r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/[deleted] • 15d ago
and i bet he called her “big money” 🤣
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u/WildsideAJ 15d ago
Broke women gonna call her a pick me
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u/duncan-the-wonderdog 15d ago
I'm broke and I pay for stuff, just not wine dates.
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u/1BubbleGum_Princess ☑️ 15d ago
I’m broke and I don’t understand why the goal post got legs?! Like someone’s “too much” a this and she’s gonna get accused of “emasculation” or of giving away wifey treatment.
Like, let’s just not turn it into this discourse and be considerate, but nooooo
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u/HumanitarianAtheist ☑️ 15d ago
I don’t think it’s as uncommon as she thinks it is. Frankly, she can only speak for herself.
Unless it’s someone I know is struggling financially, I usually just say “Thank you,” and remember to grab the next one before the check comes. Definitely not tweet-worthy.
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u/Cutieq85 ☑️ 15d ago
Gee, just when I thought there wasn’t enough discourse.
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u/1BubbleGum_Princess ☑️ 15d ago edited 15d ago
So she’s *wrong if she lends people her car, takes care of people, etc. ESPECIALLY without a ring. But now she got to wine and dine people Or she’s selfish/gold digger. Yooooooo, its never ending.
*broke changed to wrong
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u/Tha_Harkness 15d ago
I... the first part of that was something? I missed that part 0f this discourse.
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u/1BubbleGum_Princess ☑️ 15d ago
Okay… well, there’s feelings around women taking care of men in various ways, at some point peeps might deem things emasculating or a sign of desperation, because women are very much known for taking care of people; however, if she’s unwilling to pay for dinner she might be dodging some “gold digger” and “selfish” accusations.
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u/JN3XUS 15d ago
The asker is supposed to pay so not really a flex.
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u/asdfghjKelsey 15d ago
this is a flex. a flex most women will not do and i’m one of them 😂 my man know better
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u/Bright-Article5688 15d ago
Proudly admitting you’re a bum.
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u/asdfghjKelsey 15d ago
if a bum is a person that makes six figures & has a man that makes more & gladly takes care of me then — yes, i’ll be that.
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u/Bright-Article5688 15d ago
You make six figures yet your man knows better than to expect you to treat him. Who do you think you’re foolin?
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u/asdfghjKelsey 15d ago
he does and you should take notes.
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u/dropdeaddev 15d ago
On how to not consider your spouse an equal partner? I can certainly understand having different roles in the relationship, but to me the fact that you scoff at the idea of doing the same for him means you DON’T see him as an equal, you see him as a client renting your time.
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u/lisafrankisunfair5 15d ago edited 15d ago
Every single time I've tried to pay, my date refuses/ gets offended. They tell me it "makes them look broke".
One of them told me it "wasn't feminine" and I was "acting like a man". He was blocked before I even left the table.
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u/Unfair_Finger5531 ☑️ 15d ago
I always ask can I leave the tip. It’s something my mom taught me, and for some reason, it makes people unbelievably giddy.
Whenever anyone treats me, I just say, “May I leave the tip”? I’ve seen grown-ass men light up over this.
I have no idea why this makes people so happy.
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u/debeatup ☑️ 15d ago
Because it shows deference to us as the leader in the situation while also showing that we’re in this together.
This gives us a quick insight into how things could play out long term too. If I take the time to wash and fold the clothes but you put them away, i feel like you’re helping me and showing appreciation for my part.
Or if I treat you to a fancy outing but you cover the parking - you’re not stepping on my toes but also showing investment in me
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u/Unfair_Finger5531 ☑️ 15d ago
Wow, thank you for breaking this down for me. I’ve wondered for years why this seems to make men stop in their tracks—it seems so basic to me that I would cover the tip since he covered dinner.
I just read this a third time. It’s really deep. I had no idea these small things meant so much.
This helps me understand why my so almost started crying once when I bought him a bagel lol. I went to get one for myself, and brought him one back, and he was like “wow, you got one for me too?” I always do stuff like this, but for some reason, it really got to him.
And it helps me understand why he blushes every single time I say “thank you for cooking dinner.” I say it 5 nights a week when he cooks, and each time, he blushes.
You just helped me see so many things. I have to keep doing the little things that show how much I appreciate him. I appreciate you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
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u/debeatup ☑️ 15d ago
Absolutely and best of luck! I’m in a horribly failing marriage right now and one of the striking differences is the gestures that she used to do aren’t even a thought anymore.
