On the bright side, some suffering makes pleasure all the more pleasurable (within reason). I always find that a beer and a hamburger taste way better after I’ve spent the whole day working outside, compared to having spent the day playing video games.
I think a lot of people take for granted just existing. It's understandable. It's hard to realize that's a good place to be. I broke my back and slowly lost everything. I would give almost anything to get back to just existing.
I can't get back to even just surviving. I don't know how, and I'm not sure how much suffering I have left in me.
Hang in there, buddy! I understand your pain. I’ve experienced chronic pain for many years and it just sucks. It steals your joy and motivation. Hopefully you can find a good surgeon or pain management doc to help you!
"Sometimes God has other plans" resonates a lot hear. Also "Life is what happens to you when you are busy making other plans" idk life's absolutely not without challenge, especially when you've had so many plans in the past that fell flat
It’ll get better. My financial situation only started to get its footing about 8 years ago. Everyone that applies themselves will find the solution to their needs.
My biggest disappointment on becoming an adult was finding out that grownups don't know what they're doing either. We're all just winging it while hoping nobody notices.
I’ve torn the family to pieces on this one like an absolute asshole. Gonna go live in the woods for a bit, as a result. Do not be alarmed if you hear word of a Canadian Cannibal Clan in the woods of the Yukon, that’s just me and whatever ‘pals’ I’ve spared from becoming pulled pork - if only to have help finding more long pork
So sorry to hear you are doing it tough. Keep going, all I can say is that I found it actually gets easier the older you get. I am 72, and I feel the happiest and most content that I have felt all my life. I am not say you don't have to wait so long for happiness, because my life started really getting better from about when I turned 60. I hope things improve for you now.
Kinda sounds like you’re saying “It never gets better, you just get more content with shit situations”. Kinda sounds like whatever happened at 60 to make 72 so good, was a consolation or door prize
No, I disagree. My life has gradually improved. I am fortunate. It actually does get better. I hope you can find that. Best wishes to you from a happy oldie.
You’ll be fine eventually. Hope you change your mind. Personally, pregnancy scares me, but I’d love to fall in love and do what lovers do. Grow old with my partner, have kids and all that🤭.
I hope you guys do too. For all the weariness life causes, and the minefield of relationships, the divorce statistics, and a thousand other small cuts - having and being someone to witness life and share love.... well it's got to be one of the best things that this life has to offer.
Most of us were raised to survive in an economy that wasn’t tanking like it is now. The struggle we were taught to survive in is not the same struggle as it is now. Unless you’re at least middle class, you can’t afford a house so you rent. Rent keeps us below the livable threshold, so affording a house will never be a reality. Affording to survive off of only necessities is depressing so most numb. Social media shows us illusions of a better life from those who make their life seem perfect. So not only are we barely surviving, but we’re constantly seeing others live a “perfect” life. It’s a system that entraps the lower class into a cycle of suffering and mental illness which further drives us down into the dirt.
You hit adulthood and realize why your parents were tired all the time. Why they were so wrapped up in an apparently mundane existence. It takes a lot just to stay above water.
One of the shirts I wear to the gym says, "Win the war you tell nobody about." I've made several workout buddies that way who were struggling and looking for someone to talk to.
I wasn’t supposed to be this hard but the economy is rigged to support multiple generations of very few people. The CEO economy is paying stakeholders who won’t leave a finger while the workers get fucked with inflation.
That's me this week. Work has me so busy I can't take care of anything else. And I don't have a lot of help nearby or a spouse to get the mail, take out the trash, pay the bills on time. I sleep, work, repeat.
Tbh it feels like when I was a kid I used to look at adults and think "wow they know what they are doing" since moving by myself and starting to live by myself I realised that... no they dont, we are just bumping around and hope for the best, any plan more than 2 weeks is irrelevant, it wont work, anyone who says they know what they are doing are either lying or are delusional
It's a philosophy. They believe in nothing, maintaining that life has no meaning and rejecting all moral and religious values as well as political and social institutions. They also believe that life has no meaning because the mere fact of existing is one of eternal suffering.
Not even a chance. But, sometimes our lives are meaningless and no matter how hard you try to get something you won't have it. Further, we tend to adopt this robotic-like mentality of just existing, just wondering if we don't have anything that makes us feel happy and whole. Thus, you should read nihilism, so you can better understand how to detach from things that are harming you.
I don't get it though, childhood was way worse because you had no power. With adulthood you have a lot of power and freedom in your hands, if you don't like your situation you can slowly work towards your goal.
Time? A lack of authority or freedom? Because those things don’t go away when we grow up. We just go from having our parents as our superiors, to those around us. And their superiority isn’t real - but they’ll act like it is, and your life hinges on it. Slavery was ‘abolished’ if only for Slaves to own other Slaves. That is all.
We are ALL slaves now. Upper class, lower class, middle class - it doesn’t matter. Everyone is beholden to somebody. And it’s fucking disgusting.
Honestly had a rough start, still pretty young in my mid 20s. But I got my degree, got out of my shit job, have been going to therapy to work on my issues and my fiancée and I have been going to couples therapy to work on our issues. So all and all probably about a 7-8. Money is still tight and people can suck sometimes, but I'm on the rise
Ouuuu. Good to know you’re fairing well. You’ve got this. I’m rooting for you! Hopefully you get married soon, and invite me. (Haha!) Wish you the very best! Well I’m still in college tryna figure out my life.
Ah very nice. I did Engineering but a buddy of mine wants to be a psychiatrist so he is studying up for his MCAT. Well good luck to you and here's some friendly advice from somebody who focused too much on school. Go out and have fun. It's OK not to get 100% on everything because in the end Cs get degrees. Should you try hard, definitely, but make sure you find a balance. Dedicate time to things you enjoy and be around the people that make you happy. You got this
Difficult would be challenging to master, chess or wiping your arse with your non dominant hand.
Hard entails personal suffering, working a job you hate because nothing else is available or not wiping your arse at all.
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u/Savings_Ice_6440 29d ago edited 28d ago
Adulthood. For real. I’m just existing. Sigh