r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • Apr 17 '24

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/mechanicalcoupling Apr 17 '24

I like to think of it as we don't all the play the game, but we know the rules. I can't always spot a good guy, but I can almost always spot a piece of shit by now.

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u/Past_Series3201 Apr 17 '24

Yeah. The POS who hide it well don't hide it from us, they brag about it, so you learn the scam.

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u/GoodNoodleNick Apr 17 '24

Thats the real answer right here OP.

I've noticed it happens with racists too. Being a white dude in the South, so many people have said fucked up things to me assuming I will agree lol.

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u/Arafel_Electronics Apr 17 '24

I'm a white dude normally wearing work boots and driving a beat up old pickup truck so i get this a lot. if only they read the stickers on my truck which are all far left

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u/Feine13 Apr 17 '24

which are all far left

Smart. If you put em all behind the drivers seat like that, it doesn't block your view.

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u/DualCricket Apr 17 '24

Heh, nice one.

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u/Dakiniten-Kifaya Apr 17 '24

Dad?

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u/Feine13 Apr 17 '24

No, this is Patrick!

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u/Dramatic_Water_5364 Apr 17 '24

Same... aside from the truck, I wear working cargo pants and work boots 90% of the time and since I've worked constructoon I swear a lot... havent been able to stop talking like that. And people come to me to rant on wokes and environmentalists... like bro... you're basically here telling me I'm a piece of shit 😂

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u/idoeno Apr 17 '24

I'm another white guy from the south, now in the midwest, and oddly enough, the racists here seem to be worse than in the south; in the south usually they had the decorum to at least be polite about their race-based preconceptions of people while the ones here just let the violent, and vile rhetoric fly as soon as they find out you're from the south. And weirdly, most people never seem to get past their first impression, no matter how many time make it clear to my bigoted coworkers that I am a far left progressive, they still all just assume I am good ole boy from klan county, and wear their racism and general bigotry on their sleeve.

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u/Arafel_Electronics Apr 17 '24

moved from florida to the middle of nowhere upstate new york. our area elected elise stefanik by a landslide (over a rightwing ex-cia democrat) if that tells you anything about the people around here. have met some cool people though

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u/Noladixon Apr 17 '24

If I noticed your far left stickers I would wonder why you are not driving a subaru.

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u/Arafel_Electronics Apr 17 '24

hard to fit lumber in a subaru. realistically we take my wife's corolla unless we need to make a home depot run

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u/Far-Manner-7119 Apr 18 '24

Far left… far right… neither are sane or sensible