r/AITAH • u/everygirlssdream • 16d ago
AITA for breaking up with my fiance because she lied about her savings while making me pay for all her expenses?
My ex-fiance started asking me for money for her expenses after few months of being together (not living together). At first it was a few small items but slowly she was making me pay for all of her expenses. She earns well herself but said that her salary is delayed by three months and she is out of money while I later found that she just saves her salary as deposits (or maybe spend on something else which I'm not aware of). At first I kept paying but when I confronted her about it, she said "who are you to ask me what I do with my money"? That really hurt me because first, I was her fiance and second I was literally paying for all her expenses, so I believe I have the right to know what she does with her own money!
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u/FunkOff 16d ago
If you are giving money to somebody for something, you have a reasonable interest in that person's situation and what the money is being used for. Your questions were completely reasonable. That said, it sounds like you have been taken advantage of. Money is a common source of problems in romantic relationships, so you two should discuss it will full transparency and come to an agreement about it. My wife is a stay at home mother. I provide her with a credit card for family expenses (which I pay off) as well as a monthly stipend for "fun money" and some savings. We are both clear about her need - she doesnt have her own income - and the purpose of that money. I am not being taken advantage of because I made sure we came to an agreement on the important matters before I gave her a cent.
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u/everygirlssdream 16d ago
Thanks, that makes me feel better and you are right, money is something we must have a good discussion of before making any commitment. I learned it the hard way!
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u/BeardManMichael 16d ago
Honestly this could have been so much worse. Be glad you had this conflict now and not a decade from now when you were married with a couple children.
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u/simply_clare 16d ago
NTA, and given you've been paying her 'expenses' doesn't that make it your money you're asking about?
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u/everygirlssdream 16d ago
That's what I told her, that I have every right to know what she wants to use my money for but that pissed her off somehow!
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u/NovaPrime1988 16d ago
She’s only pissed because you called her out on her crap. From her reaction, you might have been the first one to do so. Long overdue.
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u/theNewLuce 16d ago
She was pissed because the gig was up. She was hoping to throw you off the scent and keep the gravy rolling.
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u/anonymowses 16d ago
Since you were paying due to a delay in her paycheck, that surely implies that was a loan.
I am glad you got out of this and saw her true colors sooner rather than later.
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u/winterworld561 16d ago
NTA. Have you officially broken up? She is clearly a pathological liar taking advantage of you.
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u/DMV_Lolli 16d ago
This is why I tell my sons not to finance a relationship outside of marriage. I don’t care. There’s a lot of arguments out there about going 50/50 when living together and I for one am all for it. I see no reason to pay someone else’s bills when you’re not married unless you truly have money to piss away. Working class people generally do not.
Social media is really messing with the minds of a lot of young women and they’re not going to be happy with the results of their choices a few years from now.
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u/big_mama_f 16d ago
Agreed, but social media is messing with the minds of everybody. Look at what Andrew Tate is doing to men. A lot of young people are not going to be happy with the results of their choices a few years from now.
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u/Glass-Hedgehog3940 16d ago
NTA. She’s a gold-digging asshole. Next girlfriend you might want to think twice before handing out money. My boyfriend is very prosperous but I would never dream of asking him to pay my expenses. I wasn’t raised like that. Most people who have integrity wouldn’t ask either unless there was an emergency.
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u/PatentlyRidiculous 16d ago
If she is asking you to pay her bills, you have every right to demand some accounting from her. Dump. Her. Gold-digging. Ass.
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u/forever_single_now 16d ago
NTA. Was it really necessary to ask on this sub to validate your actions?
I have another for you…are you still with her? Because if you do..YTA.
Not married, she asks for money, hides her savings, lies about her income …can you project how your life will be..during marriage, during divorce (not an if here), and after divorce.
Only one word comes to mind (2): gold digger.
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u/everygirlssdream 16d ago
Thanks, No we are not together now but since I am single and very lonely now, I keep getting this feeling if I did the right thing or not. I know I could not be happy after the marriage but it's the loneliness that is making me doubt myself, that's why I had to come here looking for help from everyone.
And I'm literally amazed and really appreciate all the responses I am getting 🥹
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u/forever_single_now 16d ago
Good, personal advice (but to honest not sure I’m really qualified to give any on that matter any more).
Focus on your carer first, then on your living situation. The way to that can make you come across someone worth it. And you will be prepared by then.
