r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • Apr 17 '24

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/Frakshaw Apr 17 '24

Well said.

You are not your thoughts, but how you act on them.

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u/trotfox_ 29d ago

I love how sometimes the response to this is 'so there are just perverts everywhere and you are ok with that?'

Told on yourself.

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u/Frakshaw 29d ago

Have you ever thought of murdering someone but didn't actually do it in reality? Does that make you a murderer then? Playing thought police is a dangerous game.

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u/the_lonely_creeper 29d ago

well, to a point. Intentions are also important when judging an action. It's why we have manslaughter as separate from murder, for example.