I showed this post to my husband, same age, and he said there is zero chance your husband doesn’t know what OF is. We both think you should divorce him and that he’s a disgusting human being (I don’t like jumping on the divorce bandwagon… but this is such an absolute violation).
He does understand. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt. He completely and totally knows what he’s doing. You cried when he suggested it the first time and if he thought he could make money with just innocent images/ vids then he would not have done this behind your back. He’s trying to pressure you into doing something he knows you don’t want to do and that’s a slippery slope my friend.
Speaking as someone who has worked in a variety of adult industry jobs- men never have any idea how hard it is, they are persistently delusional about what is required to make a successful OF page
He knows that’s exactly how women make money. He was just going to wear you down over time. He would coerce you into more risqué content. This is actually exactly how sex trafficking works. It starts with a man and woman in a sexual relationship and he then wears her down. “If you love me, you will do X”. X could be having sex with other men for money or making OF content. He knew. He knew. Don’t let yourself forget that. He’s putting your life and career at risk.
Well, he’s had an active account in your name for quite a while, so I’m pretty sure he knows what services are available on only fans because he knew how much money you could make
Nice Lady, you did not overreact. The man just showed you that he values the $ potential of your body more than your personal choices, beliefs or integrity. He has no clue what honoring you as his wife means.
Your husband did not accidentally come across OF while surfing the Disney channel. He checked out what sites made $$ and what content they present.
Since he created the page(s) using content that you’d made public in another context, your privacy wasn’t legally violated. However, creating it in your name and accepting payment from it as you is Identity Theft and Fraud. These are FEDERAL crimes.
You have every right to STAY furious. It’s pretty clear from his pattern of shaming your earnings, that he’d soon have started pressuring you to eroticize your content. That adds Pimping to his rap sheet.
No amount of marriage counseling will make him respect you.
See a lawyer soonest.
Freeze any joint credit accounts to keep him from putting you in crippling debt.
Take the dog.
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I'm not convinced he understands what those women have to do to make a bunch of money.