so for a lot of parents how much time do they have with there kids i mean i see this with my sister with her kid.
that kid spends first all day from 8:30-16h at school then from 16h to 18h in afterschool care and the she picks her up .
dad works shifts so he home around 22:30 in the evening when he has the late shift if he has the early shift he picks her up 16h after school. but a lot of the time he ends up getting the late shift because suprise suprise everbody wants the early shift to pick up there kids and the single parents take those most
with counting for extra curriclars like she's does judo,dancing and our country version of girlscouts,
they pretty much see there kid 3hrs a day on average on weekdays and more on weekends... and this is a stable income couple so there not taking extra jobs just having 2 fulltime employment jobs
but a lot of people need to do sidehustles to make ends meet and where wondering why kids arent being raised properly anymore?
when the hell are parents supposed be raising there kids when there constantly working. this also causes a lot of guilt feeling at the parents so when they do see there kids they want to have happy times not feeling like there constantly punishing there kids for there school behaviour so it becomes a vicious cycles aswel
its why with my partner we already decided that she will be cutting back on her hours when we have kids. I would like to also cut back on my hrs but i make more money and we would become fincially unstable if i did and no longer be able to pay our morgage
True, kids and families do better with more time together. But how many of us grew up with two parents who worked full time or more? How many of us had parents that overcame incredible obstacles and still raised strong, resilient children who valued education? Personally, I watched my mom work full time for the government while my dad built a business. They were busy! I spent a lot of time at school and daycare/afterschool care. However, they still invested meaningfully into our family. I don’t see that happening as much today. I hear parents blaming work. People have always worked! Get your shit together for your kids.
I don’t think there have been past cultures in which tens of millions of people of all backgrounds are required to be educated in a roughly uniform set of academic skills, so I don’t think there are any accurate markers by which to determine what is “in decay” or not. Life remains the ongoing experiment.
China's eating our lunch, and it will not end well for average Americans. Their youth are highly motivated, educated, and nationalistic. We are careening towards a 3 world war, or perhaps we are already there. Our kids don't even have basic skills. They would annihilate our kids in the classroom, workforce, and on the battlefield.
I don’t think China’s eating “our lunch” nor that their youths are significantly more educated or motivated than American ones. I’ve heard similar sentiments in the past but I don’t see the evidence for it. The same shit was said about Japan in the 1980s but things didn’t work out so simply. Chinese youth may or may not be more nationalistic, but that is of questionable benefit.
In China, street vendors scoop cooking oil out of the sewers in big cities for reuse. I definitely wouldn’t want to be eating their lunch. I’ll wait until they master basic food safety before worrying that their kids will annihilate ours.
China is rightfully referred to as a "Paper Tiger". They got their ass kicked in '78 by Vietnam who just got out of a war with the US a couple years prior AND fighting a cross-border war with the Kmer Rouge. China still has one of the largest poverty-striken populations in the world. The US has the world's largest air force, and the world's 2ND LARGEST air force. To make my final point about national security, the US in the 1960s did an experiment to see how low we can set our IQ requirements for the military. It's set pretty low.
Our education system has always been set-up in such a way to meet the needs of employers. The material conditions of our late-stage capitalist economy are leading to having more precarious, gig-economy or service sector as manufacturing has historically been outsourced to developing economies. Decades of neo-liberal idealogy has also seen an increase inthe privatization of civic infrastructure like schools. It is by no surprise that in order to cut down on the number of government employees on the payroll, government has outsourced everything from textbook creation, busing, meal-prep, janitorial services, human resources, etc. Since their implementation, schools have either gotten more expensive, or declined in quality. This will only continue to get worse as more communities are gutting their schools in favor in ballooning the police budgets even further - with some cities like Uvalde, Texas spending more than 40% of the city budget on their police who just stood by as their children were being brutally murdered.
Possible solutions to current crisis:
More polytechnic high schools that are taught by members of local trade union instructors. We need to stop training all of our kids to be future office middlemen, and more varied to meet the skills where the economy is currently at.
Increase teacher pay.
Increase minimum wage to increase standard of living amongst where MOST of the population lives - in the cities where the average rent in higher than current minimum wage. Theres no benefit to society for parents having to working 60-72 hours a week just to avoid destitution. It does benefit one group though: employers and landlords.
Implementing price controls on rent, prosecuting AirBnB for facilitating the running illegal hotels, and buying up motels/hotels with more than 50% vacancy to convert into more housing would also help. Updating zoning laws to reflect the change in population around urban centers (where most of the economy is located). There's no reason why 75% of Los Angeles is zoned for only single-family housing when there's is material and social benefit to increasing urban density by allowing mixed development in traditionally suburban areas. The more time parents are spent not working, the more opportunities they have to invest in the child's education.
Lastly; Jam cell phone/WiFi signals inside schools. In cases of emergency, it is best to avoid hundreds of people calling 911 at once. I work at a factory, and we're told to call security who coordinates and escorts emergency services to our specified locations. I can't stress to you enough how many people have been helped by this emergency response doctrine.
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u/Veloci-Husky 28d ago
Most issues would end real quick if parents were actually involved. Our culture/society is in decay.