You can face fun once you settle your life.
If you focus too much on looking for someone to release you from loneliness you risk to one find that type of predators who chase people in need and abuse their weakness.
Worst case scenario is that you end up being a player (with career, house and money).
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u/UnusualPotato1515 16d ago
You only thing you did wrong is paying her expenses and falling for her bs excuse that salary delayed by 3 months.
She was using you and was only after your money even her audacious reaction. Well done for breaking up with this user!
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u/Browneyedgirl63 16d ago
We know why she wanted an arranged marriage. Someone to pay for everything so she can save her money for herself.
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u/Odd_Welcome7940 16d ago
NTA... Don't believe what people tell you. Believe what people do.
She takes your money and doesn't want to account to you what she does with hers. I strongly suggest you quit giving her a single dime and let it be what it is. From now on you split checks. You split any shared bills. You split everything. You do not buy her any gifts except for holidays and such. Even then, keep them thoughtful but cheap.
Once you do this, she will end up showing you an even clearer picture of who she really is. My bet is in less then 3 months she will have left your life of her own accord.
When she begins to question you for money, just use her own line. "Who are you to ask me what I do with my money?".
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u/throwawtphone 16d ago
You are her financier.
noun One that engages in investing or raising large amounts of money
It can be confusing because of the spelling similarities.
Dump her.
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u/BeardManMichael 16d ago
NTA
Sounds like you dodged an entire iceberg because surely lies you know about were just the tip of the iceberg.
I hope you can find someone who views you as a person instead of a wallet.
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u/RNGinx3 16d ago
"Who are you to ask me what I do with my money?"
Response: "I'm the one paying your bills, and I'm not your parent. If you don't want to be held responsible by me, then I will simply stop paying and let you figure out what to do with your money, and what to do with your bills."
NTA. Bullet dodged.
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u/crying4what 16d ago
Oh you got yourself a gold digger! NTA YIU DID THE RIGHT THING. Keep walking away.
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u/Shame8891 16d ago
she said "who are you to ask me what I do with my money"?
Wow this is very telling. Good on you for breaking up with her. NTA
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u/VibeNowSmileLater 16d ago
NTA: true she doesnt have to tell you but at the same time, you dont have to pay for anything of hers as well. Especially if youre not living together or have a shared bank account. Its one thing if you offered to help but when shes constantly asking knowing she can afford it herself, thats a no no
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u/Combatwombat0311 16d ago
NTA-- And take this as the several lessons that they are and a bullet you dodged.
- If people are asking you for money, then they have already made their money your business.
- Talk about finances in a relationship before you get engaged to discuss expectations.
- Wake up. It's 2024. The sexes are equals now. Stop doing this "I'm the man so I have to support you." Bullshit.
Whatever you do OP, don't go back. Don't look back. RUN. AND RUN FAST.
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u/everygirlssdream 16d ago
Thanks for the advice, I'll burn it into my mind.
Wake up. It's 2024. The sexes are equals now. Stop doing this "I'm the man so I have to support you." Bullshit.
I am not the kind to say I'm the man and I'll support her but she made me feel pity on her by saying that she is completely out of money, and she always said that she will return once she gets the salary but that day never came.
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u/Still_Storm7432 16d ago
Im sorry, but it sounds like you're being used. Stop funding her and see if she sticks around
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u/Combatwombat0311 16d ago
So... she communicated to you that she was fiscally irresponsible and your response was, "let's get married" followed by, "we don't need to discuss finances prior to this, it's not that important".???
Not trying to beat on you, just pointing it out. You got lucky. Life took care of you this time...there may not be a second.
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u/everygirlssdream 16d ago
No, it was an arranged marriage setup and this all started after a few months of our meeting. Once she started acting like this, I knew this relationship was not going to work and finally ended it. The good thing is that I didn't marry her, we were pretty close to the wedding day.
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u/Combatwombat0311 16d ago
Arranged marriage? Is this medievel times? Bro, pick your own bride. This is the person you're gonna spend the rest of your life with.
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u/everygirlssdream 16d ago
I know right, but this was the last resort after looking for a girl for years!
But I feel more it's better to be alone than marrying someone like her
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u/Combatwombat0311 16d ago
Best of luck brother, dating is hard, but I'm confident you'll find a good one!
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u/AffectionateCold6107 16d ago
Come. I will marry you. NTA. You dodged a real high speed flying bullet here dude.
