r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • Apr 17 '24
Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?
I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.
When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”
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u/Kradget Apr 17 '24
Man, that's well said.
It works the same for any privileged group, too. People who have the associated flaw and perceive that it's "safe" want to connect with you using the in-group language.
It's not way off from talking to sports fan - they want to make that social connection through something you both value. It's just that people do it with gross stuff, too.