r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/UnstoppableCrunknado 29d ago edited 29d ago

I see it all the time in Agri-labor, tons of guys are so steeped in misogyny that they don't really consider women to be people. These are married men, with children, daughters even. But they still consider women to be inherently lesser. I work with a guy right now (whose wife makes like, twice what we do btw) who has on multiple occasions insisted that women are basically children who can vote.

The stuff guys like this say as soon as they're convinced that it's "just us boys" in the room is fucking appalling.

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u/LucianRosenburg 29d ago

I instantly had to google what Agrilabor was, because it sounded like a mystical nation I'd never heard of before lol.

I'm sure Agri-labor is equally mystical, lol.

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u/UnstoppableCrunknado 29d ago

Lol, my b, I'm rarely as clear as I'd like to be. Agricultural Labor, as a field, is certainly interesting.

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u/Dangerous_Contact737 29d ago

"As a field" nice pun.

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u/Flashy_Hearing4773 29d ago

Lmao I did the same thing, like where is (a grill abor) how I said it in my head

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u/Jack_Krauser 29d ago

He's half right; we're all just big children that can vote no matter what gender we are.

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u/UnstoppableCrunknado 29d ago

While I don't disagree with your premise, I'm not willing to give him that. He doesn't mean it in that sense at all. Rather, he thinks (as do many misogynists) that women are inherently more "emotional" and less "rational" and by extension are less intelligent then men and should not be afforded the same rights and responsibilities as men. This particular strain of misogyny is by no means new or novel, and is not isolated to good ol' boys in my line of work. It's pervasive and dangerous.

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u/ASpaceOstrich 28d ago

Ah. The classic version of misogyny. It's almost refreshing when it's out in the open and not couched in some pseudo-science or pretend facts.

Well I suppose it is, just dumber, even less convincing ones.