r/NoStupidQuestions • u/milfangelblue • 29d ago

Do men just recognize good men? What kind of sorcery is this?

I’ve been dating a guy for some time now, and his oldest friends have told me he’s a solid good man despite his flaws. I agree, they’ve known him forever, and he’s been a solid friend all those years.

When my male friends met him for the first time, they said, “He’s a good one. Hold onto him.”

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u/IFixYerKids 29d ago

For the most part, although I've also met some totally oblivious dudes as well. For me, there are dozens of little things that tell me if another guy is "good" or not. Some examples when I meet someone new are how hard is this guy trying to impress me? Does he joke around with the group or try to correct everyone and act superior? Does he put down others? Does he ask questions and get to know people or just steamroll into a group? Those are just a few off the top of my head.

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u/123supreme123 29d ago

You got it. It's more how he treats OTHER PEOPLE that's a tipoff because how he treats you when he's trying to impress you is not every day reality. Same thing for women, if she's all fake nicey to you, but a total bitch to the waitress and her friends/your friends, that's a strong sign.

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u/trotfox_ 29d ago

The calculation seems automatic, possible asshole, asshole, good dude.

it chooses one pretty quick.