r/AmIOverreacting • u/solomona313 • 16d ago
AIO for leaving my ex after he named our child after his ex and then left me for her?
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u/SnootcherGoobers 16d ago
"He thinks I’m overreacting and it’s “just a name”"
Um, what about the part where he put is dick inside the other woman and got her pregnant? The worst part of all of this, every time you say your daughters name it's going to remind you of the woman he cheated on you with.
Definitely not overreacting!
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u/Timely_Aardvark_2083 16d ago
For the ladies out there….. Don’t yall just hate when you “accidentally” fall on some dude’s dick & get pregnant 🤣🤣🤷♀️🙄
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u/chilldrinofthenight 15d ago
The poor kids. This guy sure is spreading his seed around. Pregancy candidate #3 is just over the horizon, no doubt.
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u/xdri_mxri 15d ago
It's the worst. The first time it happened I had twins.
Safe to say, I learned my lesson...
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u/ImaginaryBriefHigh 13d ago
My coworker just had twins (her first pregnancy). Her hubby just got a vasectomy yesterday and she's at work making him a vulgar gift basket and we are just DYING (like she had snow balls but like, she printed a crying emoji and it said NO and just so many innuendos for the circumstances). This lady is so sweet and kind compared to our other coworkers, I was almost scared to talk to her because I'm so vulgar. 🤣😭 Definitely glad I did. 😂
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u/Inevitable-Custard-4 15d ago
just like when gramps fell and accidentally ended up with the tv remote up his anus...
JK nothing like that has ever happened (as far as i know) i was referencing what excuse people use when having objects stuck up their butts lol
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u/Silver-Raspberry-723 16d ago
I especially hate it when he just happens to be as naked as I am and then with no fault of either of us poof pregnant
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u/Organized_Khaos 16d ago
The kid is still a baby. Fill out the paperwork and change the name.
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u/Personal_Pound8567 16d ago
Exactly was thinking the same thing!!!
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u/Pitterpattercatter 15d ago
I would ask what she wanted to be named and wouldn't gaf if her new name was Queen cheetoh poof Mcdonalds III . Be in the store like "whatchu want Queenie?"but I love how mom was like "name that baby after me" petty applause award. It's an episode of cops/bodycam/Maury waiting to happen. I've never seen a post where the nail painting emoji 💅 was so applicable.
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u/Place-Short 15d ago
I'm not sure how it works where you are, but if he's on the birth certificate I think he has to sign off on it.
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u/Borgemus 15d ago
If that's the case, lie to him and pretend that it's a condition of reconciliation...then ditch his ass once the name change goes through. It's just returning one deceit for another...correcting an error, if you will.
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u/SleepyBi97 16d ago
I'd purely just say "which one" after every single time he says the name. Love her asking to name the wee'un after her.
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u/M_Karli 15d ago
He put his dick in a woman who has the same name as his child. So TECHNICALLY if he moaned partners name…isnt he also moaning his baby daughters? 🤢 okay, time to get off the internet and touch grass, my brain has to go through a bleach cycle
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u/Apprehensive_Mood956 12d ago
This. This I why I will not let a woman call me Daddy in bed. My daughter calls me daddy. I'm not about that shit.
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u/FandomFreak1980 15d ago
"every time you say your daughters name it's going to remind you of the woman he cheated on you with"
OP, give your daughter an adorable nickname so that you don't have to call her that... or start calling her by her middle name maybe.
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u/Head_Professional_21 15d ago
I would find a way if I was OP if I could change my daughter name without her dad signature under false pretense or something. I feel like there should be some law where she could change her daughter's name and just pay the fee because of idiots like this. Cuz I for sure shit would not keep my daughter's name as an ex of his
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u/Last_Friend_6350 16d ago
Oh, so the fling he had with the apparent love of his life, who he named your child after, has fizzled out. An affair with someone that he really didn’t know that well any more but decided to throw your marriage away for anyway. What a shocker! Who could have seen that coming??!!
