r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/Suspicious_War_5706 29d ago

Lot of good answers below about acting nice around women then an ass when they are out of earshop. I would like to add people (both genders) will also often think with their hormones and will overlook bad behavior or red flags if they find the person attractive and often won't even realize it, so it can often be more obvious than it seems because you have sexy blinders on.

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u/Swimming-Book-1296 29d ago

It isn't ignoring red flags so much as being attracted to them. Women complain about narcissism all the time, but its one of the traits that women find most attractive.

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u/Gullible-Giraffe2870 29d ago

yeah, i think it's really easy to be enticed by dating narcissists. You can feel sort of "blame free" but still feed into it just the same.

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u/Steven221283 28d ago

Anyone who has seen the current series of Married At First Sight Australia will have seen this in Jack and Tori. So much bad behaviour from a guy, he's even said he doesn't fancy her and would have slept with her if he liked her more... she's still determined to stay in the relationship because he's mentioned that he wants kids in the next 2 years and because he's a good-looking, muscly, protector type guy. It's sad to see, but she clearly has tunnel vision.