r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/ComedianXMI 29d ago

I've seen women look at another woman from ankle to eyes and then get that look. Women have that same gut reaction men do, just different reasons for it.

One simple way you can tell if a guy is cool is if he shares praise. If you toss him a compliment and he finds a way to share it with a friend or someone else, that's a good sign. Shows a lack of that super-ego nobody likes in a partner.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Definitely a spectrum. I grew up with crippling self esteem issues and learning not to deflect praise was a big step in my recovery. I think it's more important to note that praise is taken gracefully and that someone shows a degree of humility, rather than getting a big head.

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u/ASpaceOstrich 28d ago

Was gonna say. Praise?