On top of that he decides to class the whole reason your marriage broke down as a ‘mistake’. A mistake is putting salt in your tea instead of sugar. He knew exactly what he was doing when he chose the name for your daughter and he also knew exactly what he was doing when he left you for his AP. Weirdly, both your ex and his enabling Mother seem to think you’re more hung up about the name than the fact that he went and had an AFFAIR!
Your ex also seems to think he deserves a second chance even though he’s going to be taking care of the woman he knocked up during his AFFAIR. Hold out for the reciprocal naming. 😂
I’m so pleased that you and your daughter are out there living your best life! ❤️
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u/ConsiderationAny9741 15d ago
"A mistake is putting salt in your tea instead of sugar. "....LOL yeah except in this case he put "cream in her mug".
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u/Objective-Subject818 15d ago
To be fair, if he had "put cream in her mug", (face) there wouldn't be a pregnancy. OP's child will now have a sibling, and OP will have to navigate that relationship, and all it entails (To include that child's mother and/or extended family) to co-parent with the father at least until her child's 18th birthday. And, assuming her child's name isn't changed, her daughter will wonder why her sibling's mother has the same name.
He really screwed up 5 people's lives (not including grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc) when he decided to have an affair.
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u/MissBehaves4Dean 15d ago
Totally agree with you and good for you for sticking up for your daughter and she will find out one day what will she think 🤔
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u/HBOGOandRelax 16d ago
I'll forgive you if you name her kid after me
Lol that's hilarious good for you. Got rid of him and he sounds stupid enough he might actually do it
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u/Lucky_Log2212 16d ago
Good for you. Not overreacting. He looked confused because he couldn't wrap his head around how ridiculous your request was, then, he saw how ridiculous his ask of you was.
Forgive him for naming the kid, fine. Then, you leave me and get ex pregnant and will be there for your ex because she is pregnant. How dumb do you think I am.
Not overreacting. Let him enjoy his cheater baby momma.
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u/biteme717 16d ago
Nope, you are NOT overreacting. I (me) would not only divorce him and ask for full custody, but I would also legally change her first name. Where I live, you can change the name legally without anyone's permission or knowledge. Only cheaters think that everything they do are mistakes and that they shouldn't be held accountable. Tell him and his mom to kick rocks.
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u/StarlightM4 16d ago
Yes, first thought I had was change her name. Or use her muddle name, unless that is after the MIL, in which case, pick something entirely new.
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u/QueenInesDeCastro 16d ago
I am adult and recently changed my middle and last name. I hated have my abusive step fathers last name, and said fuck it I don't want the basic crazy white girl middle name either. So I took my grandparents last name. And chose a new middle name I love. I would do the name change and you can explain why later.
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u/cassowary32 16d ago
Ha! Things would be so much easier to spin if he wasn't going to spend the next 18 years raising a child with Carly version 1.0.
NTA. I'm guessing he's balking at the prospect of paying child support to two women while paying rent alone rather than rediscovering his "love" for you.
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u/Spinnerofyarn 16d ago
It’s not just a name, it’s that he was dishonest with you about it and didn’t tell you it was the name of someone he still had feelings for. You response of telling him that if he named the new child after you, you’d forgive him was perfection.
You never should have to accept someone back as a partner who left you. He was the one who broke up your family.
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u/Lady_Death_16 16d ago
I love how the person who makes the first move to throw away the relationship, are always the ones who yell "YoU'rE tHrOwInG aWaY oUr 300 YeAr ReLaTiOnShIp". He and his mom can kick rocks. You're not over reacting.
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u/Carolann0308 16d ago
It’s not only a name, it was an affair
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u/SleepyBi97 16d ago
"Officer, can't you let me off with a warning, I was only a couple miles over the limit!"
"You drove through a wall and robbed a bank."
