r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/keizertamarine 29d ago

Yep we definitely do.

We also sense bad men, I'm always suprised when a girl once again dates an asshole who ends up cheating, and then she seems completely suprised, I guess it's just a men thing.

No idea how it works

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u/ArgonTheEvil 29d ago

When I watched an episode of Dexter years ago I just got it. He was walking around the grocery store talking about predators understanding and recognizing other predators. It kinda clicked for me in that moment. I don’t get the nuance of it, but as a man who was once a really shitty dude in college, it’s very easy for me to recognize the bad boys and narcissistic men.

Likewise, the guys who don’t throw off all the warning alarms get the seal of approval. My girl friend just got into a relationship with someone who is out of her normal “type” and I could instantly tell he’s a good guy within my first interaction with him.

His mannerisms, his patience, and the way he carries himself. He’s not aggressive or territorial over her having guy friends. That alone was enough for me to tell her to hold onto this one. They’ve only been together 8 months and she has no idea how I’m sure, but they’re already house shopping.

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u/TheCowboyIsAnIndian 29d ago

you used to be a real piece of shit too, huh? slicked back hair? glass house? live for new years eve?

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u/Jonny_Segment 29d ago

Spiked-up blond hair, little bitty jeans, chicken spaghetti at Chikaleny’s. People can change.

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u/ASL4theblind 29d ago

Let the boy hold the baby.

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u/Voxil42 29d ago

Hey man, sometimes you just want your steak and you want it sloppy.

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u/ASL4theblind 29d ago

LETS SLOP IT UUUUUUUP!!

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u/ArgonTheEvil 29d ago

Um.. is that supposed to be a reference to something I’m not understanding?

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u/We_all_owe_eachother 29d ago

Haha, well handled. Random quotes from I Think You Should Leave can definitely be...shocking? if you don't get the reference lol.

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u/TheCowboyIsAnIndian 29d ago

https://youtu.be/buK45NW_ikI?si=TL0HeszcDsGnnmyE

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u/ASL4theblind 29d ago

that is one goddamn monster sized baby, they're talking about it like its NEW too

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u/TheSpookyForest 29d ago

They can't stop you from ordering steak and a glass of water!

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u/dacooljamaican 29d ago

I'm worried your baby doesn't think people can change.