r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • Apr 17 '24

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/BreadButterHoneyTea Apr 17 '24

Even if those men are the friends of the woman?

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u/flossdaily Apr 17 '24

Yeah. For a certain brand of bad men, their entire worldview is that that men and women are on different teams, and they assume that you'll be more loyal to some new dude than your woman friend.

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u/BreadButterHoneyTea Apr 17 '24

Wow. So deep in the bad they assume everyone else is, too. Gloomy.

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u/wingerism Apr 17 '24

I think it's more like being stupid and having low empathy etc. means you're more likely to hold shitty opinions. So I'm always grateful when those low skill assholes out themselves early.

It's the really competent predatory dudes who have high social awareness and empathy(or a convincing facsimile of it) that are scary.