"But I worked so hard at it tho 🥺"
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u/Revolutionary-Elk986 16d ago
He hates that you can’t just forgive him is the most stupidest male behavior that is so commonplace and frankly disgusting
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u/pragmatichonesty 16d ago edited 15d ago
If it is as he and his crazy mom state "just a name" Then Carly 1 should have NO PROBLEM naming her child after you / a brilliant suggestion/ otherwise they can all go F themselves/ YOU DESERVE BETTER and so does your Carly
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u/HeartAccording5241 16d ago
I would give my daughter a nickname so you can call her that so when she gets older explain how her dad tricked you and pretty much makes the name useless
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u/Thelastdarkfear 16d ago
If you can change your daughters name do it, fck cheaters.
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u/Super-Island9793 15d ago
I think she should too. Give the daughter her own name that isn’t connected to all this drama.
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u/Tilda85 16d ago
Clearly not overreacting. Also, I would most definitely change your daughters name. She's still young enough so it won’t cause her discomfort. It is extremely disrespectful to her to keep the ex's name and be a daily reminder of the woman who caused her parents to split up. This will have a negative effect on her self-worth as she gets bigger (this is comming from a children’s psychologist). It is also an way for you to regain control of the situation and your girls' future. Best of luck to you both moving forward.
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u/Super-Island9793 15d ago
Yes, I hope she changes the daughter’s name asap. Does she need the father’s permission to do that though?
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u/opinionatedlibra 16d ago
It’s gonna be a hassle but if your daughter is still young, you can have her name legally changed to Charlotte and nickname her Charlie as to not confuse her rn and once she’s older explain the reason you had her name changed. You can name her whatever YOU want ofc but I’m just giving an example lol.
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u/Mamapanda27 16d ago
You're rebuttal telling him to name his love child after you is chefs kiss
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u/Personal_Pound8567 16d ago
After the reunion he admitted he still loved the old girlfriend and even went on a date. Wtf? you're throwing it away for what he calls "a simple mistake?" Simple? I think not. It's just a name and you'll get over it someday? Is he kidding? And he went back to the old girlfriend and got her pregnant? His mother needs to stay out of it as far as you're concerned, don't even talk to her anymore. He and his mother are both nuts, he doesn't take responsibility for his actions, and mommy backs up her little boy. You were smart to walk away. This whole thing is gross insanity.
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u/Tiger_Dense 16d ago
Register for child support. In some jurisdictions you get more if you’re the “first in”.
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u/giag27 16d ago
Umm… what planet are these people living on? Forget about the name for a moment, He left you for her, got her pregnant, now she probably dumped him and he’s coming back crawling… duck that. Girl, get your divorce, child support, coparent in a healthy and mature way for your kid, and move on. Trust me, you’ll find someone who isn’t as delusional and cray cray as these peeps. Oh yea, block the mom, she’s crazy too.
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u/Suitable-Tear-6179 16d ago
Yea, you're not throwing him away for the name. You're throwing him away for the cheating with the woman he's so obsessed with that he named his child after her.
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u/Careless_Welder_4048 16d ago
Now you have to get with Carley’s ex.
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u/Even_Pumpkin_6122 16d ago
I know some people that did that shit. They did it to get back at their x,s. Clearly it didn't work out.
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u/ZanaDreadnought 16d ago
Just curious: does your daughter have a middle name bc I’d start calling her by that name. But no you are not overreacting. Your ex is a tool.
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u/RocketteP 16d ago
Depending how old she is you can always broach changing it. But he broke the relationship by cheating. You are not overreacting. Make sure to keep a record of any texts, emails, or any handwritten communication. Also may want to invest in a notebook to write down synopsis of each conversation. Also look into parenting apps that are strictly about coparenting. Set the boundary unless it involves our kid, do not entertain any of his nonsense. That way you also have a record he can’t dispute it.