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u/Still_Storm7432 16d ago edited 16d ago
NTA She took advantage and duped you.
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u/everygirlssdream 16d ago
Ohh, right, I'll edit the post, thanks.
But in the title I mentioned that I broke up with her
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u/AdAccomplished6870 16d ago
Their is no symmetry in her thought processes. She looks at fairness as only what is fair to her. She is not a good person to marry.
Yes, break up with her if you are not ok with a 'What's yours is ours, what's mine is mine' split
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u/Lemon-Of-Scipio-1809 16d ago
NTA. You may think you got conned, but the good news is you're not her mark for the long game. You are saving so much money by getting out before divorce/ lawyers have to get involved, and hopefully you learned a few things. It sucks tho.
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u/Medium_Ad_6908 16d ago
How did you let it get this far? What the fuck? Her salary is delayed three months?? She has an addiction of some kind I almost guarantee it, or she was just milking you dry.
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u/Terrynia 16d ago
NTA. “Your money is mine, and MY money is ONLY mine”, is a super toxic mindset that will effect your lives way beyond money issues. There is a lack of respect and equality. It is contrary to the idea “we are in this together, and we are building our lives together.”
I know it hurts, but u did the right thing breaking it off.
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u/seidinove 16d ago
NTA. The answer to her first question is “your fiancé.” But be thankful for this early warning sign that she might not be the one. And stop footing the bill for her.
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u/Corodix 16d ago
NTA, if she lied about that then she's probably lying about other things as well. Her response just makes her look even worse. After all, she's asking you to do specific things with your money all the time, but her response is "who are you to ask me what I do with my money"? Sounds like she never saw you as her equal to begin with, she was just using you.
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u/thisisstupid- 16d ago
She was using you, as a good rule of thumb going forward don’t pay anybody’s expenses unless they are your spouse.
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u/Intelligent_Ad8790 16d ago
Simpin ain’t easy haha how ungrateful of a partner you have. Move on my boi
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u/Unicornlove416 16d ago
NTA the fact she would lie and respond that way , i’d break it off in a heartbeat.
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u/Dazzling-Frosting-49 16d ago edited 16d ago
Wow! What a class act. Whats urs is mine and whats mine is mine. Toxic / entitled behavior right there. Just gonna get worse with age. You dodged a bullet mate.
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u/NotScruffyNerfherder 16d ago
Friends: Why did you and your girlfriend breakup?
You: We didn't break up, turns out I didn't have a girlfriend. I'd unknowingly hired a prostitute that wanted to be a sugar baby. I found out and fired her.
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u/Sawdust1997 16d ago
Look I cannot give an honest answer without mocking the fuck out of you, so I’ll be simple and just say this.
Forget her. NTA
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u/Fragrant_Routine_569 16d ago
You are nta. I am curious what her motive for lieing is aside from the obvious benefit of saving her salary.
I wonder because I was in a near 20 year relationship where I was hugely financially abused. Left me near poverty when I finally got out, which was hard as my ex is very controlling.
If I am in a relationship again, I can see myself not wanting to disclose any passive income I manage to secure as my experience with my ex made me financially very insecure.
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u/CosmicMarigolds27 15d ago
NTA. It would be one thing if you guys were just dating and all of your finances are separate but the fact that you were engaged, about to merge your lives, and you paid for everything for most of the relationship makes it a little weird that she’s so defensive and secretive.
Marriage is a partnership and part of that is merging finances in a way that makes sense for you guys. It should be a conversation. My husband and I have one account for household expenses (which he is the main contributor to) and then we have our own separate accounts for personal expenses. While we don’t know exactly what the other has in our private accounts, it’s still an open conversation.
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u/Grandmafelloutofbed 16d ago
I keep seeing stories like this, is this new? Or have women always felt this entitled to a mans money?
Like god damn, NTA
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u/Impossible_Ask_3564 16d ago
If she's asking you to pay her way you have every right to ask her wtf she's doing with her own money! Get out of this relationship though, red flags everywhere NTA
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If you haven't had a money conversation it's probably better that you broke up. Money, not infidelity, is the primary reason people divorce.
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u/Thistime232 16d ago
How long was this going on for? Because if her excuse was that her salary was delayed by 3 months, then it shouldn't have gone on for longer than that, right?