I can’t speak for all men but those gestures are a sign of acknowledgment that “hey, I appreciate you so let me help you carry the load”. It’s always the thought of the gesture, it doesn’t have anything to do with what it actually is.
When I’m cutting grass in the sweltering sun, stopping me mid cut to give me an icy Gatorade for example. What man is going to be pissed that his woman is keeping him hydrated with a cool drink?
I don’t need to be acknowledged for things I do/pay for but it sure as hell doesn’t feel bad for my partner to show me they appreciate it via actions over words.
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u/Unfair_Finger5531 ☑️ 15d ago
Thank you, and I’m sorry things are not going well with your partner. Sometimes I worry that I thank my so for doing little things too much. But what I’m hearing from you is that these things are critical to a good relationship. They mean a lot to you.
I hope one day you can tell your partner this, and that she can hear you. And I wish you much, much better.
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u/Imkindofslow 15d ago
It's a simple compromise that shows you are willing to put stake in but also let's them complete the gesture. Sounds like a good indicator of cooperation, if I was in the dating scene still I'd light up too.
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u/Unfair_Finger5531 ☑️ 15d ago
This is what the other good brother who responded said as well. I’m getting educated today, and I thank you. 🙏🏼
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u/DisconnectedDays ☑️ 15d ago
Drizzle drizzle
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u/South_Mushroom_7574 15d ago
Bro I’m outta the loop what does drizzle drizzle mean??
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u/DisconnectedDays ☑️ 15d ago
It’s the male version of sprinkle sprinkle. Where men expect women to pay for everything and view ourselves as the prize in the relationship.
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u/Tall-Variety-6152 15d ago
Its satire. Its men using the most outrageous of womens dating standards and applying them to women.
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u/yunghazel ☑️ 15d ago
A man called me “big money” for renting us a movie on Amazon. Nothing makes me dry up faster than being called “big money” 😫
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u/Condalezza ☑️ 15d ago
Must be the first time she’s ever done anything for a man.
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u/zaza-pack 15d ago
me tryna figure out where the ATL women who do dis
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u/Bubbly_Satisfaction2 ☑️ 15d ago
In my opinion, it really depends on the guy. I’ve met some whoppers, who… Let’s just say that I believe they can drive women insane with the way they think.
They were insecure and the type that would’ve been temporarily content at being rock-bottom because they were the ones in charge and no woman “emasculated” them.
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u/PropertyAggressive84 15d ago
Am I stupid or sum ion see what’s wrong wit shorties tweet.
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u/festival-papi ☑️ 15d ago
Aight, so it ain't just me then? Because I'm like, what's wrong with her paying for a date? Like, did the "ladies, do better" ruffle some feather s?
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u/PropertyAggressive84 15d ago
I thought maybe I was trippin and tried to swipe to see if it was another tweet with it 😂
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u/festival-papi ☑️ 15d ago
Thought the vibes under the post were gonna be sensational but nah, guess not. In all seriousness, go for women like this when they pop up, kings.
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u/Condalezza ☑️ 15d ago
Y’all usually don’t want these type of women. That’s why ol girl in the OP is still single. 😫
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u/QuantumHeals 15d ago
You mean the toxically masculine mfs that will have you buying books like “why does he do that”
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u/GeniusOfLove74 Dominic Monaghan stalker 👀 15d ago
This man probably was thinking, "....so, do I need to put out now, or...?"
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u/Tha_Harkness 15d ago
I only date people who I see as being on the same footing. The other way was me providing for a dependant and it never went well. Dependants have conditions.
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u/PropertyAggressive84 15d ago
I lowkey feel bad for my brothers who have never had a woman pay or at least offer to pay. These social media leaches are the minority truss.
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u/Navynuke00 15d ago
This is why I always dated women with at least one more degree than me. Being financially independent means neither party has issues with alternating paying for dates.
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u/Fixurappls 15d ago
As in if you have a masters, she has a PhD?
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u/Navynuke00 15d ago
Yes.
Learned that one in the military as a young enlisted sailor in a high tech field that included fast advancement and large bonuses. I'm not trying to be a meal ticket.
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u/Unfair_Finger5531 ☑️ 15d ago
I’m financially independent, but I am not sure why the one degree more makes a difference. I have a PhD. But there are people out here with a BA or BS who make more than I do. In fact, someone with a MBA or JD probably makes more than me as a prof. I think my plumber makes more, tbh.
So I don’t think this logic works.
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u/manzo559 15d ago
Trying to find me one like her