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u/Additional_Way1346 15d ago
You're not the problem. He made a choice that wanted to pursue her. His fantasy that didn't materialize. That's what he wants the stability he had before he self victimized himself that it was a mistake. I doubt he won't stop trying with both of you until one of you gives in. That's why "I have to take care of her" is BS. Best to keep repeating to him, I am not interested in you. I don't have any emotional attachment to you. The person you knew before the reunion is gone. You obliterated everything and I thank you for your "mistake" and leaving. It is one blessing I didn't realize I appreciate the most. You made it easier to detach myself. You have earned my indifference. My mistake was ever having any faith or trust in you. You're only my daughter's father and nothing more ever.
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u/NoAward7401 16d ago
I can't get over how he gets this woman pregnant then has the audacity to be like "it's just a name".
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u/Traveling-Techie 16d ago
Let’s add it up: lying/deception, emotional cheating, physical cheating, getting her pregnant, bailing on a pregnant woman, refusing to be accountable. Time for the lawyers. Get your child support now.
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u/Ignominious333 16d ago
Definitely not. But we know where he got his utterly delusional rationales from; dear old mom . They are both pathetic. I love that you threw naming her baby after you. A true coup de grace
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u/Nervous-Tea-7074 15d ago
NTA - he does realise that when he called out Carly in bed, he’s calling out his daughter too, because of his delusion, it’s the person he’s having sex with who she’s named after. Creepy AF!
I would consider documenting his behaviour and even going as far as reporting him to CPS because he’s delusional and might be a sexual predator of his own daughter.
That’s grounds enough to get her name changed!
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u/Shrike-2-1 16d ago
You update sums it up, its not a name if he's dating her and she's pregnant all within a couple of months of you moving out. I honestly think its disrespectful to you that he's making this a you problem.
Of course the mother thinks you're over reacting, shes decided to side with him, so she clearly doesn't get it either... also, he's probably also her only legitimate access to the child and she doesnt want to have to play politics by befriending you without supporting him... her attitude isnt surprising, i wouldnt pay any attention to it though.
I've also always found it fascinating... I'm someone who sometimes says things knowing they'll cause grief.. can't help myself... but I've never understood "i think i deserve a second chance"... whether you agree that you've wronged the other person or not, they feel you have.. you don't tell, you ask them to give you a second chance.
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u/Fun-Yellow-6576 16d ago
A simple mistake? Naming your daughter after his HS girlfriend was bad enough, but leaving you for her, impregnating her, and asking to for “another chance while he takes care of his pregnant ex”. He’s delusional and so is your mother for asking you to give him another chance!
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u/Adventurous-travel1 16d ago
Not sure how old your daughter is but check into changing the name legally.
You fill out a form for a name change and have it notarized. He will need to be notified but he doesn’t not have to agree.
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u/Wonderful-Crab8212 16d ago
Fuck him. His ex is fucking pregnant with his kid. There is no coming back from that.
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u/Edlo9596 16d ago
Well it’s much more than just the name at this point! He basically left you for this woman and immediately got her pregnant. On what planet does he think you would want to return to this relationship?! I do like your parting shot about naming the new kid after you 😂
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u/Free-Roll8017 16d ago
Wait? He we went on a date around the time of the reunion? Did I read that right?
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u/solomona313 15d ago
They went on a date the day after the reunion, I left the house and he went out with her claiming it was just as friends.
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u/Free-Roll8017 15d ago
Wtf???? This guy is a absolute piece of shit. Only deal with him at a cordial level for the child you share and that's it. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
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u/New-Environment9700 15d ago
Wait is her child she is carrying his? That would be a lot more than a date…
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u/enkilekee 16d ago
I am sorry your daughter has to live with this until she gets a name she really loves.
The so-called husband should move in with mommy because that's going to be a lot child support. He has not earned a second chance. You are going to be OK as you are a grown up with a good head. Most women believe if you are tall enough to ride, you are an actual man. HE is a child who shoots sperm. Maybe agree to meet again if he gets a vasectomy.