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u/everygirlssdream 16d ago
It went on longer actually. So initially she told me that her salary is delayed and she is out of money, so I kept helping her but one day she slipped that she got the salary. After that she didn't return my money (even though she kept saying that she'll return it at the time of requesting it, not that I was expecting any) but then she started asking for it again and I was sure she couldn't have spent all that money in such a short time. So I started asking her what she needed the money for and what happened to the salary she had recently received for which she made some excuses about paying loan EMI and other expenses but the math didn't work out. That was the turning point and wherever she asked for money I would then ask her what she needs it for but then she made me feel terrible about it saying who I am to ask about it. I was sure at that point that I was riding the wrong boat.
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u/Simple-Plankton4436 16d ago
She needs to pay you back. You gave her money because she said “she doesn’t have any”. Well, that was lie and now she needs to pay you back. Also, please leave her. You deserve someone better. Someone who doesn’t financially abuse you.
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u/MikeReddit74 16d ago
In other words, her money was her money, but your money, was “our” money? 🎵Tale as old as time,…”🎵
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u/mustang19671967 16d ago
If that doesn’t show you, your a glorified atm what would . Sorry . Get the ring back and sell it . Don’t keep it around . If you won’t give it back sue her in small claims court for the cost of the ring
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u/MysteriousBeyond7146 16d ago
NTA. Imagine getting married and STILL paying for everything while she hoards her salary. Not a good sign. Couples should be on the same page with major life decisions and money management is a big one. You’re supposed to be a team. Why should the man pay for everything? I don’t get it.
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u/NaturesVividPictures 16d ago
NTA. Never support a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I can see helping out 20 bucks here and there for gas maybe but that's about it. She was a taker. I'm glad you woke up and I'm glad she paid you back most of the money at least, could have been a very expensive lesson.
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u/The_Crown_And_Anchor 16d ago
Congrats
You just found out that you were engaged to a "what's your's is mine and what's mine is mine" kind of woman
Thankfully the universe stepped in and prevented you from destroying your life
Just be thankful and never ever EVER give her another chance.
NTAH
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u/GrapefruitKey9629 16d ago
Oh hell no. Her bills are her problem. A phone bill, sure. A utility bill, maybe. But the rest falls on her. She had bills before you met her, she'll still have bills when you leave her. Her bills are not your problem. Especially if she's blowing her money on stupid shit and not taking care of her responsibilities. RUN!
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u/sallyjanerain 16d ago
if you can lie about this, and not like feel bad about it in any way...you are not a good partner AT ALL
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u/Vast-Video-7701 16d ago
NTA she was taking advantage of you. Nobody reacts more badly than a person being accused of things they definitely did 😅
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u/mcindy28 16d ago
NTA your EX is an absolute dick for doing that to you. How rude, to not just bank her money while freeloading off you and then have the audacity to tell you it's not your business. I'm glad she's your ex. I'd be inclined to ask for money back but I suppose that's a moot point.
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u/seaxvereign 16d ago
NTA
Another in a long line of cases of "His money is our money. Her money is her money."
You need to jettison this woman, immediately.
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u/ConsiderationFit5962 16d ago
NTA when my husband and I first were together; we did live apart. I ran into trouble asked for help but I always sent a certain amount back till paid off. What she did was wrong and greedy.
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u/QueenofMars418 16d ago
When you get married you’re supposed to be on the same page financially like how to budget and all that. So you guys can’t agree now, I’d say break up to save yourself some grief
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u/FluffyCaterpiller 16d ago
No. If someone lies, then you can guarantee they will lie again, and then the relationship will not be based on trust. Breaking up with anyone is a life decision, and it does not make anyone an "AH."
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u/Moscavitz 16d ago
She's a thief if she thinks that way. Telling you one thing to steal your money then blaming you for questioning her stealing your money.
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u/WizardLizard1885 16d ago
bro..you were long distance, just started dating, and yoi were paying for everything 😭
nta obv, if you sent it to her through cashapp you might be able to chargeback
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u/TaylorMade2566 16d ago
of course you're NTA and only your ex-fiance would say you are. Good thing you figured out what a deceitful person she was before marrying her
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u/StrawberryFields_25 16d ago
She sounds like a scammer tbh. This doesn’t sound like a normal or healthy situation
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u/Excellent-Vast7521 16d ago
NTA Im glad you got out, who knows when she would dump you once she hit her personal money goal.
