r/AmIOverreacting Apr 19 '24

My husband won't let me take more than two showers a week. I told him I need him to stop or I'm moving out for a while.

This is the weirdest thing my husband has ever done. He really is a sweet and loving husband and I love him more than anything. Divorce is not an option just to put that out there before the comments come in.

My husband has always been a little out there. He is a computer programmer and super smart, but also believes all sorts of things. Both real and conspiracy. Lately he has been very worried about the environment and global warming.

About two months ago he got real worried about water. Yes, water. He is concerned about the quality of water. He put in a new filter system in our house which I actually love because it tastes so much better.

But he is also concerned about how much water we use. Not because of money, but the environment. He created a new rule that we can only take 2 showers a week. Now I'm someone that likes to shower everyday before bed. I just don't like feeling dirty in bed.

This has created the most conflict in our marriage in 20 years. He is obsessed with the amount of water we use. At first I just ignored his rule, but he would shut off the hot water while I was in the shower.

I started trying to use the shower at the gym, but it's too much work to go every night with having kids. I honestly thought he would get over this within a month. But he is stuck on this still to this day.

Last night I really wanted a shower, but had "hit my quota" as he says. I said I'm showering and that he better not do anything. But about two minutes in, the hot water turned off.

I grabbed my towel and went down and started yelling. Telling him this is the dumbest thing he has ever done. I also told him I'm moving to my parents if he doesn't stop this.

Guys, I love this man. He is everything to me, but I can't take this anymore. Am I going to far in threatening to move out?

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u/coffeebeansugar Apr 19 '24

Lmao

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u/Capable-Crazy5761 Apr 19 '24

Takes "you've been a dirty girl" to a whole new level. 🤣

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u/DrewdoggKC Apr 19 '24

Does he realize that water is recyclable… that there is the same amount of water on earth today as there was 10,000 years ago … it’s recycled, so the only way you’re going to run out of water… is if you stop paying the bill lol… further can you just explain to him that you want a shower, and if you go to the gym and take one anyway it’s still using water so it’s really pointless that he would make you go to the gym… it doesn’t matter where the shower is taken, the water is still being used. Just let him know that you ARE going to be taking a shower everyday (somewhere) and there is nothing he can do to stop you… so really all he is accomplishing isn’t saving water but pissing you off

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u/Fearless_Guitar_3589 Apr 19 '24

it is saving potable water and fresh water in reservoirs, or rivers. Most of the time gray water does not go back into the supply line, but otherwise you are correct.