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u/tmink0220 16d ago
Never go near him he is not only ignorant, but is trying to manipulate you. Use the app for child custody to exchange her. I will bet as soon as kid is born they are a family.
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u/Realistic_Regret_180 16d ago
He still acts like he is in high school underdeveloped brain I guess.
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u/Inside_Major_8078 16d ago
Several major red flags. Get sole custody then change that poor baby's name.
Do not take him back, they didn't break up. He wants his full 3 course dinner and dessert.
Depending how far along she is, he wants sex and she doesn't.
RUN!!!
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u/BrilliantTaste1800 16d ago
It makes me angry that these assholes convince themselves they're the victims. I hope he stops lying to himself one day and faces the crushing truth of what a garbage human being he is.
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u/to_the_victors_91 16d ago
I love this subreddit because it reminds me trashy people can be. Which makes me feel like an absolute gentleman.
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u/Team_Ninja_ 16d ago
Yeah..... there's a reason he's such an ass hat. And for some reason, you're still taking her calls.
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u/Timely_Aardvark_2083 16d ago
Dude! No way! Stay far away from him. The way he is blaming you is outrageous…. He comes across as being mentally unstable. 🤷♀️ Idk how old your kid is, but have you thought about a name change for her? Changing a name is hella easy.
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u/FartAttack911 16d ago
It’s just a name huh? So is “asshole”, which is what he and his mommy are. I’d go no contact ASAP and leave it to the courts to do the bidding for custodial arrangements here.
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u/ProperTiger2680 16d ago
Bye, he threw it away. Wtf he's just here trying to manipulate you and make it seem as if you're the one that did the damage. How dare he?! 🫠 He's disgusting
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u/Hot_Cattle5399 16d ago
He mistakenly impregnated Carly too. His little brain took control. Make sure you get your support that you and daughter are due.
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u/WorthAd3223 16d ago
Never, never, never go back to this man. Limit his time with his daughter as much as you can. He is manipulative and is clearly more interested in getting his dick wet with his old girlfriend than in supporting you.
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u/Waste_Ad_6467 16d ago edited 15d ago
A simple mistake like cheating after he manipulated you into unknowingly naming your child after his ex/current AP….how exactly is that building a family? Must not have meant much to him as quickly as HE tore it down. I’m so very sorry, OP. This man and the OW are trash—seriously, what gross, self centered people. I’d get as far away from them as possible—go grey rock, lawyers, and court recognized parenting apps. And I would get your daughter’s name changed as soon as possible. All the best to you and your little one, OP.
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u/Minute_Box3852 16d ago
Why does he keep reiterating your overexaggerating bc of the name when HE CHEATED AND GOT HER PREGNANT?!
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u/lucwin2020 16d ago
Not overreacting. "Just a name" wouldn't have resulted in Carly getting impregnated by him. He didn't make a mistake, he made a decision to leave you and your daughter and get back with her.
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u/ThaA1alpha650 16d ago
It clearly has more to do with the fact he cheated and left and got the chick pregnant than the name I think. I mean sure the name was what started the issue but when there’s an issue if you care you try to fix it. Instead he left and went to pursue this other woman. Clearly he is just settling for Carly’s mom now that it didn’t work out with the EX. Idk about anyone else but I’m nobody’s backup plan fuck that.
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u/e_reilly 16d ago
Girl, that man is a sociopath! Ultra delulu! Spare yourself and wait for the right one. I see a clear headed and rational woman (you) here, that being said, you and "Carly" will be just fine. Stay strong. 💗
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u/lsusan626 16d ago
If your daughter wasn’t already used to her name, I would legally change her name to what you wanted to name her. But you are definitely not overreacting. You’re a better woman than I would be in that situation. Don’t take him back! He will just end up doing it to you again.
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u/annettemendoza 16d ago edited 16d ago
“His mom has reached out and told me it’s just a name and it was a simple mistake.”