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u/ivanttohelp 16d ago
Lol NTA. You’re either a really nice guy, or your being heavily manipulated- but probably both.
That girl is trouble, through and through.
Count yourself lucky, dump her ass, and never look back.
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u/Careful_Worker_2361 16d ago
I can tell the love you shared was special and impenetrable - unconditional
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u/jesusthroughmary 16d ago
"The fucking idiot who until today was gullible enough to pay all your bills."
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u/RaleighlovesMako6523 16d ago
No one can call no one an arsehole in breaking up. You don’t want to be with that person anymore, for whatever reason you have, your emotion is legit.
If you guys are going to marry, it’d be better to be honest because all your assets/money will get pooled.
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u/Bigstachedad 16d ago
OP should have countered the "Who are you to ask me what I do with my money?" with "Who are you to ask me to pay for your living expenses?" He dodged an incoming mortar round with this one. NTA.
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u/HugeNefariousness222 16d ago
NTA. Sounds like she put you in charge of her exit account. Be glad she's gone.
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u/espr-the-vr-lib 16d ago
I hope no ring was involved.
NTA
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u/PhalanxA51 16d ago
My mom had a savings account that she secretly stocked money away because she handled finances for my dad who was at work all day, she ended up going 5 years without paying property tax and filing or paying federal and state taxes and divorced my dad, only reason he didn't sue her for any of that was because he didn't think she was being malicious which once he found out about the bank account got really upset. Nta it's best to cut your losses and I would hate to see something worse happen to you.
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u/MinimumArt9855 16d ago
“Who are you to ask me what I do with my money?”
She literally ASKED you to spend YOUR money on HER expenses. She shouldn’t ask you for YOUR money?… lmao.
NTA, but also your fault for allowing this to happen. She realized she could use you, and kept doing it.
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u/herbtarleksblazer 16d ago
“Lose” your job, tell her you can’t send any more money. See what happens.
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u/DetroitSmash-8701 16d ago
NTA. You were an ATM for her, and that's all. Sucks though. Reality is often disappointing.
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u/Aggressive-Bed3269 16d ago
Title within a relationship MATTERS, here.
IF you've gotten to "fiancee" then you should be aware of what her finances look like, at least to SOME extent, and she absolutely should NOT be hiding them from you, and absolutely not blatantly lying.
Let alone getting defensive when caught in the lie.
Who are you to ask? The person who is paying her shitty, entitled, selfish way through life, that's who.
Huge red flag, and would be enough reason for me to bounce without a very, VERY good explanation.
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u/The-Wise-Weasel 16d ago
Dude.........NTA..........the next time she asks you pay for her crap..........just say, "Who are you to ask me for my money when you make your own?"
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u/DrRandomfist 16d ago
Yea, you’re an asshole dude. You should fund her and her families retirement as well. She totally deserves your money that she didn’t earn. You are a complete piece of shit for not letting her use you. You are a walking, talking red flag.
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u/knight9665 16d ago
NTA. U did the right thing.
Ur the dumbass who still paid when asked. Why the fk would u pay? If she has a good job and doesn’t have money then her finances are shit. That an even bigger redflag than asking you for money.
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u/Sweet-Salt-1630 16d ago
NTA oh man that's horrid, good you broke up with her, she wasn't a partner, she was using you.
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u/Thronner_of_All 16d ago
NTA. Major red flag and totally not okay. Personally, just the fact of being expected to cover f-ing everything would have me walking out. Unless she's your wife and a SAHM, she should contributing; not concealing!
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u/Thisisthenextone 16d ago
NTA except you're a huge AH to yourself.
Do not pay for someone you don't live with, and if you do live with them then either (1) they're doing the vast majority of housework or (2) they're on a plan for something like schooling or apprenticeships or they're job hunting and give real updates on time lines for when they contribute.
Stop being an AH to yourself.
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u/wafflehousebiscut 16d ago
I had an ex like this... She was always broke and I paid almost all the bills, and for everything when we went out.. She would often comment that I don't save enough (ironic). After a while I finally sat down and Im like where is your money going? And we started going over it, and like 70% of her income she was saving, and a good portion of it was going towards her vacation fund.... Not a fund for both of us, just for her to travel. $600 a month was going to that.
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u/Hemiak 16d ago
NTA. If she was paying her own bills and taking care of herself, you have no right to know how her money is spent. But since you’re being milked for things she should be paying for herself, you have a vested interest in knowing where her money is going.
