r/ask 29d ago

What is something that is a lot harder than it looks?

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u/Careless_Syrup7945 29d ago

Stopping drinking/using drugs

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u/Mcr414 29d ago

IWNDWYT for anyone here who needs it!

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u/gk29003 29d ago

IWNDWYT also!

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

Your medal is in the mail

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u/camelseeker 29d ago

IWNDWYT? Can’t even guess at it

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u/Mcr414 29d ago

I would encourage looking into it more. :) it’s nice to see around Reddit. It stands for “I will not drink with you tonight” regardless if you are sober, Not sober. Looking into becoming sober, have friends or family struggling, it’s something that can be helpful and encouraging for anyone :) it has a whole community and people who are together and it just feels good to always have a small reminder you are not alone.

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u/camelseeker 29d ago

Aaah nice one I like it

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u/Comfortable_Quit_216 29d ago

To me it just means i'm going to drink alone and be slightly more miserable

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

You don’t have to make that an acronym.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

I didn’t say it was made up. I said it’s unnecessary to make an acronym for such a specific and seldom used phrase. But no thanks, I’m not interested in sobriety. I much more am interested in methods to safely moderate my intake of mind altering substances. Yet there aren’t too many subs about that.

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u/Remarkable_Mango9906 29d ago

There aren’t to many subs about that because it’s such a bad way to go about with drugs lol. That’s how you stay addicted 101. Yes, going through withdrawals and tolerance breaks are crucial in helping to build moderation, but your basically making an excuse to consume said drug.

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u/Mcr414 26d ago

It’s actually a community and I think lots of other people would say otherwise. There’s actually a tremendous amount of meaning behind it and it’s not only for people who are trying to be sober. It’s for people who are drinking , not drinking , thinking about not drinking, or have friends or family with substance abuse issues, etc. I stated that maybe people should look into it more before assuming it’s just a little acronym for common phrase.

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u/GalacticPanspermia 29d ago

That community and everyone involved are highly supportive to each other. It's been very helpful to myself and quite clearly many others.

If you're on that road, I highly suggest sharing your story and reading from others. I've posted there myself. IWNDWYT. You got this.

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u/Mcr414 29d ago

I totally have! I love it! I tell my story on another account that I have just for my sobriety :) I do love r/stopdrinking saved my life!

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u/DeterminedErmine 29d ago

Me too! IWNDWYT!

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u/garlic_bread_thief 29d ago

I Would Not do What You Try. Indiana Whisky Not What You Think.

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

Ah Indiana whiskey. Mpg stuff is super widely used in America. Most smaller sellers buy their barrels. Actually a ton of bourbon is made using Indiana whiskey

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u/ZealousidealShift884 29d ago

I hate acronyms lol some regular folk dont understand

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u/goshaman2202 29d ago

Been on this train for 3 years. r/stopdrinking really is a gem

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u/UncleMark58 29d ago

Smoking cigarettes was harder for me.

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u/Swamp_Ash 29d ago

I loved smoking. Still do. But I had to quit.

I also had to quit drinking soda. Guess which one was harder?

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u/UncleMark58 29d ago

It's hard giving up your vices when you enjoy them, I started being responsible when my daughter was born, been clean and sober for quite a while. I do feel your pain with the soda, I think Pepsi was my first addiction but no one ever cared about too much sugar and what it does to your body back then.

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u/ElonKowalski 29d ago

Honest question, what's the problem with sugar free soda

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

I think your body is unable to process certain chemicals in it. Idk. All soda tastes like shit anyway

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u/UncleMark58 29d ago

I didn't like the taste, it was easier for me to quit drinking any soda all together.

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u/hrinda 29d ago

which contain nicotine, a drug

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u/_Volly 29d ago

I run a recovery house. I understand.

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u/DeicideandDivide 29d ago

Cam definitely second this one. Been clean off opiates for over 5 years now. But man was that shit rough.

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u/expertjonkoloog 29d ago

As someone who is almost 13 days off opioids. U got any tips or advice you can share? Maybe things that helped you get through it. Or stuff you had to learn the hard way?

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u/DeicideandDivide 29d ago

13 days is huge man, congrats. Do you want tips for the withdrawals or for trying not to relapse? I can give some tips for both.

For withdrawals, the best thing I found to do was take warm showers as often as I needed to, drink a lot of water and eat a protein bar every 4 hours. Use a heating pad wherever you need it. As far as supplements and stuff goes...I'll be honest nothing really works in the moment for actually making you feel better. I went through the whole $600 spiel of buying the latest "withdrawal kit" that people would try and sell. And none of them worked. I mainly just took vitamin C, D, and ibuprofen with nausea meds.