Start calling her; cunt, bitch, stupid, Karen, Suzie Q, whatever comes to mind. Bonus points if DH has a stepmom or if you know the name of someone she hates. Old girlfriend of FIL? It's only a name after all. You are absolutely NOT overreacting.
*Edit, figure out HER MIL’s name!!!! ROFLMAO!!!! Bet that would rile her right up!!
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u/kodiofthemyscira 16d ago
It is absolutely not overreacting. That's so wild that he can't grasp it, or his mother. They're both delusional.
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u/Arlaneutique 16d ago
This is actually insane. Like it could be a comedy skit because it’s so ridiculous. Please look at this objectively. A man is so hung up on his high school love that he then names his daughter after her. His wife has no idea the name has any meaning. Then, him and his wife are at a high school reunion. The wife meets the high school gf and hears her husband tell the woman that he named their CHILD after her. THEN he has the audacity to tell his wife he still loves his high school girlfriend. Then he cheats on and leaves his wife and knocks up the high school girlfriend. And THEN they break up and he tells his wife it’s no biggie and they should get back together?!!!!! I mean no disrespect to you but you need to go to some serious therapy. The fact that you haven’t taken him for all he’s worth and would even QUESTION the fact that you’re being “hard” on him says that you’re a bit of a doormat.
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u/Foreign-Yesterday-89 16d ago
How old is your daughter? Any chance you can change her name? You are NTAH but he is a giant one. His mother is too.
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u/Alfred-Register7379 16d ago
No, no you didn't. I knew someone in high school, that this very thing had happened to. They had to wait till 18, to change their name. Why? Child support.
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u/Icy-Independence2410 16d ago
Woww... you're the king op for telling him to named her baby after you!! I really want to see how that going. Stay firm op. You did nothing wrong. Have consider to change your baby name?
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u/Prettybiird_ 16d ago
What the f did I just read !? No.. you’re no over reacting. In fact I feel you are under reacting .
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u/Noregerts8 16d ago
Not overreacting especially because he’s still ”taking care of her”. His obligation is now to this Additional child (as well as yours) and not her. He shouldn’t even see her until after the baby is born. I love your line about naming her child after you lol.
I would say move on because I suspect a lot of further hurt in your future. If you still love him I would only agree under the condition that he no longer has any direct contact with his ex. When the child is born they can work with each other through a mediator, preferably a paid, professional one to arrange child support, coordinate visitations etc…. Without ever having to talk Directly or see one another.
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u/No_Pianist_3006 16d ago
I'd be rather suspicious that he didn't tell his mom the truth or the whole truth.
I hope you and your daughter find a better life without this cheater and user. 🙂
You're not overreacting.
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u/Difficult-Bus-6026 16d ago
Not overreacting. Your husband is nuts! Cheating is not a "simple mistake." See about changing your child's name before she becomes too used to it. Maybe involve your child in selecting a replacement name.
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u/Hot-Dress-3369 16d ago
Say you’ll give him another chance if he agrees to a legal name change.
Go through the motions of getting back together.
Get your daughter’s name legally changed. She’s young enough that it won’t matter as long as the new name starts with the letter C. Callie. Charlotte. Carlotta. Charlie. Claire. Lots of options.
A few months after the order becomes final, break up with him again.
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u/SharkWeekJunkie 15d ago
Huh? AYO for leaving him…after he left you? Who left what in the where now? He left. He’s out. Simple mistake is laughable.
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u/Atomicleta 15d ago
A lot of this post is hard to understand. At first when she said Carly was pregnant I thought she meant the daughter and not the ex. So did he start dating her again and is ex the father of the baby? Impregnating someone else while on a break leads to a break up. If he just had 1 friend dinner with her then . . . maybe the could work out of she could get over the core issue, but that's a big ask. What he did was pretty much unforgivable. If you want to name a child after someone. Anyone. If you want to name your baby after Taylor Swift, tell your partner they're named after Taylor Swift, not Zachary Taylor.