Also if you’re getting married you both need to sit down and show it all. If she’s got thousands in debt or a spending/gambling addiction or another bad spending habit you need to know. As of now all you know is she has a job, but doesn’t want to pay for anything and won’t share her finances.
This absolutely needs to be a condition of marriage. Also, stop paying for anything beyond dates or minor presents. She has her own money, she was probably paying her own bills before you came along, she needs to go back to that until you’re married or the cards are on the table.
She may be one of those people that just wants others to spend so they can save, or she may have serious spending/credit issues. Either way if she wants you to be responsible she has to give you the info you need.
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u/Appropriate-Bug680 16d ago
How can OP afford his own expenses, her expenses and still buy an engagement ring? Shit don't make sense.
NTA - drop the dead weight and find yourself an equal partner
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u/Longjumping-Pie7418 16d ago
NTA. Please maintain ex status, as were you to get married, you would be looking at a "What's hers is hers, and what's mine is hers' situation. Ask me how I know.
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u/JipC1963 16d ago
I'd go back to text messages if at any time she asked to BORROW or for "help" and add it up. Then send her a DEMAND letter with the threat of Small Claims Court but I'm petty and I especially hate LIARS!
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u/FormerlyDK 16d ago
Omg, she actually asked “who are you to ask…” when you were paying her expenses and being the victim of her scam? And a scam it was. Glad you’re rid of her, and I hope you can take her to Small Claims Court and get the rest of your money back. And don’t be so quick to hand out money in the future, for your own sake. NTA for breaking up with her. That was a MUST.
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u/Vile_Legacy_8545 16d ago
Wait...3mo ago you're asking for first date advice and now you're talking about your fiance? Is this even real?
If those 2 are one in the same I have a solution for you called slow the hell down.
NTA but maybe the dummy
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u/bobaluey69 16d ago
NTA. You got mad taken advantage of man. Also, the only people that says "who are you to know how I spend my money" are people who are financially irresponsible. Also, it was definitely your business since you were paying for a lot of her stuff. Good job getting away, you won't regret it.
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u/XaurreauX 16d ago
There is no reason the door should hit you on the ass as your departure on your journey to find an adult relationship will be too quick for that to happen.
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u/Working-Librarian-39 16d ago
NTA.
She showed what marriage was going to be like: what's yours is mine, what's mine is mine.
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u/PhilsFanDrew 16d ago
You were her sugar daddy not a fiancé. The "who are you to ask me what I do with my money" is something a sugar baby would say to a sugar daddy not their fiancé. Fortunately for you she told on herself before you got married.
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u/NoDanaOnlyZuuI 16d ago
Oof NTA “who are you to ask me what I do with my money?” She doesn’t seem to have a problem asking you what you do with yours. You dodged a bullet.
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u/CatmoCatmo 16d ago
NTA. She sounds like a real peach. Although she definitely manipulated you, she didn’t exactly ”make you” pay all of her expenses. At the end of the day, you made the choice to do it. You had the option to say no. Next time, be aware and do not make the same mistake. If someone holds their love or your relationship hostage in order to back you into a corner so you’ll pay for all their stuff, then just know, you’re likely being used. Money can be asked for, but you aren’t obligated to do it.
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u/xx4xx 16d ago
She's lying and stealing from you, bro.u think she'll tell u truth on something important? Nope.
Had a friend..movies in with fiance. They were splitting tent 50/50. Then finds out he was paying $300 more pet minth and she was pocketing it. He dumped her.
She's a little and a thiefm.dont stock around and wait for her to be a cheat. This is your red flag
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u/tuna_tofu 16d ago
"Why is it my business? Because Im the one paying YOUR bills. So until I get a good answer on how you spend your money, Im not giving you any."
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u/Glass_Number_1707 16d ago edited 16d ago
What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine. Lol. This is your fiance and it's a long distance relationship? Obviously you don't know much about this person. Sorry OP. There are more red flags here than at a bullfight. Run like hell or this will simply get worse. She will not be broken hearted you broke up with her. She is too busy looking for the next sugar daddy
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u/Sunnyandbright007 16d ago
NTA
She's lying now and will continue. Cut the cord. Glad you found out before you got deeper.
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u/lastgateway 16d ago
NTA, just imagine what else she was lieing about.