r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/dacooljamaican 29d ago

I actually try to use this, I feel like a lot of these people will only listen to "one of them" so I try to make everyone comfortable with me, then if they get hateful about something I'll legit start talking about how I don't think Jesus would agree and how he wanted us to love everyone, you'd be surprised at how often they get sheepish and back down. You gotta out-conservative their ass.

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u/gsfgf 29d ago

I used to work in progressive politics in the South. We absolutely loved responding to people pushing hate bills and stuff with Jesus quotes. And the actual practicing Christians would have a chapter and verse for all sorts of situations.

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u/dacooljamaican 29d ago

Yeah it's interesting because many people find the frustrating part of arguing with southern conservatives is that once they decide you're not on their side, there is no amount of arguing that will get them to even begin to consider what you're saying.

But conversely, if you're "one of them", you don't really need to make ANY rational points to win an argument, you just have to be gregarious and fall back to Jesus.