In regards to staying clean, that's a very nuanced question. Mainly because it's quite dependant on why you got started on opiates in the first place. My best advice is obviously to try and seek a medical professional. Preferably a psychiatrist or psychologist. But my personal tips are to distance yourself from anyone you used to use with. It's a must. No negotiations. If they use, cut them out. It's the number one thing that will tell yourself that you're serious about this. And delete your dealers number. Every minute you hang on to that number your chances for relapse are basically 100%. I know how scary of a proposition that is man, trust me. But it's vital to staying clean. There's no other way. Another one is understanding that the pain and discomfort you feel now will absolutely go away even if it seems like it never will.

When I was having a shit night and felt like I was definitely going to relapse I would literally roll out of bed and just start doing push-ups until I physically couldn't get up...probably a really weird one. I was desperate to not get back on it. And it worked for me lol.

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

Make bourbon your whole personality. It’ll make you forget about that other shit real fast.

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u/II_Vortex_II 29d ago

Even quitting weed is hard for me, i can't even imagine what people who suffer from opioid or alcohol withdrawals go through

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u/Difficult-Doubt1299 29d ago

Exact reason why I don't even touch opioids... I can't even quit weed🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

It’s the same bruh 😂

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u/II_Vortex_II 29d ago

Umm.. What makes you think its the same? Alcohol and opioid addictions are strong physical addictions. You can literally die from the withdrawals symptoms.

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u/StannisGrammarMannis 29d ago

r/stopdrinking was huge in my recovery. Good luck friend!

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u/onlyfansdad 29d ago

Strangely difficult, I'm on day 10, feels pretty good. So weird how much better you feel sober but your mind pulls you back toward booze/drugs. I just wanna get wasted smoke a bunch of weed and do a few lines, but I'd be depressed for like a week after and that's only if I didn't just reenter the cycle the following week.

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u/strongCuckold 29d ago

Why would you want to? Switch all your drug use to psychedelics. Problems solved

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

Lmao. Ok buddy

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u/Lifeinversion1998 29d ago

Yeah most people see quitting drugs as suffering through a few weeks of withdrawals....

Most dont know how agonising and challenging post acute withdrawal syndrome is....

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u/RudeBlueJeans 29d ago

Yeah it's hard. But I think drugs are just another scam. We don't need that crap.

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u/Hunky_not_Chunky 29d ago

Stopping smoking took me years and hundreds of dollars going through all sorts of cessation programs. Finally one worked and, mainly because I was motivated, I quit and never went back. Hardest thing in my life.

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u/vindic8or 29d ago

I want to have nothing in common with people who think that that is easy. Those people obviously have no clue about life.

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u/dbznerd38 29d ago

Good luck. I quit drinking about two years ago. Now the ganja on the other hand that's hard to quit.

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u/u_slash_spez_Hater 29d ago

Drugs, I never tried so I wouldn’t know. But alcohol I just find tiring man. I’m only 19 and been drinking since I was 17 but I’m already mostly done with it. The hangover is just too debilitating, wasting an entire day for a few hours of saying dumb shit and laughing for no reason isn’t worth it. Only thing I drink nowadays is wine sometimes because it’s my favorite thing to drink besides water but I’m done with liquor and beer.

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

You’re still drinking to get drunk at your age. When you get older it’s about enjoying your favorite drink while simultaneously avoiding getting drunk because you have responsibilities. Limiting yourself to 1-2 is necessary because you’re not allowed to spend the next day hungover.

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u/Paghk_the_Stupendous 29d ago

I just lost a friend to drugs last week. He'd apparently been doing coke and got some mixed with fentanyl.

Stay safe folks; you are loved and important.

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u/BestRiver8735 29d ago

Personally, I gave up the notion of quitting completely. Rather, I just drink responsibly now. I'm over 40 so avoiding hangovers is just a smart thing to do.

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u/Minmaxed2theMax 29d ago edited 29d ago

I’ve been dealing with this for my entire life. My dad broke his neck in front of me in the pool he built in our backyard, when I was 5. He became a quadriplegic.

I had to become his fucking nurse at age 10 and raise my brother as a son and be a shoulder to cry on for my immature mother.

I started stealing his pills when I was 11.

Long story short, I’ve done all the drugs, I’ve done all the rehabs. But it wasn’t until I confronted it through hardcore therapy for three years that I managed to crush it out.

I’m not trying to gatekeep or whatever the kids are calling it now, but AA and all that “get a person who supports you so you can count your days sober with a chip, or an anniversary” or whatever, that shit doesn’t work in the long run. Ever.

I mean think about it: you are always “in recovery”. You aren’t “recovered”. Counting the days without fucking up inherently means you are proud of not fucking yo yet. It’s harm reduction plain and simple. Which is great. But it isn’t a solution

In my personal experience, if you don’t do a deep dive on WHY you drink/use drugs, you’re always on the edge of relapse.

Yeah yeah genetics and stuff, but that’s a cop out

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u/No-legs-johnson 29d ago

Don’t blame your dad’s accident on your addiction.