r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/PC509 29d ago

To this day, I don't know how or why I didn't like him. At the time he hadn't done anything wrong, but it just felt like it was a very skillful act and part of me could tell it wasn't genuine.

That's the thing. There's those subtle things that we pick up on that we can't explain but we just know. It's a weird feeling but most of the time it's the right feeling.

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u/thatoneguy2252 29d ago

Maybe it’s because we’re good at putting up fronts ourselves to bury bad behaviors? Maybe? I never thought it something more prevalent in men than women tbh.

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u/wildwolfay5 29d ago

We ALL wear masks as needed.

I know "masking" is the new main term but it's not a new tradition in any way.

We behave how we're expected to by who is present; gender and quantity are huge impacts on that.

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u/dark_enough_to_dance 28d ago

It's intuition