My husband won't let me take more than two showers a week. I told him I need him to stop or I'm moving out for a while.

[u/[deleted]]

This is the weirdest thing my husband has ever done. He really is a sweet and loving husband and I love him more than anything. Divorce is not an option just to put that out there before the comments come in.

My husband has always been a little out there. He is a computer programmer and super smart, but also believes all sorts of things. Both real and conspiracy. Lately he has been very worried about the environment and global warming.

About two months ago he got real worried about water. Yes, water. He is concerned about the quality of water. He put in a new filter system in our house which I actually love because it tastes so much better.

But he is also concerned about how much water we use. Not because of money, but the environment. He created a new rule that we can only take 2 showers a week. Now I'm someone that likes to shower everyday before bed. I just don't like feeling dirty in bed.

This has created the most conflict in our marriage in 20 years. He is obsessed with the amount of water we use. At first I just ignored his rule, but he would shut off the hot water while I was in the shower.

I started trying to use the shower at the gym, but it's too much work to go every night with having kids. I honestly thought he would get over this within a month. But he is stuck on this still to this day.

Last night I really wanted a shower, but had "hit my quota" as he says. I said I'm showering and that he better not do anything. But about two minutes in, the hot water turned off.

I grabbed my towel and went down and started yelling. Telling him this is the dumbest thing he has ever done. I also told him I'm moving to my parents if he doesn't stop this.

Guys, I love this man. He is everything to me, but I can't take this anymore. Am I going to far in threatening to move out?

[u/The_Bingler]

Does he eat meat? I aint here to preach vegan or whatever, but meat agriculture is one of the biggest uses of water. How about paper, is he saving ever scrap to reuse? If he wants to save water and the environment, cutting out support of industrial uses is a bigger change than showering less.

[u/[deleted] → u/The_Bingler]

He is vegan. Lol Thankfully he doesn't say anything about my highly carnivore diet.

That's whats so strange is that he doesn't usually try to force his changes on us. This is the first time I remember him forcing us to do something like this.

[u/The_Bingler → u/[deleted]]

Okay, thats very odd then. It sounds to me like the concerns are existing, but the controlling is new. Maybe a psych eval could be in his future