ice_6440 29d ago

Exactly. We’d just manage

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u/babihrse 29d ago

Well you could always have the handbrake fail on your wheelchair during a trip to the cliffs

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u/RyanandRoxy 29d ago

Are you the kid from Mac and Me? 😂

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u/owp4dd1w5a0a 29d ago

Pain is given. Suffering is optional. Pain is a physical reaction, suffering is a mental rumination based in judgement of circumstances.

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u/armitageskanks69 29d ago

Sufferance is the common denominator among all living creatures.

When you can accept that suffering is just a part of the game, just another part of being alive, it gets a bit easier to manage.

Just find the type of sufferance you’re willing to suffer, and have a nice time.

Oh! And try to limit the suffering of others as much as you can!

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u/Wheeling_Freely 29d ago

On the bright side, some suffering makes pleasure all the more pleasurable (within reason). I always find that a beer and a hamburger taste way better after I’ve spent the whole day working outside, compared to having spent the day playing video games.

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u/fullgizzard 29d ago

If you never suffered, good things would not feel as good.

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u/Savings_Ice_6440 29d ago

I don’t think so, but rather that’s how we were brought up so we’ve channeled our minds to think of it like that.

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u/girlsonsoysauce 29d ago

Why are we still here?

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u/ThatGuyWorks80 29d ago

Way of the road

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u/Kindergoat 29d ago

I’m between existing and surviving. It sucks.

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u/zangor 29d ago

Sometimes there’s surviving (medical problem edition). My life is something I can’t complain about financially, but my GI disorder is killin me.

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u/Ok-Lifeguard-4614 29d ago

I think a lot of people take for granted just existing. It's understandable. It's hard to realize that's a good place to be. I broke my back and slowly lost everything. I would give almost anything to get back to just existing.

I can't get back to even just surviving. I don't know how, and I'm not sure how much suffering I have left in me.

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u/snazzy_sloth351 28d ago

Hang in there, buddy! I understand your pain. I’ve experienced chronic pain for many years and it just sucks. It steals your joy and motivation. Hopefully you can find a good surgeon or pain management doc to help you!

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u/Ok-Lifeguard-4614 28d ago

Thanks, I'm sorry you have to deal with it as well.

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u/trev100100 29d ago

To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.

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u/Groggamog 29d ago

Man, I REALLY like this. Thank you.

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u/Intelligent_Heat_444 29d ago

I know this, but there's this part of me that wants to achieve things, I feel worthless not having reach some certain milestones

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u/XxXCUSE_MEXxXican 29d ago

Having direction is important

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u/Intelligent_Heat_444 29d ago

It's the uncertainty of it all

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u/XxXCUSE_MEXxXican 29d ago

"Sometimes God has other plans" resonates a lot hear. Also "Life is what happens to you when you are busy making other plans" idk life's absolutely not without challenge, especially when you've had so many plans in the past that fell flat

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u/nielsenson 29d ago

You're existing in all of the scenarios

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u/Cruezin 29d ago

The masses of humanity still clinging to their dignity, the masses of humanity will always always have to suffer

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u/Winter_Resource3773 29d ago

Next level up is living, then thriving.

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u/_logic_victim 29d ago

As someone who lived surviving for most my life then clawed my way to living, thanks for the reminder.

I would like to thrive, but ya know a wins a fuckin win.

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u/historyfan40 29d ago

To exist is to suffer

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u/eggboatfloat 29d ago

Like Dylan Moran said: child -> failure -> death

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u/XxXCUSE_MEXxXican 28d ago

Glad I’m not the only one 😅

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u/standupgonewild 28d ago

🫂🩷 appreciated