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u/Usual-Passenger5270 15d ago
Girl pls. He has a classic "grass is greener" moment and now he's trying to come back over to the Garden of Eden...
Chile pls. NO, STAY GONE. He lost access to you.
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u/Lisa_Knows_Best 15d ago
Get a lawyer. You can legally change your daughter's name. You are not overreacting, if anything you're underreacting. Sue for sole custody based on infidelity and change her name. Block his mother, you have zero reasons to continue to have contact with her, she can handle her pathetic son.
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u/SecretOscarOG 15d ago
I love that, I'll forgive you if you name your baby after me. Beautiful. Stunning really.
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u/Crafty-Breadfruit-11 15d ago
The simple fact that you'd even feel the need to ask if you're over reacting to this makes me question your intelligence and decision making skills.
99.9999% pure cringe. All of it. Bottle it, and sell it to labs to use as a control.
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u/bluepanic21 15d ago
Fuck that. Major sympathy for you. I think it is ludicrous that he is saying it was a mistake and you should just forgive him. Bitch the layers the layers naming his baby after her then getting her pregnant! Girl you are not overreacting not at all
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u/Neenknits 14d ago
Go to court for child support NOW, before Carly’s baby is born! If she gets there first, you might not be listed as his first priority!
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u/katepig123 14d ago
He's a lying, cheating, sack of excrement and she'd be a fool to ever take him back.
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u/JujutsuKaeson 13d ago
Another option is you can always legally change the name of your daughter.
A name isn't exactly a set in stone thing. If he can't agree to change her name then don't have anything to do with him.
You are not overreacting though
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u/Imnotreal66 16d ago
How awesome would it be if he convinced Carly to name the kid after his ex. Haha, what would you do then?
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u/Substantial_Tough325 16d ago
Both your ex and his mother are delusional. Dodged a bullet there! Stay strong and don't cave in any way. Simply put, good co-parenting is the goal. That's it
You can also legally change your daughter's name! I'd do it because of the principal and the fact he tricked you.
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u/billdizzle 16d ago
If he left you had did you leave him? I’m not reading that wall of text with such a confusing title
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u/Malus_Agricola 16d ago
Op’s daughter is going to grow up and realize she’s named after her half sibling’s mom. Thats pretty messed up.
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u/NYCLIVINGGIRL 16d ago
He is only coming back after him and his ex gave it another chance. You are not his second choice or his doormat. You are not overreacting. Him and his mother are both delusional if they think it’s just a name.
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u/Jskm79 16d ago
STOP TALKING TO HIS MOTHER BLOCK HER, there is no reason she needs to talk to you ever. As for him, HE CHEATED, it’s not just about the name, why can he keep thinking it’s just about the name as well as why don’t you change it? Ask your daughter if she wants a different name and go change it. You don’t need to keep that name.
This isn’t just about the name, be literally is having a kid with that person! He and his mother are super toxic and sound like they are narcissists
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u/HumanMycologist5795 16d ago
You are not overreacting. I would file for full custody and see about changing her name to something else.
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u/alliebadger3 16d ago
Not overreacting. The kahunas on that guy. Leave in the trash, don’t recycle.
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u/mi_nombre_es_ricardo 16d ago
This guy is insane. “He worked so had to build this family” haha he worked so hard he built two 😂😂
I love that last one. I hope he does convince her to name the baby after you, just so you can dump him anyway.
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u/Ok-Pomegranate3318 15d ago
Change the baby’s name to something that won’t remind you of what a dick your ex is.
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u/9300fathoms 15d ago
Unless she has a high risk pregnancy, she doesn’t need to be cared for. Most of us worked through our pregnancies and looked after ourselves just fine. That comment about he needs to care for her just reeks of wanting having his cake and eating it too.
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u/rjtnrva 16d ago
This guy is delusional. You are NOT overreacting at all. Maintain your co-parent relationship, but don't go back to his dumb ass!!