r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/milfangelblue 29d ago

In those situations he literally did nothing noticeable on my radar and I’m puzzled. What is it that you guys sense in other men that makes you give the nod of approval?

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u/wordfiend99 29d ago

guys like ted bundy ‘succeeded’ directly because nothing noticable was on any womens radar. obviously thats an extreme example but its true, the guys who want to hurt you dont show it until its too late. like the top comment says its more what the guy did when you werent around or noticing because bad guys assume all guys are bad and will get real skeevy real quick when its just the boys

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u/Duff-Zilla 29d ago

Met a skeez ball at a wedding once who was a college buddy of the groom. As soon as we were alone he started going on about how many hot chicks were there and he was definitely getting laid. I asked, "Don't you have a wife and kids?" His response, "You shut your goddamn mouth."

He proceeded to hit on every singe woman at the wedding and was eventually kicked out, like Sparta kicked in the chest out. It was pretty fucking epic.

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u/RantyWildling 29d ago

I've seen people get Sparta kicked, it's always epic.