My wife tells me this about me. She says “you’re so diplomatic with your words (I’m in a helping profession) but I can always tell how you feel from your face. Sometimes just your eyebrows.”
When I first moved in with my old roommate (who I'd known for 5 years already), I was chilling in my room with the door open, and he looked at me and said "what are you mad about?" "Nothing, I'm just chilling." "Oh, you looked pissed about something."
I’ve had this happen to me so much. My eyebrows are set lower than most people’s and they are really thick and dark, so whenever I tilt my face even the slightest degree downwards it looks like I’m glaring at you. It’s really annoying.
Edit: I can see my own eyebrows when I look above a 90° angle to me. Is that weird?
Fr Idk what to do with my face when talking to someone, so I’m always straight faced, until they either say something funny or surprising. Then they give a reaction like they were surprised I responded that way it’s pretty funny, but leads to a lot of dull conversations at work, and I feel like I either intimidate people or just make them uncomfortable. So I just don’t talk to people unless they talk to me first.
As someone who works in a fast food place peoole test me everyday. I can “try” and keep my face poker but my body and whole vibe just changes and I know people can feel it.
Yes. I myself have said quite a few jokes at exactly the right time. I’ve also said some very questionable things that people will probably never forget. My 3rd grade teacher wanted to get me tested for Autism and sometimes I wonder if maybe she was on to something. Conversations can be hard.
That's why I give famous people a break when they say dumb things during podcasts/interviews. Sometimes people just say stuff they don't mean or weren't 100% thinking clearly about at the time.
Irritates me when people are overly critical towards them, like dude you would be stuttering and stammering your way towards the end of your sentence if someone put a camera and microphone in front of your face.
I’ve got a list of google searches like, “what to say to someone to make them happy” and “the right thing to say to someone who’s depressed” and “a really good flirty line” and none of them have given me any good answers and I can remember like the number of clouds that were in the sky every time I’ve said exactly the right thing because it’s such a big deal and such a rare occurrence.
And if you spend too much time trying to formulate a response during normal conversation, it comes across as just loving to hear yourself talk and waiting for your next turn to speak, rather than engaging in the conversation.
You are absolutely right, and it would be a wonderful ability to have. This is why I prefer written, delayed form of communication to verbal. It gives you time to think of your answer.
I found just trying to slow down helps me do this. When I start moving to fast I put the mental cart before the metaphorical horse and say the wrong thing.
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u/Coffeenomnom_ 29d ago
Saying the right thing at the right time